OK, dad is thinking he is going to change jobs and is not sure what kind of insurence we will have. Or how long we will be without it. I do get urinary tract infections every once in a while and Dad says that I'm getting cut now while that is an option so there are no more worries about it.
I told him I don't want it. I say it's my penis and I like it as it is. It's going to be painful and will never feel the same.
Both Mom and Dad say I'm getting it done and that's final.
But I don't want it done. Can they force me?
2007-09-17 07:47:35 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Hi, Bret.
I would suggest contacting Attorneys for the Rights of the Child at http://www.arclaw.org They specialize in protecting boys against forced circumcision.
Tell as many people as possible that you don't want it done.
I also get occasional urinary tract infections. If I go to the doctor immediately and get a prescription, they clear up at once. If I put off going to the doctor, they can get pretty bad. If anyone ever said to me, "You know, there's a little operation we can do that will keep you from getting as many UTI's. We just snip off your clitoral hood and trim up your labia and then you won't get as many UTI's," I would say NO WAY IN THIS WORLD. So I completely understand why you don't think getting your genitals amputated is the answer.
2007-09-19 03:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by Erin N 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At fourteen they want you to get a circumcision? Why didn't they do that when you were a baby? I would talk to the doctor with them. At this point it will be painful and you could get an infection after the surgery. If your getting infections now then you aren't cleaning very well. You have to pull the skin back and clean under it very well, AND you need to dry it also. My personal opinion is that your a little to old to make you do something like this. If they were concerned about the later consiquences they should have had it done when you were a little fella.
2007-09-17 08:00:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Speak to a trusted adult -- teacher, neighbor, uncle. Make sure other people know that you do NOT want this done.
Look in the telephone book for "American Civil Liberties Union" and call them. They will be able to tell you what your rights are in your state and how you can make sure those rights are respected. They might even put you in touch with a lawyer.
Refuse to get into the car to go to the clinic. If they trick you and tell you that you're going someplace else, refuse to get out of the car when you get there . Kick, scream, and make as much fuss as possible, and somebody will come to your assistance. Do not co-operate in any way with what they are trying to force on you!
2007-09-18 14:29:21 · answer #3 · answered by Maple 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I REALLY see you point about it being your bits and all BUT Hun if you have already shown a history of getting these infections it really might be the best course of action.......trust at your age NO doc is going to recommend it without a damm good reason.......and cos the parent wants it done is NOT one of them.............but if the doc has advised this to be the way to go it might be worth taking it into consideration, have known several men from where I once worked that had to have to it done at 40+ years of age and OMFG it was major stuff to be done at that age, of course pretty bad at your age but nothing like it will be in years to come.
Remember if I am reading you right this is what THEY want and not what has been advised by a doc.......so until a doc says yes then I think you should be OK..........
regards
2007-09-17 07:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by candy g 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
ok Bret there are a couple of things to consider.
Are you making your decision based on the pain factor?? At age 14 you will not be awake for it. I've been told that it feels sore for a couple of days and then you're fine. It does not change anything that you feel now. For hygiene reasons, you may want to consider it.....As you get more involved in life (use your imagination) there are certain infections you can get because you are not circumsized. You will need to keep yourself extremely clean there in order to avoid those infections and other funky things that can be trapped. (sorry..trying to be delicate)
If you consider these things and still are against it then you need to find out why they did not do this when you were a baby...normally that's when it's done. Explain how you feel. They can't force you...I'm surprised they are even trying.
Last resort: Tell mom and dad if they get pierced (guess where) then you will get circumsized. I think that's a reasonable compromise.
2007-09-17 08:10:02 · answer #5 · answered by mrsdeli 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Best answer here...lol jk
One answer is to try and tell them you will get a job, or anything if not now at age 15 or 16 ish.
Depending on where you live but i dont know so sorry. Try that for a while and if it doesn't work cry.
Its not embarrassing to cry because unless you really want to lose ur foreskin. Tell them you wont be happy and will be un happy you whole life. And if that doesn't work i would just swear and tell them no.Legally they can make you but tell them you will never do anything they say and ignore them. etc etc. make up your own ways to piss them off.
Say you'll do it if they cut your bong bong.
2007-09-19 11:38:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
They can't force you to do anything if you kick and scream, refuse to get in the car to go to the hospital... no doctor will operate on a kid screaming bloody murder...
on the other hand if you get the infections you should have it done. i've only ever seen circumcised penises so you would be the one that looks strange to me, not the other way around.
...By the way, there was a case a little while back of a middle aged man that sued the doctor that circumcised him as a baby, if you find the info on that and do nothing but hand it to your doctor... he won't do it... malpractice is too much of a hassel
2007-09-17 08:00:15 · answer #7 · answered by TJ815 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
at 14 you are a minor so yeah they probably can force you. You could try talking to the doctor without your mom and dad and see what he has to say. My husband had it done 12 years ago because he was prone to bladder and kidney infections. It did clear up his urinary tract infections. He was on pain pills for about a week. I can say it didn't affect us as a couple.
2007-09-17 07:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by Bonnie F 2 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Remind your parents that you are only their problem for 4 more years health-insurance wise... but that is part of your body for the rest of your life.
Hardly seems fair to force that on you.
I'd never risk permanent harm to my relationship with my son over an issue like this...
2007-09-17 07:55:33 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan~ Unapologetic Conservative 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your parents should respect your feelings on the matter, but you've got to understand, that they are your parents, and they wouldn't want you to do this, if they didn't feel like you should. Trust me, they don't want to fork out all this cash if they didn't feel like it was necessary. Not to mention, in a few months, (when no ins is available) that you'll probably have to go back to the doctor due to an infection.
I know that your probably scared, and I don't blame you. Any kind of surgery is scary, but when add the fact that its your penis,, well that's even scarier!
But remember that you'll be in good hands, and you'll be fine. Your parents love you, and only want whats best.
Good Luck!
2007-09-17 08:06:55 · answer #10 · answered by ~Jen~ 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋