i am 16 years old and bisexual, i have a boyfriend who lives in california i live in north carolina, i met him on the internet, he is 17, i know wut he looks like, i talk to him through im and phone, we have been going out for 3 months now. when school started, my dad found out i was bi when he overheard me on the phone with my bf and there was some dirty talk between us, he got pissed off, yelled at me, cussed me out, he kept saying i was confused and needed help. He then took my phone away. i was so upset. later my mom found out after she found a package that my bf sent, containing a card, 2 rings, a cd, a wrist band and some pictures, she was disgusted with it, but she said she is a very open minded person. after that thinks just got worse for me and my bf, i hardly get to talk to him. everyone at his school found out he is bi and things r going badly over there. i love him so much, i would take a bullet for him, he would do the same for me, i want him here so badly. wut do i do?
2007-09-17 05:38:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
he said he would give his soul to hold me and be with me. that was the sweetest thing i ever heard, oh and i dont want any religious lectures from people, i want answers from people who truely know how i feel and can give a good answer
2007-09-17 05:51:05 · update #1
ok for the final time, i do know wut he looks like, he is about 5"11, 200 pounds of muscle, short hair, and a good lookin face
2007-09-18 04:54:07 · update #2
First you do not have to have sex for this guy to be the love of your life. Next i think you need to sit down with your parents talk things out. They have not gone completely insane over your sexuality but it sounds like they have some issues. If they are the type not to really listen then suggest going to a therapist or councilor who could facilitate the conversation between you and your parents. That way you will both get your points across. Once that problem is over and your parents may be more willing to help you out communicating with your partner.
Good luck
2007-09-17 06:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by rabbit1986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always warn against internet romances. Yes, this guy says that he is seventeen and sends you some things and claims to be your lover and all, but really... you've never seen him in real life, you don't know for sure what he looks like, and when you meet someone in person sometimes they're not the same person they were online. Being online gives you anonimity and it gives you time to decide what your responses will be. In real life you dont have that pause, nor that space between you. I think what scares your parents more than you being bi or liking another guy is the idea that in reality you don't know for certain just who it is. Many children have been kidnapped and assaulted over very similar situations. I think it's best if for now at least you obey your parents whilst under their roof, and try to avoid online chat with people you don't know. The internet has the ability to be quite a scary place. Just keep an eye out and know watch what you're telling this person.
2007-09-17 07:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by laydlo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds like your setting yourself up for a big family size super deluxe heartache... this relationship has existed on the phone and internet... that doesn't qualify as him being your "lover"... he's a pen pal... who says mooshy romantic things that get you all gooey... that's sweet... but odds are if you ever do "get" together, the whole thing is going to change.. and it may... or may not work out... you're "in love with love" right now.. and you should reel it in just a little... for your own good...you'll be ok...
2007-09-17 06:14:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it's just too rush to "take a bullet for him" right now. You're 16 and still have a long way to go, a bright future. Your family does have every right to be shocked. They love you, i should say. That's why they got shocked. I know it's very hard for you right now not being able to talk to your boyfriend.But,calm down. It's really time to focus on your study. It's more important, i think.
2007-09-17 06:02:31 · answer #4 · answered by Max P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you are 18 and out of the house. You are still young so don't be quick to 'take a bullet' for someone you haven't met face to face. Don't forget, boyfriends come and go, but it's your family that'll stick with you forever.
2007-09-17 05:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by phxguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-15 11:08:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best advice i can give: get a job so that you can pay for your own cell phone. then you can still talk to him. your parents are obviously repulsed by the idea of you with a guy, thats their problem. yes you live with them now, but they cant change your sexuality whether they're supporting you or not.
2007-09-17 07:27:09 · answer #7 · answered by fear of the dark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out of your parents home. As long as you depend on them, you should respect them and follow their rules.
Once you are living on your own, you can live as you wish.
2007-09-17 05:50:40 · answer #8 · answered by Dr Jello 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are in a complicated situation, all i can say to you, is GOOD LUCK!!
2007-09-20 01:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by ziggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL YOUR PARENTS THEY SHOULD LOVE YOU EVEN IF YOU ARE A BISEXUAL!
2007-09-17 06:17:21 · answer #10 · answered by Sean W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋