If your in a loving relationship and want to with your boyfriend and use protection why all the fuss.
2007-09-17 05:16:08 · 62 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Will everyone stop calling me a stupid teen, im only asking an question and want peoples opinions!!! Bloody Hell!!
2007-09-17 09:16:45 · update #1
Well thanks for your opinions and getting your self 2 points, but i still think if your ready and in a loving relationship then why not, like some people have said maturaty comes at any age, not everyone is all of a suddent mature at 16. Some teenagers might be mature at the age of 15 how are you suppose to know, when someones mature or not.No1 can put an age on maturaty.
2007-09-17 09:31:11 · update #2
no, I dont' think it's wrong.
Love doesn't have an age limit, and maturity comes at different times for every person :).
Some people just *have* to fuss about things they can't (or don't want to) understand or agree with.
Blessed be.
2007-09-17 05:20:35 · answer #1 · answered by jess 4 · 4⤊ 9⤋
The fuss is all about moral. Take a look at the other answers.
They all say that you can get pregnant which will ruin your life. I agree, but at the same time you can`t do any other things in life without a risk. Whatever you do involves a risk. If we should eliminate all risks, we would have to stay in bed all day and that would involve a risk too ( no exercise ).
Next point in their minds is that you are not mature enough to enjoy sex. That is pure nonsens. Everybody, even ten year olds, can enjoy sex if it is caring and loving sex. That is what sex is, a beautiful experience for two people who loves each other. Unfortunately society ( other answeres on this page ) has created an infected point of view regarding teenagers and sex. This view has slipped into the law and now you have
laws worse than they had in the middle ages. If your sex partner is just a few years older than you, he will go to jail and listed in a sexoffender list for the rest of his life. It has become completely ridiculous. I think that is why you have become worried or insecure about this matter.
Your feelings are not wrong and if you feel that sex is what you need, then go for it. I had sex and love when I was 14, and the beauty of that early relationship never came back so
strongly again.
2007-09-17 10:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by john c 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even if you feel you are ready when you are under the age of consent, in a year or two and in the future you will regret giving away the one sacrid thing you have; your virginity. Wait til your 16-18, THEN see how you feel. Even in that age group I do NOT recommend it at all, but relalistically that's when most people start having sex.
2007-09-17 12:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by Jane F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are coming from. I know it seems like a good idea right now. But trust me and listen carefully. You should wait another few years. Any number of things can happen as a result of sex, that you are not prepared to deal with until you are older.
You could get pregnant (breaking condom or contraceptive failure). Even if you use a contraceptive it could fail. If you get pregnant at this age, will you keep it and ruin the rest of your life? Will you get an abortion and permanently scar you for the rest of your days?
You could get an STD. Your boyfriend can get tested for everything under the sun. Problem is that some STD's don't show up in tests for men, namely HSV1, HSV2, and HPV. So, you could get herpes, genital warts, or lesions that could destroy your reproductive system.
It could be any number of things. Don't take this risk just yet. Wait a little. It isn't "wrong" as you put it. Just a really bad idea.
2007-09-17 05:50:41 · answer #4 · answered by largegrasseatingmonster 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Because teenagers are stupid and don't know whats good for them. I'm 18, and hate the teenager attitude. We make dumb decisions when we are warned by others who have experienced the same situations (yes I have made dumb mistakes when told other wise...I'm not excluding myself from this description). And why?! Because we THINK we know it all and have the knowledge to get through life. And guess what? We don't, cause the only life we've known so far is reading out loud in class, gluing construction paper, and grade school drama. I think it's wrong because people older then me have said it's wrong, and they're the ones who have been in that kind of situation, meaning they understand the consequences, that may or not make sense to you or me at this time. We ask for advice, but don't listen to it when we don't like the answer...wow, isn't that brilliant?!
2007-09-17 08:29:27 · answer #5 · answered by abacus314 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Technically and legally, it's against the law for someone under the age of consent (which is 16 in most states, but 17 and 18 in others) to have sex. According to the law you are not mature or adult enough to consent to the sex act, hence statutory rape.
In my opinion, kids under the age of 16 and a good portion of 17 and 18 year olds aren't emotionally mature enough to understand the emotional and psychological impacts of sex. It's not just a physical act purely for pleasure. When with the right person, sex is an experience, it's sharing yourself completely an wholey with another human being, it's being completely and utterly vunerable and open with someone you love and trust. Yes it feels good, but it shouldn't be used purely for it's physical pleasure. Now I'm not preaching "no sex before marriage" (I'm 22 years old, unmarried, and am currently in a sexual relationship with the same man I lost my virginity to at 19), but I am saying wait until you're in a stable loving relationship with someone who you won't regret having sex with.
2007-09-17 07:18:09 · answer #6 · answered by Meg 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm kinda mad at my boyfriend right now so i'm gonna sound bitter, Don't do it, because it will change his perspective of you, once you give it to him, he'll think that you'll give it to anyone, then one day he'll see you talking to a guy and thats how all the suspicion starts, wait as long as you can, or you'll be like me today regretting it.
Oh and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, had sex with him the first time a year ago, and didn't regret anything until this morning, when hes thinking I cheated on him and I didn't. Its not worth it.
And protection isn't 100% male condoms are like 75% so I would suggest getting on birth control and using a condom and you should be covered.
2007-09-17 07:22:47 · answer #7 · answered by Chey_18 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because 16 years old is NOT ready. You are not in a "loving relationship". Groping around with each other in cars, at each other's houses when no one is home, and at friends' houses is not a loving relationship. It is teenage sex, that's all. At 16, you have no idea what a loving relationship entails.
I know that you think you know. I was there once....thought I knew once and for all time that I would love this person for the rest of my life. Honey, believe me (although you won't), it isn't love. It is infatuation, mystery, curiosity, imagination, and raging hormones. When you picture your "loving relationship" in the future, do you also dream of the tight budget, no going out, fish sticks for supper (and you have to fix them), paying bills, no car, the electric company about to shut you off, no phone, and maybe a child? The fuss is about the fact that you are not emotionally ready to handle just how intimate a sexual relationship is. Just grow up first. You will never have a clue what sex is really about, and how good it really can be, until you are in a solid, mature, and mutually satisfying, loving relationship.
2007-09-17 05:38:13 · answer #8 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋
ALLAH(SWT) made sex for married couples only. Not for little kids to screw everything. Sex is for the purpose of making babies between two consenting married adults who have the money to take care of a child and the maturity to deal with the consequences of their actions. Most teenagers are immature and don't take responsibility for having sex and getting pregnant. No teenager knows they are in love or what love is. It's just a stupid crush or fantasy not love. When you are married you will know what love is.
2007-09-18 09:53:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel that it is a serious risk. If your protection should fail you could end up pregnant. At the age of sixteen you still have so much growing up to do. Pregnancy at this age would cause you to miss out on a lot of this. You still have some high school and all of college ahead of you. Having to raise a child and do this would be very difficult. Also unlike the responsibilities that you are use to at this age, a baby can not, does not, and should not wait for it's needs to be attended to. Besides all of this it is very expensive to raise a child, and we have already established that it would be hard to care for a child and go to school. So how hard would it be to care for a child, go to school and work a full time job? If my opinions do not shed light on why it is risky to have sex at this age maybe you should talk to some teens who have became pregnant at 15-17 years old.
2007-09-17 05:29:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Because believe it or not even 16 year olds have a lot of maturing up to do still.
What happens if per chance your protection fails and you get pregnant? Will your bf bail on you. Big percentage do. Then you are stuck with a baby and telling your parents... In that scenario, what about school? Changes are you won't graduate... and what about college. No one makes it very far with out a college degree. So here you are with a baby you didn't plan for no education flipping burgers at Burger King.. Great life, all because you didn't want to wait for sex until you had truly grown up.
2007-09-17 05:22:47 · answer #11 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋