HEEEEEEEEELLLLLLLPPPPPP!!! i have tried everything!!?

Question

ok i know this is prolly going to make me sound like a idoit but thats kinda my problem! see my boyfreind thinks im so stupid! and its tru i dont have much common sense, so my question is is there anyway to gain common sense? also in your opinion what things would make a 19 yr. old female smart? sorry such a silly question but i really need help! i get so tired of bein called stupid!!!!!!!!!!!! thanks in advance!!! <3

Answer 1

YOUR BOYFRIEND MAYBE INSECURE WITH HIMSELF THAT IS WHY HE IS TREATING YOU THAT WAY. I AM SURE THAT YOU ARE NOT STUPID BY ANY MEANS. PEOPLE LEARN AND GROW EVERY DAY. NO ONE PERSON KNOWS IT ALL.

Answer 2

Your boyfriend should not tell you that you are stupid. I would say the first thing you should do in your search for common sense if to tell the jerk that you have too much common sense to stay with an a**hole who calls you stupid. Otherwise, everyone, well almost everyone, gains experience and maturity with age. Continue to better yourself to the best of your ability. Go to school. Take some cool classes, like art.....or something like that you might be interested in. Travel a little. Go to a wine tasting. Take a cooking class. Just learn and have fun with your life. Who knows, in the search for greater knowledge you might just run into a really nice guy who thinks you are very special. I sure hope so. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Common sense is just that...."common", or the general knowledge most everyone has regarding general subject matter. (Things like "fire will burn you", it's dangerous to play in traffic, don't walk around among people flashing large amounts of cash, etc.) So, I think you have a reasonable amount of common sense consistent with your age, and you're gaining more each and everyday as your experience-base broadens. Now, even if you were dumb as a stick it would be inappropriate for your boyfriend (someone who presumably cares about you) to call you "stupid"....that's not a supportive or loving thing to do. It may surprise you to know that folks who get a kick out of putting other people down with insults about their intelligence usually have intelligence issues themselves and pick on suitable targets that make them feel superior. Maybe letting Mr. Wonderful know that you're aware of this fact may make him calm this tendency down a bit, or at the very least it'll open your eyes to the fact that there are insecurities tarnishing his armor, too. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

If your bf thinks you are stupid and you yourself admitted that it's true, then I would say, there's no more hope to make a 19 year old smarter. But the good news is, common sense can be learned. Read more, associate yourself with knowledgeable people, don't be afraid to ask if you are in doubt about something and most of all, don't let your bf or anyone call you stupid because its an abuse.

Answer 5

Abraham Lincoln said "It's better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt"

Sometimes you can gain common sense by simply speaking less and listening more.

On this years Aussie Big Brother show one of the contestants was punished by not being allowed to speak to or have any attention from the other house mates. After the punishment was over he said he was really pleased, because he learnt so much by simply staying quiet and listening for a change.

Answer 6

common sense is not something you can learn from a book or in a classroom it is what you gain with age and experience some people choose not to use the sense they were born with let alone common sense your first lesson in common sense is not to let people put down and not to put yourself down you do not have to have a degree to get on in life all decisions in life require a certain amount of common sense if you make a wrong choice don't worry we are all aloud to make some mistakes ok good luck with boyfriend

Answer 7

Even the smartest people can make mistakes or say things that seem 'stupid' at the time. There are also people who think it makes them look better, when they point out, what they believe are others' faults. What it shows is that they are insensitive to others' feelings and they are focusing on finding fault with others. That is not good for a long term relationship, because it's very self-centered and disrespectful of others.

Answer 8

Here is your first lesson in common sense: leave your boyfriend!!! You should not be with someone who thinks you are stupid...period. Life is hard enough without having to second guess yourself with the person you love. Don't get caught up in trying to please this guy. If you think you need to make some changes in your own life, I suggest you do so but getting rid of this guy definitely needs to be the first step. Good luck!

Answer 9

Maybe you should try to think logic and simple. There is no way to gain common sense, But I have noticed with people that do have little common sense they usually freak out over little stuff and everything is complicated. So think simple and see if it works. Good Luck

Answer 10

Think before you answer. (like, what would be the proper thing to say) Weigh the odds on things before making a decision.(like, which would look better up against a purple wall, red or pink? Pink of course). You can do it, I know you can. Then you can have the last laugh, and call your b/f stupid.

Answer 11

yeah i think you need to get another boyfriend cause no one should ever put you down. he should like you for who you are even if you arent that smart. i dont have very good common sense and i forget things a lot but my boyfriend loves me anyway and he accepts my forgetfulness and works around it by helping me out.

Seriously find a guy that will respect you, not put you down.

good luck!