Do you worry alot?!?!?!?

Question

i worry all the time about everything and it annoys everyone around me. It has lead me to biting my nails, pulling my hair out and crying all night. Whenever i get worried about taking ona huge task i always organise EVERYTHING i EVER OWN because it makes me feel in control of something, but i want to stop now! it is ruining my life and everyone around me.What can i do to stop me from worrying about everything so much?

Answer 1

Stop taking on huge tasks if its causing you this much distress hun. Just take it one day at a time, a moment at a time, a task at a time. Have faith that you can do a good job, fear is making you worry. People who need to be in control are generally insecure, do you feel insecure in some way? Its a bit of a prickly question but it might help you identify the problem xx

Answer 2

I used to worry like that, and my Dad used to stress me out more, because he used to say that it was my generation, and because we watch to many programmes like Friends where they over analyse stuff to death (maybe he has a point.) The hard part is teaching yourself mot to worry so much. If you have a lot you have to do, make a list, and do the worst job first, then its over with. How old are you? If you are a teenager at school, its really hard because being a teenager is hard, if not, there is so much life stuff that can get in the way. I found that writing down problems, and coming up with a solution, on paper helps. Also, when you do that, don't stress that you can't do it right that minute, if it has to wait until tomorrow, it has to wait. When there is nothing you can do about a situation, it is really hard, but you have to write, or talk aloud to yourself, in a rational voice and say that this will have to wait and it is not the end of the world.

Try to be really strict with yourself- you don't want to miss out on your life by focusing on all the tricky things and miss all the good. Instead of organising things, you may feel a sense of achievement by organising yourself. Try to remember that these worries are not going to bring about armageddon, they are just things that you have the power to fix, if you remain calm, and form a rational game plan, and when you have to stray from the plan, sit down and re-work it. Also. don't be afraid to ask for help if you can't fix something all by yourself. Yu aren't alone, and whatever problems you face, someone else will have had the same problem. The difference is in how you handle it.

Answer 3

Some of us are born worriers. I'm not sure counselling can take that away. Maybe just allow yourself a little worry about something, organise only what you absolutely have to, write a list of things to do another day, then stop thinking about it and do something else because it's all on the list. Works for me.

Answer 4

Its normal to worry about things, though it becomes frustrating when the worrying is not in control. If you have got to the stage that your rationale mind is thinking its ruining your life I would suggest you see a therapist. I would avoid medication of any sort and go for something like CBT or counselling. Talking to someone totally independent to your friends and family could possibly give better perspective to your thoughts but I would defintely suggest that the biggest part in changing this would be to actively try to change your thinking, the power is all in your mind with external help.

Answer 5

i never used to be like this but since having a rough time in the last 6 years i think its all kinda psychologcal, i'm only 22 and i do worry about everything, i even have nightmares nearly every night and am more stressed out in my sleep than when i'm awake, i am terrified of everything, i did go and work abroad for a year and the more i had to fly (4 hrs flight) the worse i got, now i have to take valium to calm me down when leading up to a flight. i had an accident abroad and needed stitches, when i went to get them out i couldnt even feel it but i was shaking so much my friend had to hold me down and when i got back to england for an operation i was constantly worrying about loadsa rubbish, i'm going to see a therapist or councillor to see if i can get myself through this and also a cognitive behavioural therapist to help with the fears of flying etc.... if they fail then i'm going for hypnotherapy, my mam had it done and she's like a different person now its amazing.

Answer 6

How about changing your thought process from negative to positive. "worry" is all negative and linked with stress, which very much comes across in your question.

Examine how you go about things such as the big projects and establish how your process makes it all work. I suggest that you are the type of person who is a big picture thinker and that you like to examine all aspects of something before during and after whatever it is.

The positive of this is that you are a safe pair of hands because you have thought things through before you start and will have identified areas that need discussion and clarification.

Dump the stressy aspect of this and just accept that this is a strength which will make you very successful one day.

All the best

Answer 7

Yes, it definitely sounds like anxiety. You should see a doctor, possibly get into counseling. It could make a huge difference in your life. I hope things get better for you soon. I suffer from anxiety and depression myself and I am now on medication to help me. I also see a counselor and it was the best move I could have made. I still feel a little bit off kilter, but it is getting better.

Answer 8

There are a lot of people who use self-talk to handle what is going on inside their minds. When self-talk is not monitored cautiously it can lead to drastic effects not only on one’s personality but also affects its mentality and psychology. Self-talk is a type of conversation which we conduct with ourselves. In literature we call it soliloquy. Brain’s reticular activating system never forgets what we repeat again and again. Ironically this system can not recognize what is beneficial to the individual and what is not. Think you can, think you can't; either way, you'll be right- a saying goes like this. Therefore when ever we ‘talk’ with ourselves, we should be cautious, very cautious in fact. There are a lot of audio programs which can help and there are a lot of online books. If I recall there is a book ‘self-talk solutions’ which is every effective in this scenario.

Answer 9

Yeah it sounds like you suffer from proper full on anxiety. Go to the doctor, maybe theres some counciling you could get on the nhs or something...or the doctor might have a few numbers you could call, people who could help you develop calming strategies. Don't let the doctor give you any antidepressants, they are counterproductive and doctors prescribe people with them far too often.

Answer 10

I worry about everyone and everything around me. I worry about things in the past. I worry about things that haven't even happened yet. It's a worry !