a lot of people gave me their opion about three weeks ago when i asked how to basicly cheat on my husband well things still have not improve between my husband and me we have been in counsiling since may the counsler has even ask why we are still together we had no answer well the guy that im cheating on my husband with the one living in our house and i have a great relationship the only thing is that in the past week this guy not my husband has been staying out late getting drunk and high his drug of choice is coke and i told him that it was either me or the drugs he said that he would stop the drugs and drinking but he is still continuing his ways i want to get rid of him i dont want that in my life i get ready to kick him out then he comes home and says hes sorry and i forgive him can anybody help me give me some advice on how to get a backbone
2007-09-17 05:17:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
let me tell u better move on while u can coke is nothing to mess with any drug for that matter my cousin is laying in the hosipital dying because of the stupid choice he has made 2 days ago from doing coke and other drugs and drinking on top of it he lefted behind a wife and 3 young children and he was suppose to have quit and now look i'll telling run while u can and don't look back my cousin just turned 30 on sept 11th
2007-09-17 05:33:58 · answer #1 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. you did a very wrong thing by asking how to cheat
2. god! you really did it
3. both has no answer for the counsellor cos both do not want to be apart or none want to take the first step
4. not sure what do you mean by "having great relationship", just over weeks
5. what is your objective for cheating in the first place?
6. and now what do you wan to get out of this cheating relationship?
7. what do you want on the relationship with your husband?
you are totally confused!!!!
YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT YOU ARE DOING!!!
you start this fire, and the only person can help is YOU yourself!!!!!
1. put this cheating partner aside
2. clear the mess you have with your husband
3. till you sort out your marriage then look at new relationship
4. if you can't THINK, then don't think
go and see a doctor and tell the doctor what is in your mind...
you are lost!
2007-09-17 12:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by lost man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, first of all, you have to be able to write a little clearer than that. Your post is just a stream of consciousness with no punctuation. It's very hard to read.
Second, nobody can help you grow a backbone. If you want your husband, kick the guy out and stay with your husband. If you want the guy, then get a divorce. If you want neither, then go off on your own.
You have to decide what you want.
2007-09-17 12:26:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally I don't say things like this but you three are a bunch of idiots! Why don't you get yourselves together individually and then think about relationships?
You are a liar and a cheat with no honour.
Your husband is a weak cuckhold.
Your lover is a drug addict.
It is a triangle made in hell!
2007-09-17 12:29:28 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to quit thinking that a man is going to solve your problems or fix your life. I suggest you get rid of them both and then get yourself some counseling to figure out why you keep getting involved in unhealthy relationships and involve yourself in bad situations.
We have to learn to love ourself, enjoy our own comfortable and feel comfortable with ourselves, our lives and being alone before we can be in a healthy good relationship.
Kick them both to the curb.
2007-09-17 12:28:11 · answer #5 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a backbone and divorce your husband first....You have very low self esteem to want to be with a man that abuses alcohol and drugs.....I just don't get people sometimes......you are a cheater and involved with someone who is as pathetic as you are.
2007-09-17 12:26:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow!
you have really got yourself in a pickle didnt you?!
kick him out...tell your husband you have been cheating so he can kick you out and then start over...this time make sure you find someone that doesnt do drugs -- how about start by making yourself happy first and leave men out of the equation all together
2007-09-17 12:30:47 · answer #7 · answered by Mindy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need serious help. Not in couples therapy, not in marriage counselling, but in one-on-one time with a professional therapist who can help you get your head straightened out. Because right now you're so screwed up that you're not going to be able to fix anything in your life if you don't fix yourself first.
2007-09-17 12:23:53 · answer #8 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are living with 2 losers. Get out before you become one too.
2007-09-17 12:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer or legal aid to help with a restraining order.
2007-09-17 16:44:19 · answer #10 · answered by trannymomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋