I watch porn & masturbate. My gf hates it and thinks i'm cheating. I wish to quit but it's too difficult. I have sex with her whenever we get the opportunity to do so. I tried to watch porn with her. She still does not like it (even when she sees men). What can I do?
2007-09-17 04:50:53 · 20 answers · asked by explorer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your girlfriend needs help if she thinks it is cheating. You are normal. Guys masturbate to porn. If a woman can't deal with it that is her problem.
2007-09-17 05:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
A lot of women have this problem it seems, but really its only a matter of time before everything changes for them. Young women are very romantically minded and think that they should be all you need. If that was the case there would be no porn. You have to understand that from 18-30 men will take whatever they can get (including a greased up hand), and from 30-40 men can barely keep up with the demands of their ladies.
If your relationship is serious and long lasting you can try this tactic. Tell her that you can't help being a man, and that the last thing she wants is a man with a poor sex drive. Suggest that if she puts our twice a day, every day...you'll stop watching porn and masturbating...otherwise she should think of it as a growing process that is needed for your healthy sexual development. And that you will use those sessions to learn to become the best lover possible.
Also be careful which flix you show her. Think "sensual" instead of "hardcore"...there are a lot of really exciting female oriented porn films out there that you could enjoy together with out her feeling degraded.
2007-09-18 09:40:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, she most likely masturbates because it feels good and that it doesn't involve the stress she feels about her appearance to do it with a partner. Second, masturbation happens, especially within a relationship that someone wants to keep because the alternative is resolving her needs by going after someone else. Now, what you CAN do is to find ways to put her at ease with her appearance by demonstrating that you are attracted to her even when you aren't horny. That means non-sexual but sensual touching and kissing and that sort of thing... ...things she might be thinking about when she says you aren't suave enough! I would try this--touching, cuddling, kissing, playing--for a few weeks before you do anything rash. You might also do well to ask her what she means by being "suave" and trying that--if you're able and willing. What you might just find out is that your "suaveness" will come up, her worries about her weight might come down, and he sexual interests might swing more your way in a healthy way. Oh, and if she really didn't want to have sex with you, she'd likely tell you "no" and just not be aroused. Give her (and you) a chance and try this, eh?
2016-05-17 05:12:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to dump her, or get used to the idea of a long and miserable life. You see, porn and masturbation are essential elements to the development of a healthy male sexuality, and female demands to stop it are unfairly dictating the terms of your sexuality. It's cruel, unreasonable, and unhealthy, a neurotic attempt to control that which they cannot. You can try to stop, but you wont, and it will just make you feel guilty. And once you break that little "rule" in your relationship, it will be all the easier to break others.
Women are suckers for security, though, and the security of the relationship most of all. If you sit her down and say "This is how it is: I watch porn and masturbate. I always have, always will. I'm asking for acceptance, not permission. And if you don't accept this very important, very personal part of my life, then I don't see a future in the relationship." When the relationship itself is threatened it is a woman's natural inclination to do whatever it takes to salvage it, including dealing with your porn habits. And if she does get up and walk, don't chase after her. She'll come back. Of course, by then it might be too late . . .
2007-09-17 05:11:07 · answer #4 · answered by terry m 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
tell her it's just a fantasy and that shes the real thing. however the problem that you cant quit suggests that you might be addicted. could be treated with councilling.
however porn is healthy if its not overused and gets the way of daily tasks. for example u call in sick 2 work so u can masturbate to porn.
many women dont get that porn is just a fantasy for a guy. Its not considered cheating no matter how much oprah reakons it is.
2007-09-17 05:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just knowing you are unable to stop indicates a problem with becoming addicted if not already. This is what you should seek help for. Also, some woman feel they lack the ability to arouse you sexually due to the fact they see there man watching porn due to needing to view other women to get sexually aroused.
2007-09-17 06:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I fully agree with Terry M, and I'm a woman. You are doing absolutely nothing wrong by watching porn and masterbating. It is a completely natural and healthy part of being a man. Your girlfriend will probably never understand this. My advice is to find a girl who does.
2007-09-17 05:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by meagain 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I got a new girlfriend. Now we are married. She picked up a couple of porns just the other day. Haven't watched them yet.
2007-09-17 04:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
find a *** mate who watches porns wid u ...n remember dont pick a sensitive one dis time.
2007-09-17 10:30:00 · answer #9 · answered by king 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could engage with ha while your watching the porn.
2007-09-17 06:48:30 · answer #10 · answered by DVUS 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋