I have 2 biological kids ages 5 and 7, then I also have custody of a 15yr. old. I have always dreamed of a big family I love kids!! My fiance has a good paying job but also has to pay child support for his 2 children ages 7 and 8. So my question is should I have more children? I dont believe in having your self fixed and not on bc due to the fact of it causeing miscarrages if you do concieve while on the pill. I figure if the Duggar family that has 17 kids can do it maybe I can. I just want someone outside the family to put there opinion in. THANKS
2007-09-17 04:58:53 · 16 answers · asked by Amanda W 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Ok there is nothing wrong with having a BIG family.For the most part I think its easier on the kids to have the love and surport that big familys bring. Most mother i know that want big familys come from a big family or was the only child.. BUT keep in mind i jsut say what i think..It you body you dont have to get yourself fix.(DONT fix what aint broke) If you what a big family tell you MR RIGHT how you feel and why you want a big family..DONT but the money into it because after you have 2 kids it easy just to add on...BIG FAMILYS ROCK. And children of big family grow up to be very well rounded..Dont let money stop you from building your big family...IT will work out you will see..
best wishes to you and yours..
2007-09-17 05:13:55 · answer #1 · answered by lilstar108 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was living in fairytale land, I would have twin boys first and then have a girl about 3 years later. The Duggar family are very devoted and on a very strict budget to have that many children and live debt free. I don't know if that is possible for others to do. It is truly up to you if you want more children or not. Also ask your fiance what he wants and then go from there. This isn't something we can help you with really. Best of luck!!!!
2007-09-17 05:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by HONEYB1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use spermicidal foam or film or a diaphragm. That way if you do conceive you won't end in miscarriage. As far as the pill causing miscarriage, that's a common misconception. If you were to become pregnant on the pill, however unlikely, you could carry the baby full term. Another note, at least 50% of pregnancies end in miscarriage before the mother even knows she's pregnant, why not just use the pill darling? You don't want extra babies you can't afford. However what you do is your own decision, your own life and don't listen to any of us on here, or anyone else, whatever you do. God bless and best wishes.
2007-09-17 05:06:22 · answer #3 · answered by hmm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats right if you want a big family I say go for it. If you want as many as the Duggars there is more power to you. Yes it takes alot of money and getting used to but I have always thought big families were the best. If this is what you want and hope and wish for is a big family then I truely believe that you should try for one. It certainly will not hurt anyone! Hope you get what you want!!!!
2007-09-17 15:14:11 · answer #4 · answered by lostinlove1919 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I already have two, but if we were finacially able, I would have about 5 or 6 all together. My mom grew up in a family with 7 kids, and they are one just big happy family (most of the time). I would love to have a big family.
2007-09-17 05:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by mom of 3 under 4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's done by faith. Study your bible on family topics. I have 10 brothers and sisters. I was never lonely. Always something to do. But beware of childhood stresses. Parental stresses too. Big families are managable. Duties and resposibilities have to be assigned. Most important is biblical education. If you plant the seeds they will provide a harvest of provision for you. Especially love. Nothing like a family full of love. Relatives,neighbors and friends can help too. I recommend reading Proverbs 31.
2007-09-17 05:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by JesusIsTheAnswer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can see how you would want a baby with your fiance. I think if you have the money and there's room in your house and room in your hearts, then go for it!
Don't let anyone here criticize you for wanting more kids.
If I could do it all over again, I would have had 4 or 5 myself.
Good luck!!
2007-09-17 05:04:33 · answer #7 · answered by ღ†Rocker Wife†ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the more the merrier. I'm excited to start our family and I want 3 or 4 kids. We'll see where life takes us and go from there.
I really think this is a great thing and if you can afford it go for it.
2007-09-17 05:09:24 · answer #8 · answered by Butterfly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want a big family go ahead, I want a big family of 6 kids, ttc #1 for 4 1/2 years with PCOS , I am currenlty on met & Clomid 100mg
2007-09-17 08:38:31 · answer #9 · answered by Mom of 2 w/ PCOS 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I could afford it, like have all the things I think I'd need for it to be a HAPPY and safe family, I'd have as many children as possible. I'd have at least eight.
2007-09-17 05:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by *october girl* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋