mysister had an open house after she built her 300,000.00 house amd didn't invite me nor any o my family. i didn't know about it til my counsin told me 6 years later. should i still be hurt over this, or am i just wasting time thinking about it. i did ask my sister why and she said you would not have enjoyed it anyway! i told her that it hurt me. it was a big deal, catering and stuff.
2007-09-17 08:39:20 · 12 answers · asked by j/j/ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she is always putting me down for no reason, i am the oldest. in fact 8 years older than she.
2007-09-17 08:40:41 · update #1
I understand your hurt but, you need to let it go....Six years is a long time and it seems as if the issues between you and your sister is alittle deeper than this "open house" that she didn't invite you to....As hard as it may seem, move on..You already address her and she gave you an answer so at this point there's no reason why you are still allowing this to hold on to you...You'll feel alot better once you just let bye gones be gone.....
2007-09-17 08:51:41 · answer #1 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think she might have spared you and your family some cash,as if I am not mistaken, you are suppose to bring a nice house gift to the house open party. Maybe she has a circle of friends that are into that kind of stuff and she was trying to keep up with the jones in her own little click of friends, don't be hurt, if it was child's baptism or a childs' wedding that is a big deal not to be invited. She sounds like a snob don't let it get to you.
2007-09-17 16:31:17 · answer #2 · answered by Maria A. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously it must hurt like hell. My daughter was so afraid that her father and I would be at loggerheads (divorced) at her wedding, that she kept it a total secret. I heard years later that she had the full white wedding and that hurt me a great deal and still disappoints me especially since we have all become such a close family and I see my ex every now and again for a visit or a coffee. And especially since we would have behaved impeccably - she was simply too immature to understand that so told us she'd had a magistrate's wedding.
2007-09-17 15:49:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know this is easier said than done, but being hurt over it only gives her the power she seems to be craving.
I have a sister that acts similarly. I finally discovered that she does these sort of things to have power over my emotions and so she can feel superior to me an other family members.
I still maintain contact, but limited. I don't invite her to anything and don't expect her to invite me to anything.
I love her and I pray for her. I just try to keep her 'poison' out of my life.
2007-09-17 15:47:49 · answer #4 · answered by wait and see 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are just now finding out about this party 6 yrs later, it doesn't sound like you two are very close. And maybe she's right that you wouldn't have had a good time. Maybe you've been invited to other parties and complained about everything. We don't know you, your sister does.
2007-09-17 15:47:26 · answer #5 · answered by meagain 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is a saying, "you can chose your friends, you can't chose your family". I think your situation epitomizes it. If she was a stranger, you wouldn't care if she had a open house, but she was being selfish and tried to hurt you and it worked because she's your sister. I would let it go and keep her at a distance since she doesn't seem to care if she hurts you. Sorta like a ex-husband, you can care about them...you just don't want them close
2007-09-17 15:50:31 · answer #6 · answered by LAL 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if she is constantly putting u down and finding fault with u, why have any relationship with her at all if it is just going to bring u heartache. she did a mean thing by not inviting u to her home, yes i would be hurt over it and i would have to think that maybe she did not like me or my family, but forgive her as it just keeps one prisoner emotionally when u hold a grudge. i would have to think that there wasn't much of a relationship going on between u and her anyway. she sounds as if she thinks she is better than u.
2007-09-17 16:04:01 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Six years? Listen...who gives a damn? Really. If your sister wants to act like a jerk don't feed into it by letting her know it got to you. Because she accomplished exactly what she wanted...even though it took 6 years. let it go and don't invite her to anything you have. She obviously has no family values anyway so shut her out.
2007-09-17 15:45:22 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would forget about it....It has been 6 years....no need dwelling on it now.
2007-09-17 15:48:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would be yeah - what did you do to piss her off or does she just think that she is that much better than you are???
Wow.
2007-09-17 15:45:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋