I have a close friend that's in a bike club. They go to parties a lot and bar b ques and things like that. His girlfriend gets upset because she feels it's meaningless and he spends too much time and energy in it. I don't get why is it so important to these guys?
2007-09-17 07:01:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Cars & Transportation ➔ Motorcycles
The M/C lifestyle offers friendship, brotherhood, and a sense of belonging to something important. Club members aren't just friends, they become your brothers and sisters.
in my club, we hang out together, ride together, party together, look after each other and give a helping hand when someone needs one. We do charities and benefits for different organizations such as wish for a child. I know if i need anything from a hug to the loan of a bike, all I have to do is ask.
By the way, my wife is also a member (patch holder) and she loves being in the club. She either rides her own or rides with me on our outings. I cant speak for your friends club, since club rules and bylaws vary from club to club, but My wife and I both enjoy being in ours. Ride safe. GFFG
2007-09-17 10:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by bikermog 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Male bonding goes with any thing like car or motorcycle clubs--networking with others and just having fun. You either like it or you don't. The whole club thing is like car shows, soft ball games, bowling, model train clubs, volunteer fire departments, sewing clubs, dance clubs, ----anything to get together and do whatever it is they do,,,mostly social--sometimes a fundrasing event---99 percent of the time--HARMLESS. His girl probably does not enjoy the club scene--too bad she can't go and just hang and meet people and relax. It would be nice if she went--lots of guys and girls go together. But if she is going to pout and make him miserable, it is best that she does not go. I showed an antique car on weekends--10 years of going alone because my old lady thought she was too good for the people that went. Found a better , fun girl and now the shows are fun....everything is fun, come to think of it.
2007-09-17 14:26:18 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's probably important to guys for the same reason bridge parties, wedding showers, baby showers and "girls day out" is fun to women. There's nothing wrong with his girlfriend not liking the parties, how much fun do you think it is for us guys to be dragged through a craft show or to listen to those guys selling skillets, pots and bowls? By the way, you're not the girlfriend are you???
2007-09-17 15:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by bikinkawboy 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
his bike club is a way for him to be with people with similar interests. people who understand him and who like to do the same thing he does. generally, guys like cars, bikes, and vehicles with motors that can be driven. sure there are girls who do too and there are guys who do not like cars/bikes but generally that is how it is. my boyfriend says it is something about harnessing power. i wonder if then it makes the guy feel powerful. if one enjoys something then they will devote time and energy to it. if they do not like it then they do not do it or avoid it unless it is necessary for work, school, etc purposes.
what do you like to do? there are people who will think your interests are meaningless and wonder why you spend so much time gardening, shopping, cooking, drawing, dancing, etc - whatever it is you like to do. what is interesting to some people is a waste of time to others.
different things are important to different people. it is good to remember that. i know sometimes i have to remind myself especially because i do not want to hurt a loved one because i failed to realize they are doing so because they enjoy it and they see it as the perfect way to spend their time and energy.
my boyfriend likes cars and autocrossing. i would talk cars with my brother and dating my boyfriend brings out the car enthusiast in me. he likes that we have similar interests. i know that it is not something i pursue when i am alone, but since it is important to him then it is important to me. it is easier for me since i am have so many interests including cars. even if it was not sometimes when you love someone you make a sacrifice and go but you have to be upbeat about it. if you complain and ruin your loved one's fun then you need to change your attitude or maybe it is best to find your own interest. that way when your siginificant other is doing their interest you do not like then you can pursue your own hobby/interest. couples do not have to do everything together. some say they should not do everything together because it is not good for a realtionship.
do your friend and his girlfriend fight about it? maybe he should talk to her about how different people have different interests. perhaps she is upset because he is not spending enough time with her or because she is insecure. maybe they can compromise about it. they should read the five love languages by gary chapman. she might need quality time to feel loved and that may be more what her problem is then his being in a bike club.
best wishes! hope this helps.
2007-09-18 00:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by :-D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I enjoy my MC club, but so does my GF. if he is not paying attention to her, maybe she should find someone else.
the whole point of a MC club is to have fun. if she isn't having fun, then she should find something else. if she likes bikes, perhaps getting one of her own? if she doesn't well, find something (and someone) she is interested in.
2007-09-17 14:09:30 · answer #5 · answered by godz68impala 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What's she doing out of the kitchen anyway?
2007-09-18 10:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by Steve C 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋