just before going to bed your wife says, "can we have sex tonight?" but she goes to bed and hour before you.
2007-09-17 08:48:47 · 30 answers · asked by lbrady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok then whats wrong with my husband? the NEWS was more important.
and no i am not the problem here.
2007-09-17 09:02:53 · update #1
What better thing could you possibly have to do that would prevent you from going to bed an hour earlier?
Just the fact that your wife has to ask should embarass you, and yet you're willing to confess this idiocy to everyone who reads your question. I feel sorry for your wife.
2007-09-17 09:04:49 · answer #1 · answered by nevit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, do you want to have sex with her or not? We're in our early 40's, and I never pass up an invitation from my wife. If she asked me that and her bedtime was an hour earlier than mine, I'd go to bed with her (remember, she's making a concession too by staying up later), and then kiss her goodnight and go read or watch TV until I was ready for bed.
Remember, marriage is all about compromise -- giving something to get what you want. Heck, if she wanted to set the alarm for 3 a.m. to have sex, I'd be okay with that, too. Think back to your single days, and how good this proposal would have sounded then! Then act accordingly . . .
2007-09-17 09:08:56 · answer #2 · answered by Judgie C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a set-up and you had better not wait that hour to go to bed. By waiting an hour it seems that now she has offered you sex and you turned her down. Just wait until next time when you bring it up and she throws in your face that when you want it she is expected to be available, but when she does you don't respond.
This may sound unrealistic to the twenty-somethings that read this, but just wait until you are in your forties.
My advice...never, ever say no to your wife in this area, or you'' get a lot of "no's" from her.
Good luck.
2007-09-17 09:05:45 · answer #3 · answered by Tim 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is not a mans point of view but me being a female, if I told my husband this and I went to bed an hour before he did, I would want him to wake me when he came to bed. She would not have asked you this ?'s if she was not interested in alittle action. Or maybe she went to bed early thinking you were going to follow, hmm! What about that? Good luck and I hope you get what you are going after.
2007-09-17 08:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by lucylocket7258 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand the male animal. He is bored. It has nothing to do with you, he would get bored with a porn star eventually. Its a guy thing. You need to trip him and beat him to the floor. Marriage is an ancient Aramaic word meaning lack of sex. There will be lots of suggestions about new nighties and fun oils but they are just short term things. There aren't many remedys and this board doesn't like the ones that work.
2007-09-17 09:08:34 · answer #5 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are in our early 40s (well, I'm 45), and this situation does come up from time to time, although sometimes it's me and sometimes it's her asking (we work weird hours). If my wife asked me that, then when she went to bed, I would go with her, have sex with her, and then get up, kiss her goodnight, and do whatever I was going to do until I wanted to go to sleep.
2007-09-17 08:55:57 · answer #6 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would assume she changed her mind and ask her why she did in the morning. If I were you, I'd go to bed when she did so you could make love. You can always get back up to do other things.
2007-09-17 08:57:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello! Is anyone home? Is this really a real situation or a joke? Mine never had to ask just give me the first indication and I was down on her like a circus seal!
Better wake up now before she finds someone who she doesn't have to ask permission!
2007-09-17 11:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by aircraft mech 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try thinking about your spouse and going to bed a little earlier than normal. Obviously, she wants some attention and intimacy. Is it really that bad cuddling with her? Like my dad always said, "Never turn down sex, son."
2007-09-17 09:01:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is the "Can we" part (of "can we have sex tonight") relating to ability or desire? Anyway, it sounded rather dry and generic...See, making love happens a lot of times without words. If no kids are home, you could have done it then and there instead of waiting for him to come to bed....or you could have led him to the bed if that's where it had to take place...Got lot's of other suggestions but for sake of time and space...end of response.
2007-09-17 09:21:50 · answer #10 · answered by Tonya R 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋