What Do You THINK About a Married Man That Says That He is Unhappy with His Wife?

Question

What IF He Said That Their Sex Life Was Non Existant. Meaning That everytime He Tries To Instiagte sex That She Blows Him off. Lets say That They have not had sex in almost a year. whats your advise to him.

Answer 1

I would recommend that the man take his wife on a long road trip, or other place where they can talk honestly and frankly about the issues and feel "safe" in discussing them.
This couple is in trouble. Both need to determine various issues. This certainly isn't an uncommon occurance, but a lot of the problems are created by one or the other person in the marriage not being able to communicate the real issues. When both parties are driving in a car, both can feel a sense of security--and have no other real concerns at the moment except to drive.
When my wife and I need to talk, I schedule an eight-hour drive. I tell her that I want her to go with me to New Orleans, or somewhere, I book a hotel on that end, and then we take off together for a weekend trip. We drive all day Saturday to the destination, spend Saturday night in a hotel together, and then drive back all day Sunday. The "alone time" usually is pretty worthwhile.
There are lots of reasons a wife doesn't enjoy sex. There are lots of reasons that these two need to talk. If they can't settle these issues alone--that's why folks see a marriage counsellor. I think the marriage counsellor will never be as useful, however, as just getting the two people to really share their deepest feelings to one another--including the man's need for sex, and the women's need to not have it.
Both parties will learn a lot from the time talking.

Answer 2

A whole year?! Damn. My hubby better not complain - he gets it AT LEAST 3 times a week.
Anyway...more than likely the problem lies deeper than just not wanting sex. Women tend to be a little more emotion driven... In other words a man can probably "get off" on a chick they can't stand, whereas a woman has to feel that connection. I would say talk to her about how u feel. Let her know that u have needs. She'll probably say something along the lines that she has needs too. Ask her what her needs are and tell her that you'll try to satisfy hers and that she should try to satisfy yours. After all - that's what marriage is all about - compromise. Her needs may not have anything to do with the bedroom, but trust me - washing dishes when not asked can be foreplay to a woman. And if she's willing to do whatever it takes to please you and vice versa, it should be all good in the bedroom.

Answer 3

Tell him it sounds like he has a problem and they should go to marriage counseling, your not his counselor.

I have had this happen to me, I "remained his friend" to he could have someone to talk to. But, after a short while, you know what happened next? He wanted to sleep with me.. I have never been w/ a married man because I feel if more women said NO, there might be fewer divorces.

And remember, there are always 2 sides to every story. But keep telling him for them both to go to marriage counseling.

If they have been married for a long time 10 plus years, yeah, men get bored, so it's his problem not yours and don't make it yours.

Answer 4

That marriage has big problems. If the wife is not providing sex for a year I would think she is getting it somewhere else and obviously doesn't care if he does. A year holy crap!!

If he wants to save the marriage get counseling. If not move on.

It is both their responsibilities to make this work and sex is a BIG issue. If she is not cheating than she is not finding him attractive and she likely has a low self esteem. maybe he could help with that.

There is allot here that we don't know from the question but they need help....A year, damb!

Answer 5

It depends on when he says it.

If he is saying it to me a guy as a friend, I'd say, well maybe you can get some counseling, or just take her someplace nice.

If I were a woman, I'd be concerned that this is a sympathy ploy to get me into bed. And I'd say I don't sleep with liars. When you get married you take a vow of fidelity and when you break it you are a liar.

Answer 6

Could you really trust a man who would flirt with you when he is married? If he were a "Man", he would not seek outside of his marriage. He would first settle things at home with his wife. Then time to heal, then more time to heal, then seek out another relationship with another women. If you fall for this, you take the chance of being in the same place his wife is now. My advice to you is... make it clear you are not interested in starting up a relationship with him. No reason needed..

Answer 7

First he has to know if hes unhappy with her in general or is it just the fact that they havent had sex for over a year. I mean if hes still in love with her than work it out and talk about the problem. There has to be a solution for this.

Answer 8

I would advice him to try to date his wife again. Maybe he is a jackass at home. Womens emotions are tied to how the react to sex advances. If this husband is not caring, loving, understanding, honest and instead lets the wifey do all the housework, not appreciate her or take her for granted and then want sex from her the answer he will get is capital "NO!".
Furthermore this husband should do something fast before he loses his wife that is if he still loves her. Talk it over with her, be very patient.

Answer 9

I would seek counseling. Sex is not the entire marriage but it contributes a lot to it. I keep telling my husband that. We have the opposite problem. I am the that gets blown off. So far we have been able to work it out between the 2 of us.

Answer 10

Ultimatum time: she should put out or move out. That's too much to ask for a man. Men define themselves by their sex life, and if she's being a frigid ***** then he can do better. When a woman's relationship is threatened, you'd be amazed at what she will do to keep it.