interracial/ intercultural couples: what are some of the challenges you have faced raising kids?

Answer 1

Our son is 2 1/2 right now and I am in a white/mexican marriage. I don't know that we've had challenges persay but we struggle with when/how to expose our son to my husband's mexican heritage. i myself am mostly "mutt" with no strong heritage I was brought up with so I very much encourage the teaching of my husband's heritage to our children through music, dance, food, etc.

We haven't faced much adversity in our relationship or with our mixed child... I figure one day we may but I hope as people become more tolerant that his worst dilemma will be which race/ethnicity to check for standardized testing!

Answer 2

I guess in general lots of more racial prejudice. That's kind of obvious, I guess, but that's the worst problem I've had when I've been in interracial relationships. Actually my parents even opposed to me dating a mid. east guy which was sort of a disappointment as I've always thought of them as very open-minded in general. People saying it's "wrong" and "unnatural" aren't as unusual as you would like to think. My sister has a child with a non-caucasian male and has gotten to hear more than enough crap about it. I actually broke up with my current bf because he was such an *** about my nephew when he was born. When my sister and her child lived in Spain she put him in an international kindergarten to avoid him being bullied for being half-scandinavian, etc. When I've dated men who's also grown up in other parts of the world a huge part of the difficulties have always been purely cultural (obviously) - such as having different views and expectations on the relationship, sex, gender stereotypes, society in general/politics etc. In many cases that has been a disturbing factor, but in some relationships it has also been an interesting/stimulating part, something that has learned us both a lot without being a negative aspect of the relationship itself. BUT, do remember there are tons of advantages too. There is a reason for me mostly dating non-Swedish men! ;)

Answer 3

My biggest thing is my in-laws. Though they love my kids dearly, they treat them differently than my all white niece and nephew. I have even threatened my white husband to stop letting the kids interact with his family until something changes, because they are at the age now where they see the way they are treated and the way the others are treated and they ask questions such as "why do they like them more than us?" and I have 4 children.

Answer 4

Weather you teach the child to eat their peas with a knife or a fork. Just raisinn childern is a challenge and you are looking for specifics. I have no idea how old, if any, your childern are but you are in for the biggest learning experience of your life. No kid comes with an owners manual.

Answer 5

I'm having our first child in Oct. But I can tell there is going to be a couple of big fights about the "N" word I dont think my son should be saying that but my hubby says that our son is black so he can. Things like that we will deal with when the time comes.

Answer 6

The big things confilicting lifestyles and up bringing religion and culture their is no reason that they can do both. Knowledge is power is any form. Better to know more rather than just a little

Answer 7

The biggest challenge I am facing is the fact that my oldest is white while my baby is mixed. I have lots of people saying how cute/beautiful/etc my baby is but they ignore my oldest.

Answer 8

Whether to celebrate Christmas or Kwansai during December.

Answer 9

Not in that situation, but I just wanted to say that some of the most beautiful people in the world are bi-racial.

Answer 10

what religion to raise the kids i think is the most difficult and then there is the balancing of different family traditions