Just confused!. I've a lot of problems with my wife, whenever we have small problem she makes very big, after seconds she's normal but next day she's again angry, we spend most of our time solving problems...at the same time she says that she Loves me n dont like to lose me.... r all women like that...Confused..
2007-09-17 07:16:01 · 13 answers · asked by Open_Minded 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are all women like that? No. That's like asking, do all men think like you do? Of course not. We are all different, but this is the women you chose to spend the rest of your life with... so this is the life you choose to live. I suggest you learn how to communicate first, then you may learn what can be done to make your marriage more pleasant and productive!
2007-09-17 07:22:33 · answer #1 · answered by I, Sapient 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, and you mustn't use your wife's behaviour as a barometer for all people. That's like saying: "I saw a mouse today and it was brown so all mice MUST be brown."
It is common sense and surely you must know that. I am amazed at how many people will ask questions about the sex that isn't their own and genuinely not be able to apply their own thought process to others.
Your wife very simply is the product of years of being told "how to be" and "what to do". She doesn't feel secure and doesn't sound like she has any other purpose other than being your "other". If she had a hobby or outside interest then she wouldn't have time to be concerned about an argument with you. Something tells me that you wouldn't find that interesting in a woman. Men will complain that they want a woman to think like they do but when they find one, then they most likely end up whinging about how said woman is "ignoring them" or not paying them enough attention.
Try it. Ask your wife to find an interest that isn't you and see how uncomfortable it makes you feel. You may write these questions but it is doubtful that you would have it any other way. You married her and you must have known how her mind works.
I am a woman and my mind doesn't work like that. I will have an argument and it will be out of my head by the next nano-second much less until the next hour, let alone the next day.....Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha.....AND, I'M single!!!
Now, what does that tell you?
2007-09-17 07:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by KD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a wife and six daughters (half adopted and half biological) and the more time goes by the less I understand the female side of the equation. Before all you women jump on me let me add that the same holds true for men. I have decided I am perfect and the rest of the world is out of step with me; so now I can get a good nights sleep.
2007-09-17 07:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I will tell you like this...
If you both are not building your marriage on a strong spiritual foundation. Your home that you both made will fall apart. -I speak from experience.
My husband and I have been there, and we loved each other so much and I didn't want to loose my soul mate no more than he did. Some people will say that you should seek family counseling, but the truth of the matter is,
if you both do not have God in your lives, you are leaving the door open for the devil and his schemes. That is where the fighting and the bickering come into play. The devil is a deceiver and when he lies, he speaks his own native language. In the Bible, it says he is the father of lies and he only comes to steal, kill, and destroy.
John 10:10
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.
The Children of the Devil
42Jesus said to them, "If God were your Father, you would love me, for I came from God and now am here. I have not come on my own; but he sent me. 43Why is my language not clear to you? Because you are unable to hear what I say. 44You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father's desire. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies. 45Yet because I tell the truth, you do not believe me! 46Can any of you prove me guilty of sin? If I am telling the truth, why don't you believe me? 47He who belongs to God hears what God says. The reason you do not hear is that you do not belong to God."
My husband and I have the Lord in our lives and the only thing we have disagreements on is movies we'd rather watch. We put God first and then eachother, and finally your children, if you have any. My husband and I will say a prayer for the both of you to open your hearts and seek the LORD for refuge. HE has so many gifts in store for both of you. Don't wait any longer to receive HIS Blessings.
-God Bless.
2007-09-17 07:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a clue for you guys, woman don't think like men, we use our head on top of our shoulders. Men don't think like women, because they can't use to heads at once. So what you think is minimal is probably something that is bigger. The little problem soon grow together to make a big one, that just keeps growing. She probably does love her, but do you love her enough to try to solve the little problems. Try it, it might work.
2007-09-17 07:25:14 · answer #5 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Not all women are like that. It sounds like your wife is emotionally unhealthy and needs counseling. But since it won't do her any good unless she realizes there is a problem, maybe you should start by getting counseling for yourself to better learn how to deal with her in as healthy a way as possible.
2007-09-17 07:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by Ally J 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your wife is emotionally immature.
Sit down and have a chat with her and explain she should not behave in this manner all the time, because life is short, and if she persists to continue in such manner the Marriage is OFF.
2007-09-17 07:26:38 · answer #7 · answered by spiro goken 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My brother !!!!, You are not the only one, learn this: women are not to me understood, they are for be just loved.... there is a book that talk about this : "Men's are from Mars and women from Venus" may be you can find it in English.
suggestion: Smile, patience and hold her when you want to hit her !!!!!, Search God, is the best option, go for Him together.
2007-09-17 07:28:34 · answer #8 · answered by Sn Wil 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i'm like that. i have good days, and bad days. sometimes i think i should be grateful for the guy i have, and other days i think that i could get so much better. lol
sorry, you'll just have to live with us. lol
2007-09-17 07:22:05 · answer #9 · answered by give me something to believe. ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, we are all like that, so get used to it!
2007-09-17 07:22:22 · answer #10 · answered by princessannie122 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋