What if you sold some things on ebay? This stuff did not take away from household funds (basically parts from garbage at work) and isn't part of planned income. Should you tell your spouse about it? The amount is about $500 (give or take $50)
2007-09-17 07:20:09 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you can't even share little things with your spouse such as money coming in...what else are you hiding? And why?
2007-09-17 07:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
If your spouse controls the funds in your house and frequently allocates $$ to themselves for non-essentials (justifying them with an idiotic rational) then no, you should not tell.
You have just as much right to have some $$ in your pocket as your spouse.
Maybe they told you that you "need" a new chiffon bathroom set, or a pink velvet couch for the living room? How about New comforter for the guest room that is never used. I doubt you would even know where most of the $$ you earn goes.
Save some for you and treat yourself to a night on the town.
If your going to hide the money, be smart and hide it somewhere where she would absolutely never look. The place they hate to go, the shed or garage or anywhere where ther are cobwebs and crawly things.
Notice how most of the women here have said you should tell about the money?
Good luck
2007-09-17 07:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the items sold did not belong to your spouse. (Now) $500.00 is a lot of money to be kept a secret,but $50.00 is something that will only put gas in your car. (So) if you earned "500" then you should tell her,but "50" is'nt much.
2007-09-17 12:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by Squeakers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, do you need the money to help run the household, or is it some extra money that could be put away for some special items the family wants or needs. Are you selling them honestly, or could you get in trouble for selling them. The amount you say is not a lot by some standards, but a lot if it's needed to help make living easier. I think your conscious should guide you on this one.
2007-09-17 07:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I definitely would tell my spouse. I don't think there should be any secrets in a marriage and if you think about it - if she found out that you hid it, would she be angry? If the answer is yes, then tell her before she finds out some other way or by accident and then you'll REALLY be in trouble.
2007-09-17 08:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your spouse but it's not a big deal if you don't. Money is a big thing couples argue about. I like to have a little set aside for myself so I don't always have to explain what I spent and why. I don't keep a lot to myself but just a little mad money.
2007-09-17 07:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by SpeedyGonz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You do if you want to be honest with your spouse. If you have special plans for this money, then I don't see a problem not telling the spouse.
2007-09-17 07:27:54 · answer #7 · answered by George 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Morally, if you're in a trusting marriage, most people will go with "yes", she should know, because what's yours is hers and vice versa. However, being a divorced woman, I will say that it never hurts to have a little stash saved away that the other partner doesn't know about...in case something happens down the road. If you wanted to be "fair" you could split it with her. If she's a big spender, and you wanna sock it away without telling her, I think that's YOUR perrogative.
2007-09-17 07:25:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your spouse is and can be financially responsible. My wife cannot sleep unless she has spent everything she gets her hands on. Tomorrow does not exist for her; therefore, I have to set aside money for taxes, insurance, utilites and such that she cannot touch. You know your wife's abilites and such; do that which is best.
2007-09-17 07:26:25 · answer #9 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you're gonna save it for a rainy day, you should tell your spouse. My mom has a problem with budgeting so my dad sometimes won't tell her how much money he has or he'll save up a little for when they really need it.
2007-09-17 07:29:13 · answer #10 · answered by Cinderelly 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is a tough one... for sure. I guess it depends on what you would do with it if he/she didnt know about it...
I would personally like to know if my Spouse came into an additional $500.00 but I think it depends on the couple. If you start purchasing things he/she might notice and it could explode into something bigger.
2007-09-17 07:26:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋