How do you bounce back from divorce?

Question

seriously how do you bounce back if you really loved your wife but she had a mental condition that couldn't make her commit or keep her stable in a marriage. On top on going through a divorce finding out 1 month after your marriage ended that you're going to get laid off and possible lose everything you have. How do you bounce back after all those setbacks? it's hard to hold my head up right now.

Answer 1

A lot of time.It's been six years now and I'm not ready for a full time relationship.Talk about it with friends maybe even vent some of your pain on here.Try not to dwell on the past if possible cause it will only bring you down again..

Answer 2

Darlin, being a survivor does not mean always being able to "bounce" back. Some of us have to drag ourselves up by the boot strap and attempt to make a new start out of disaster! You are a survivor. You are going to find another job, go to work every day, meet someone else some day (after the pain of this relationship is past) and live a good and decent life. It is like with anything else, a step at a time! You are not alone. You should not be alone. You need wise counsel from good friends, elders, and stable people who care for you. Do not drink, or do drugs as it will only compound the problems and cost money you don't have right now. Keep in touch with us! I care anyway...when you can see a professional to get you over the worst of it, again no drugs! I am sorry for all of your losses, but YOU are a survivor. You will get stronger, you will be okay. HUGS, Big Hugs! Nana

Answer 3

First of all, there is no such thing as 'bouncing' back from divorce, or potential job loss. There is no quick fix to either one, it takes a lot of perseverence and support from your friends and family. Life will eventually (slowly) start feeling normal for you, although it may not happen exactly when you want it to. Keep active and focus on you for a little while, stay fit, read, take up a hobby, and socialize with friends. All of these things will make you feel better.

Eventually, the pain of the divorce will start to slowly lessen and you might even think about getting out and meeting someone else.

As for your potential job loss, don't wait for it to happen TO you....start to take charge now. Reconnect with your network (business colleagues, friends, contacts, etc.) who could put you in touch with potential opportunities if you should get laid off. Update them on what you're up to and tell them you'll be in touch.

Dust off your resume, and get feedback on it from people whose opinion you value. You need to be ready to hit the pavement running if you do get laid off. Also, start checking out the job market, the internet job boards, and newspaper ads to get a sense of what's out there now in your field so you can be prepared (even if only in your mind) if anything should happen. Stay positive! The bottom line is you will undoubtedly find a new job that you enjoy doing. It's normal to feed down when you're potentially going to be out of work, but you are not just a worker...you have a lot more to offer the world, so keep you head up high. There is a lot of personal worth associated with your job, I know...to many people, it truly defines and validates who they are. I too was recently laid off (over 4 months ago) from a senior executive job, and know exactly how you feel..it's not easy to stay positive when you are facing so much uncertaintly. But, just remember, when all is said and done, you will ultimately persevere!. You are not alone and there is a light at the end of the tunnel...it's just a matter of time before you come out into the sun. good luck!

Answer 4

I'm not sure bounce back is the phrase I'd use to answer the question. I don't think the road is going to be easy for a while. Try to find joy in the little things in life, get the support of at least one good friend and believe with all your heart that eventually things will get better. Keep walking. Very sorry for your sadness.

Answer 5

You may want to consider a bit of counseling. Sometimes talking with an uninvolved 3rd party makes things look a little different. Plus, you have to remember that the biggest challenge of life is actually living. I think the best reward is not letting life get the better of you. You will see the light at the end of the tunnel, just be patient and keep your chin up.

Answer 6

Tell yourself every day, or more often, that you WILL get through this. Positive self-assurance is important. I'd also go into short-term counseling, for some coping skills and practical ideas on how to get through this.

Looking for a job will occupy your thoughts, too, and take them off the grief, though you should let yourself feel it, just not so much that you're incapacitated!

Seek out friends for sympathy and companionship, but also, learn how to enjoy being by yourself for awhile. Good luck!

Answer 7

Just keep on trucking. Get out there and find another job. Stay busy. Do things with your friends to help keep your mind occupied off the loss of your wife. One day at a time, one day at a time. Just stay strong and you will be a better person from having gone thru it all.

Answer 8

The first thing you do is go find another job.
If you lose alot, you will get it back, it is a temporary situation.
Many people, even millionaires, have lost everything more than once. You just have to go get another job and start all over again. Life isn't over, it just hit a big bump.

Answer 9

Stay busy looking for a new job and concentrate on moving forward--I know its hard, Ive been through it. When you arent busy you have too much time to think about it. Time heals all wounds, even divorce. Find a new g/f too--its a good distraction.

Answer 10

With the weight of the WORLD on your shouldes you need to take it one minute at a time and as time goes on things WILL get better. I hope you get some support from you friends.