I had a very vivid dream about my ex. It happens from time to time. We were childhood sweethearts and he broke my heart. Now I'm married to someone else with a child and I still have ALWAYS had feelings for him. I have dreams about him here and there. They are never sexual in nature but we are always together in them. His mother told me that we were both married to other people on the same day. My husband doesn't know about this person. What should I do?
2007-09-17 04:09:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
keep it to yourself. you two are with other people, why hurt your husband with this revelation when it can never be anything anyway. i still have feelings for my ex too, but they can't go anywhere as we are both remarried and have new lives. i think it is okay to kind of have a little love left, afterall they were a big part of your life. that doesnt go away totally.
2007-09-17 04:16:24 · answer #1 · answered by ohiojeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feelings that you have for him will always be there because he was someone special in your life. If you are thinking of him alot then of course he will show up in your dreams. Why does your husband not know of this person? He should if it was someone that was important to you. I would not do anything except start putting my energy into my husband and my child because NOW is what matters. You will probaly start having dreams of them instead of an ex who was once in your life but is not now. If you want you could also realize that you two were married to other people the same day because it was time for both of you to move on and start new lives without one another.
2007-09-17 11:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you value your marriage, let a dream remain a dream. Some times they can be manifistations of what we want or what we think we want or just what we think about. If your husband loves and cherishes you, relish in that because many a woman wished they could be as lucky.
If you are unhappy in your marriage, that could manifest in your dreams as well. But you are both married and have a responsibility to another person, respect that. Pray and trust that you made the right choice. Good luck and God Bless
2007-09-17 11:23:38 · answer #3 · answered by teri is ambience 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are reading more into it then what it's worth. Yes you used to love him but he was a childhood boyfriend not even as an adult. You are an adult now and you need to realize just how blessed you are to have a good husband and move on. A dream is just a dream but you have to live life in the conscious rather than the unconscious.
2007-09-17 11:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by TELO 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think maybe ur dreams are special 2 u because hes ur first love and cos things were new and exiting then that u imagine them as really good times and now you have a child maybe you feel that the days with ur ex were such a long time ago anf you want to recapture them, but dreams are only dreams and u dont hav 2 tell ur husband if u dont want to
2007-09-17 11:16:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just your subconsciouses thinking about someone you cared for deeply at one time. You probably still have feelings for this person. If at one time you were in love with this person and had a falling out no matter how much time has passed you will still have some feelings for this person. I wouldn't worry about it but I would keep it to myself. They are your dreams!
2007-09-17 11:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by regg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you truely love your husband and wouldn't leave him if this other guy came back, then you should keep it to yourself. You can't pick what you dream about and you obviously feel guilty about it. There is nothing to gain by saying anything. If you started to actually see this other guy or you couldn't get this other guy off your mind, then it would be a problem. But you have nothing to gain by saying anything.
2007-09-17 11:20:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you have a special place in your heart for him but that is all it is. You are married and have a family, take care of them. Your dreams are just that, dreams, keep them to yourself and just love your family.
2007-09-17 11:19:52 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing Honey,,,they are just dreams...Get your mind off your ex and maybe you will quit having the dreams
2007-09-17 11:16:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you try to see what the motive is for these feelings and then go see your husband for advice.
2007-09-17 11:19:24 · answer #10 · answered by Adam Chambers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋