Okay...so my son's 11 turning 12 and he's invited some boys and girls to our house for a party and then a sleepover. They'd all be sleeping in the lounge downstairs together. I think they're to young to be doing anything risky, maybe they'll be kissing but that's not such a big deal. What do you thinks about this?
2007-09-17 04:00:10 · 33 answers · asked by Mum of 3 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Party starts at 6:00, girls go home at 9:00 or 10:00.
2007-09-17 04:33:41 · answer #1 · answered by souldoctor 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't think kissing is OK and even if you do maybe the parents of the other kids wont. If I found out that my daughter was kissing some lil boy at a sleepover I would feel like the parent of the child was not watching over my child like I entrusted them for that night. I would say if you are going to allow the girls to stay overnight too then they need to be on separate sides of the same room and there needs to be an adult nearby (within hearing distance) to make sure it stays that way when the lights go out. Another idea is to have the girls over untill a certain time, like they all have to be picked up by 11pm or 12 that way they can still come for the party but they are gone by lights out time.
2007-09-17 04:09:05 · answer #2 · answered by Summer Days 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the majority of the answers here. No way should you have a co-ed sleepover for kids that age. You are inviting trouble. You can bet there will be more than kissing going on as they are very curious. There are lots of kids who think oral sex is like a handshake. You can bet one or more of the girls is someone your son is curious about anyway.
If someone is sleeping over as part of the party, keep it to boys only and make the girls leave at 9 or 10. Even though your motives may be innocent (and mostly naive), you are opening a can of worms that will be a problem with the parents of the other kids.
2007-09-17 08:06:46 · answer #3 · answered by brette71 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? I don't know if you've looked around lately, but kids are having sex earlier and earlier. Do you want to be the "cool parent" who allows the drinking, drugs, and sex at your house? Trust me, this sleepover will not be a good idea in the long run. Maybe only harmless kissing this time, but what about next time? The media has caused us all to be so desensitized to sexual activities. These children will be more apt to experiment if you create such a "friendly" environment. What are you planning on telling all these parents when they find out you let both boys and girls spend the night at your home?
2007-09-17 04:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure, but I am going to look a your answers, because I am having my girls a halloween, cookout, and sleepover party on halloween, and my oldest girl is 12 !She wants to invite 2-3 boys along with the girls.I am thinking of making the party like a set time....say from 6:00-9:00, and the boys just go home after the party!
IDK
2007-09-17 04:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they will be kissing??? And you don't think it's a big deal? Wow, I wonder how long it will be until you hear that word "grandmother" with your attitude it shouldn't be long. Kids will do what they can get away with and you are opening the door wide open for whatever they want and they can do it because, really, you don't care.
I would not allow girl/boy sleep overs. It just opens up the door to a bunch of behaivour that should not be allowed. I don't know, I guess some people don't believe that kids will do what they want to esp when you encourage it.
This is very sad, to be setting kids up for sexual behaviour. I know I'll get thumbs down and I don't care. I don't answer questions to get best answers.
2007-09-17 05:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are concerned, tell your son the girls can come but have to go home. The boys can sleep over but not the girls. There's nothing wrong with that. In fact, that is probably the best solution. Think of it this way: would you let your 12 yr old daughter sleep over at a boys house? Not likely. The parents of the girls would probably appreciate that choice. Say the girls can stay until 12 or 1 am then they have to go home. The parents of the girls probably wouldn't let their daughters sleep over anyway.
2007-09-17 04:22:27 · answer #7 · answered by snakekeeper27 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would allow the girls to come over to have cake, watch a movie, or something like that, but I would NOT let them sleep over. Maybe have the parents pick up their daughters around 10:00 and let the boys sleepover.
Scarily enough, kids are experimenting younger and younger these days. I've heard of kids performing oral sex on the school bus as young as 10. Don't provide them with the temptation. Supervisor the kids during the evening and once the girls are gone, leave the boys to themselves.
If you do end up allowing the girls to sleep over, put them in seperate rooms. Maybe put the girls in a room closer to your bedroom. Also, get up periodically to check on them to make sure no one wandered during the night.
2007-09-17 04:14:15 · answer #8 · answered by Meg 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This has long been a debate, and you will get many different answers. Ultimately, only you know your son and how responsible and trustworthy he is. I personally would never allow it, because they will do things when given the opportunity. You shouldn't think them being down there kissing "isn't a big deal", because it is. If your not planning on supervising them, and are oblivious to the fact that more and more young people are having sex, then I would just invite the boys to the sleepover.
2007-09-17 04:07:36 · answer #9 · answered by Angie 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think it's not a good idea because if he thought about it and wants to try it then who knows what will he'll do or you can just put the girls in one room and the boys in another and then you can check on everyone every other hour or 30 mins.You could also just sleep around where the children will be when it's time for them to go to sleep.
2007-09-17 08:29:15 · answer #10 · answered by sexy1319 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite the girls for the party, but only allow the boys to stay the night. Kids are experimenting with sex at younger and younger ages these days. That coupled with the inevitable element of peer pressure, you are setting these kids up for failure.
I would not let my daughter, or son for that matter, attend a co-ed sleep over at this age.
2007-09-17 05:02:12 · answer #11 · answered by Somebody's Sister 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋