Why am I not getting pregnant? Please Help!!?

Question

I have been with the same guy for about 3 years now, and I want to have a baby. I have sex almost every single day but I still have not got pregnant. I dont know why I'm not getting pregnant. But I really want to have a baby.Even my boy friend wants me to have a baby but still I dont know why I am not getting pregnant? Could I be infertile?

Answer 1

1. Have sex three times a week.

Having regular sex is the best way to get pregnant. Couples often try to time everything perfectly for ovulation but do not have sex when they think they are not ovulating. It is true that sex that is not within the time of ovulation will not result in pregnancy. However, because women do not always ovulate when they think they will, having sex three times a week will help to a woman cover her bases, so to speak, and not miss an opportunity to get pregnant.

2. Use an ovulation prediction kit or fertility monitor.

Using an ovulation kit to predict when you are ovulating will improve your chances of getting pregnant. For many women charting or other methods of ovulation prediction are too confusing. Ovulation prediction kits work by reading LH surges prior to ovulation. They are relatively easy to use and are generally accurate for predicting ovulation. Fertility monitors, such as the Clear Blue Easy monitor, are also a worthwhile investment if you would like to get pregnant faster. Fertility monitors are similar to ovulation prediction kits in that they read changes in LH but they also read changes in other hormones and don’t require any guesswork for couples. They are easy to use and will tell you when the best time to get pregnant is.

3. Have sex before ovulation (not after).

Sometimes couples get confused about the best time to have sex in relationship to ovulation. You have a small window of time each month to get pregnant. After a woman ovulates the egg will survive approximately 24 hours. Sperm, on the other hand, will live for up to three to five days. This is why having sex two to three days before ovulation will increase your chances of getting pregnant. Don’t wait until the day you ovulate to have sex. Your partner’s sperm will last longer than your egg and you don’t want to miss an opportunity by waiting.

4. Don’t rely on the Calendar method for predicting ovulation.

A lot of couples have heard to have sex around day fourteen of your cycle. This is based on the calendar method and assumes that you have a regular 28-day cycle and ovulate mid-cycle. Although this is better than just picking an arbitrary day to have sex, it is not a very accurate way to predict when you ovulate. Many women do not ovulate on day fourteen and knowing precisely when you ovulate will help you time intercourse better. Ovulation prediction kits, looking at previous months bbt charts, or watching for body cues will help you to determine when you ovulate.

5. Charting may not be the best way to predict ovulation.

Charting is great for tracking your cycle but it does have disadvantages. By the time you can see ovulation on a bbt chart, you have already ovulated. It is good to chart so you can track your cycles, see if you ovulate the same time each month, and also so you can look back on your cycle and see if you timed things right. But if this is your first cycle trying to get pregnant or if you are not ovulating at the same time each month, an ovulation prediction kit would be more helpful.

6. See a doctor before you start trying to get pregnant.
Make sure you are in good health and have had a regular check up from your OBGYN or medical provider. Untreated infections, sexually transmitted diseases, or poor health can affect your chances of getting pregnant. Its good to see a doctor as well as start taking prenatal vitamins prior to trying to conceive.

7. Don’t smoke, drink alcohol, or abuse drugs when trying to get pregnant.
This may seem like common sense but many women do try to get pregnant while smoking, drinking or using drugs. Smoking, drugs, and alcohol can affect your fertility. It will also affect your unborn child. It is important to stop smoking or using drugs and alcohol before getting pregnant and not wait until you find out you are pregnant.

8. Have enjoyable sex.

Sometimes when couples are trying to conceive, sex becomes a job or function of reproduction and is not as enjoyable. Plan a romantic evening or try something different to spice things up. How you are feeling sexually may factor into your chances of getting pregnant. Some researchers believe that having an orgasm during sex increases your chances of getting pregnant. For women, the spasmic movements of orgasm will help pull the sperm into the uterus and for men a better orgasm may increase the man’s sperm count.

9. Have sex in positions that keep sperm inside the vagina longer.

The missionary position is a good position to use when trying to get pregnant. Avoid positions where the woman is on top. Gravity will allow sperm to leak out with these positions. Also try placing a pillow under your hips to help tilt your pelvis and keep the sperm in longer. Don’t get up right after sex. Try to relax and allow the sperm to stay in the vagina as long as possible.

10. There is no such thing as trying too hard to get pregnant.
Most couples get pregnant within a year of trying. If you have not gotten pregnant within a year consult your doctor for advice.

Answer 2

Stop trying!! You are stressing out your mind and body and when you do that, you're body is not going conceive.

Have sex when ever you two are in the mood, not because you think you are ovulating. Doing that way makes it a chore and takes the fun and love out of creating a new life.

Also, having sex everyday is no help. Men can't reproduce sperm that fast. They need 3 or 4 days to fully "reload".

And I agree with others, get married first. If you love someone enough to have a baby, you love them enough to get married. Sorry, just had to say that.

Answer 3

This is beyond what would happen with a normal couple. Something's definitely wrong. You need to see a fertility specialist and bring partner with you.

One little hint: pop can't reproduce sperm that fast, so to get more healthy sperm chances to get you pregnant, it's best to have sex every OTHER day. Give dad a chance to recover and he'll give you a better chance of getting pregnant.

Take care

TX Mom
not an expert

PS I'm a Bible belter, and I tried to keep myself from saying anything, but if you love this man enough to make babies with him, marry him!

Answer 4

you could try having sex every other day to give him time to rebuild his sperm count.Its almost like making him wait and making him want it so bad that when you all finally get to get her its like an explosion from him.They would so strong.Or try rear entry sex.And when he gets ready to ***, have him insert it even harder so that the force of the penetration would cause the sperm to have a head start on their journey. You can also try a tea called FertiliTea,or and the supplement called fertilAid for men and women. Good luck

Answer 5

your problem can lay on several reasons it could be that your boyfriend or you are taking in to much caffine which lowers your sperm count and makes it harder to concieve or your not timing your self properly keep a calendar next to your bed and mark down when your periods are. say if your about to start next week this is the best time to try to concieve because your egg is getting ready to drop thats how i did it and i now have two beautiful children. give it a shot

Answer 6

Hi Stop putting presure on yourself don't worry. Ok here is how it works 1) YOUR period first day of your cycle write it down. 2) count 14 days the when ur most fertile. 3) for 3 days before ur fertile dont have any sort of sex. GOOD LUCK

Answer 7

There can really be male factor behind your problems. It is more common than many might think. You should go to the doctor and your boyfriend should give semen sample. Low cost and after that you know the reason.

Answer 8

Maybe the problem is with your boyfriend. He's probably shooting blanks.