I think I am gay and the only way to run from the fact is to get a job which keeps me away from the phobics. I am in University studying commerce and also studying for certified public accountant of Kenya. I have tried weird jobs like asking about joining the intelligence service(something I am good at from childhood brainwise) I am however shortsighted(not feet for other forces).In Kenya being gay is hard and so I think I may have to shift to another country. If only I could get a sponsor to take me abroad(we are a poor family). I tried to commit suicide while in high school but thought it would end after school(I was once about to be lynched).The same people are in University, I am now planning suicide after everything fails. I once went to a psychologist cause of depression after school(I do not think he realized) I had failed terribly and had to repeat(no one knows why I failed)
2007-09-17 05:14:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No one can escape death.
If you're miserable, then make changes to your life. Become the person you want to be. You can change if you want to.
2007-09-17 05:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by Dr Jello 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Gee....i don't think committing suicide is useful. I personally think that an act of suicide is just so impulsive! Sorry, i'm not trying to put pressures on you. But, think about it. Let say if you committed suicide, are you happy? That doesn't solve any problem. In fact if you do so, you're just not facing the reality. I, too, have undergone your situation. But, not the same situation, though. At that time, i also had a thought of committing suicide. But, at the end, i came to my own conclusion that if i committed suicide, not only did i lose my precious life, i'd also lose everything and everyone i love. So, i learned and am still learning to be a strong man. Strong in terms of having the guts to face all difficulties. It's hard. It really is. But, when i succeeded solving a couple of problems, i felt and feel happy. That's how we grow.
About your thought of moving to other country, i think you can try to apply a job overseas. Since you got your degree in commerce, you should be able to have it. But, even if you haven't got one currently, you should just stay calm. Don't take everything seriously. Sometimes, you need to give yourself..your very own personal space. Let yourself breathe. Everyone needs it. And you deserve to have your own personal space. Don't be so hard on yourself. Life is already so harsh many times. And we don't wanna complicate our own problems rite? So, just be calm and relax. Trust me. That will do you good.
2007-09-17 13:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by Max P 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you kill yourself who will that help? Nobody not your Mom or Dad and they will go threw the rest of their life wondering what they did wrong. Stand up, be a man and get your life together. You are doing good by going to school. Maybe you can get a job in another country, where it is not so bad to be gay. Good luck and I hope the best for you :-)
2007-09-17 12:54:44 · answer #3 · answered by irishlady 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you should not worry, keep your education continue and live in a society without telling any one who you are and what you have. No one will come and will check you medically that whether you a normal man or gay. It is you have noticed, so you should not worry let the decision left on God. but be positive that in this society every body has a right to live no one can ostracize you my friend.
2007-09-17 12:52:15 · answer #4 · answered by Iqbal H 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, wow. it's a shame that being gay is looked at so horrible -even by gay people, but, whatever.
well, if you kill yourself that means you're dead. of course, when you're dead you lay in a box and rot. you will no longer see, hear, touch, dream, hope, love, nothing. it will all be over.
so instead of taking the cheap way out and ending your life ruining not only your life, but, other lives as well like your mom's and dad's, then you have an opportunity to fall in love, to reach your dreams, and to do a lot of good for OTHER people instead of being self-centered.
Maybe take up a cause and fight for gay rights and gay equality. get involved in a woman's right's groups, or animal right's, or some sort of political cause group where they are so busy trying to help other people and make life better for all people that they don't have time to sit around and feel sorry for themselves.
but, if you're weak and want to cry "victim" and insult gay people here by saying such things like "killing yourself cause you're gay", then do whatever you feel is right for you. i can't decide for you.
2007-09-17 12:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
OMG you poor thing, does your capital city have any gay areas? can you not speak to anyone from your Country online? Failing that come to England. Do NOT consider suicide, anyone is better than that
2007-09-17 13:06:01 · answer #6 · answered by ☺Everybody still loves Chris!♥▼© 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
See a Doctor pal, preferably a Gay or Lesbian Doctor. I suggest you embrace your sexuality, live it, love it, you're one of the lucky few who isn't a slave to a vagina.
2007-09-17 21:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a decent education and can work in the USA, try to come here. Apply to some places that would help you get here.
2007-09-17 12:20:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you go to Alberta Canada they pay big money probably because they got lots of oil
2007-09-17 12:28:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
*you need JESUS*
2007-09-17 16:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by *mRs.GaBrIeL* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋