2007-09-17 07:49:11 · 14 answers · asked by Petra105 1 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Just move on, its life, I've had over 47 jobs in my 39 years. You can't make everyone happy. If it's something about you thats getting you fired you have to decide if you wish to change it then do it or let it go.
2007-09-17 07:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's ballsey, but go back and interview them. Ask your former supervisors what it was specifically that caused them to think you were so bad that the best thing to do for the company, and their office was to fire you.
Call and ask for a meeting, explaining that you have been fired from your last two jobs, and want to better yourself. Explain that at the time you were fired, it was too much of a shock to do this, but now that you've had time to think it through, you want to know what things you need to change about yourself and how you work.
Ask them to be specific, and be up front in telling them that you want their honesty and feedback. You obviously interview well, so there's something about doing the job that gives them serious doubts.
When you call and certainly when you show up don't go in with an attitude. Divorce yourself from what happened, and don't try to change their mind. Pretend like you are interviewing them about someone other than yourself. Don't take what they say defensively - remember you are trying to make changes and you asked for this interview.
After you've completed the interviews, thank them for their time then you never have to see them again. Always be professional, especially if you left in less than ideal circumstances.
After a couple of days (your ego needs a day or two to heal no doubt) come back and look at your notes. If there are things like, you were always late, or you came back from lunch late all the time, then you know that punctuality is something you need to work on. If you see that you didn't dress professionally, or you always looked like you just rolled out of bed after a three day drinking binge, then you might want to look at your wardrobe and set the alarm 30 minutes earlier. If it's more of an attitude problem, whether it's insubordiantion or cussing the customers/employees/boss, etc then you may want to take a look at what you see as funny, or a way to let off steam, that others see as rudeness, or that may come off as you being a danger to your fellow employees. During the interviews, ask them what they recommend you do better on your next job. They will likely have several suggestions.
2007-09-17 08:55:52 · answer #2 · answered by Tonya in TX - Duck 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are a lot of people who use self-talk to handle what is going on inside their minds. When self-talk is not monitored cautiously it can lead to drastic effects not only on one’s personality but also affects its mentality and psychology. Self-talk is a type of conversation which we conduct with ourselves. In literature we call it soliloquy. Brain’s reticular activating system never forgets what we repeat again and again. Ironically this system can not recognize what is beneficial to the individual and what is not. Think you can, think you can't; either way, you'll be right- a saying goes like this. Therefore when ever we ‘talk’ with ourselves, we should be cautious, very cautious in fact. There are a lot of audio programs which can help and there are a lot of online books. If I recall there is a book ‘self-talk solutions’ which is every effective in this scenario.
2007-09-17 09:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by b_banth 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hes right , try to figure out if its something you can change whether its attendance or attitude or what and see if you can improve upon them. Then try a new kind of job from what you did before and make a fresh start and stop kicking yourself about it. We have all been there. good luck
2007-09-17 07:58:45 · answer #4 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Starting over is not the issue. You first have to understand why you're being fired.
2007-09-17 07:57:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself what your beliefs are that cause you to act in a way that is getting this reaction from your employers. It may not be obvious, but beliefs are voluntary choices we make.
If some belief is causing you to be resentful, or pouty, dump that belief.
The other way to change your beliefs is to undergo a severe trauma. It's better to change them voluntarily.
2007-09-17 08:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you being fired? I would ask myself that question. If there are skills you lack or need improvement on, try school or take classes.
2007-09-17 07:59:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn from your mistakes. dont slack off. but importantly dont over work yourself in the beginning to make your self look good..take your time and learn..if you dont know anything and is making mistakes learn from them..it's alright if your not sure on something..
after a while you can begin to over work yourself a little to earn that promotion or raise..
2007-09-17 07:57:38 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to remember that maybe not everyone likes your personality, and that one day you will find a job that you are good at and will be able to stic with it.
2007-09-17 08:38:12 · answer #9 · answered by lonestargirl79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same way you did from the first.
Move forward with the knowledge of your experience.
2007-09-17 08:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by blackpus88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋