A man puts his hands on his girlfriend, chokes her and attempts to throw her down a flight of stairs.
She gives him one more chance, after all, it was the only time he'd done it in the 3 years they've been together.
He says sometimes women deserve to be put in their place.
Is she nuts?
Will he do it again??
2007-09-17 04:57:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Here's what happened before:
She was having a rough day, looking for something in the house and couldn't find it. To relieve her frustrations she threw a shoe at the door. He was in the next room and came barreling in and that's how it started.
2007-09-17 05:57:08 · update #1
I would NEVER take a man back that once put his hands on me. Who's to say what will happen the next time she needs to be put in her place. There is always that chance that yes he will do it again. Unless he got some counseling or help then there is no telling.
2007-09-17 05:05:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
More than likely, yes he will abuse her again. As to why women take them back, there are many different reasons. Most of which you could never understand unless you were put in that position. It can be...financial reasons, low self-esteem, children together, she may truly believe that he's not going to do it again.
Him saying sometimes women deserve to be put in their place is a prime "abuser" comment. The fact of the matter is he needs to be put in his place, jail.
Allen, grow up. What constitutes any person doing this to another person? Are you an abuser?
2007-09-17 12:13:48 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is crazy but had this conversation over the weekend cause a mutual friend was beaten up by bf and she wanted help getting bail money to get him out. Women loose their self esteem and think that he loves me and will never do it again. I can say people can and do change but it does not happen right away. I would say that right now for her is not the right time to be doing that. She did not press charges on him?? That would of been a start to him seeing that it is not right.
2007-09-17 12:05:41 · answer #3 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of women get trapped. They think 'they can't find any better guy' or 'all guys do this' or 'it's not so bad once in a while..at least it's not every day'.
And lots of women have very low self-esteem and think they deserve this kind of treatment.
And of course plenty of women 'love' the guy and can never let him go.
Yes she is nuts.
And yes, unless he gets help, he will do it again.
2007-09-17 12:08:50 · answer #4 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should he change anything about himself as long as there are women out there who will accept him "as is"? I'm sure he blames her and tells her that she caused it. He's an abusive jerk and yes, he will do it again and again till the cops take him away. If not to this woman, then to the next. He needs to be reported and held accountable for his actions. That is the only hope that he might, MIGHT change.
2007-09-17 12:52:59 · answer #5 · answered by Aiden 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will do it again because there were no consequences, and this is who he is and part of his character. he has already formed a way of thought that does not show any respect for women, this is part of his belief system, and hard to change without alot of therapy. women take them back due to low self esteem, fear of the future, financial reasons, too lazy to work, expecting change, seeing the best in him and not being able to face reality. she may feel she somehow deserves to be treated like this, perhaps she saw it out of her own parents when growing up, and doesn't see it as wrong. she has no respect for herself either. she needs to get some therapy so she will be able to understand this is not normal and perhaps its been going on so many years she is numb to it and has accepted it as a way of life for her.
2007-09-17 12:09:26 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he will do it again and yes she is freaken nuts but some women are just like that. Its hard for a rational person to understand her motivation.
2007-09-17 12:09:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are yes he will do it again. It is very sad that she does not have enough self respect to stay away from him.
I have been through this. They never change. She needs to be the one to change.
Support her now. If it happens again, help her get out.
2007-09-17 12:07:40 · answer #8 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will do it again, because he saw that she will put up with it. We teach people how they can treat us. If he's violent, and is obnoxious enough to say this about women, it will only get worse. It'll escalate until either she's injured badly, dead, or leaves. She should leave, if only to teach him that she will NOT deal with this kind of behavior...and send him a very clear message.
2007-09-17 12:06:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets call it what it is...this was attempted murder. What is she waiting for? The attempted to fall off the first sentance. Sorry, but once is all that idiot should get. It will only get worse, and everybody deserves better than that.
2007-09-17 12:05:15 · answer #10 · answered by Qyllix 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋