My boyfriend [now fiance] proposed to me this weekend. I'm seventeen and he's eighteen. I'm not looking for people to criticize me saying we're too young for marriage, I'm just looking for some opinions on how to tell our parents that this is what we want. We already have our lives planned out with a few backup plans just in case, but they don't coincide with the plans our parents thought we were going through with. How do we tell them we've changed our minds?
2007-09-17 03:52:53 · 8 answers · asked by sKa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Keep in mind that people who are mature enough....usually don't have this problem.
But you don't want criticism and I respect that. So just be sure you tell the P's together. Talk with your fiance and decide how you want to say things. Then go in as a united team.
Good luck.
2007-09-17 04:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by SpeedyGonz 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know you dont want to hear this, but truly there is no need to rush, enjoy being young.
I would tell your parents exactly what you want to do. But trust me from experience nothing ever goes as planned.
My Fiance and i have been together for 10 years, we met when i was 17 and he was 20. i would never have thought to rush it, i was to young, and had a lot to learn and there where alot of things i had yet to experience.
have you thought about just having a long engagement, and see where it goes from there? Either way i wish you the best of luck.
2007-09-17 11:01:14 · answer #2 · answered by Gotta luv it! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well...I know you don't want to hear it but you're definitely too young. I mean, your in love enough today to get married right? And that love is supposed to be eternal right? So what's the hurry? Please give yourselves some time...you just don't have enough life experience to know for sure you're doing the right thing.
With that said, if you still decide you're going to do it no matter what, honesty is still the best policy. Be honest and up front with your parents. And if you're not mature enough for that, you're definitely NOT mature enough for marriage.
2007-09-17 11:06:16 · answer #3 · answered by rpaitse 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell them. For goodness sake, if you don't feel confident enough to tell your own parents who love you about your engagement then it shows just how young you really are. If you were my daughter I wouldnt be happy about it, but I would think, let her wear a ring and pretend she is engaged and no doubt her plans and ideas will change yet again. If you are serious and committed then you will be ok, won't you?
2007-09-17 10:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK ,YOU KNOW I'M AN OLD LADY SO LET ME SAY THAT NO MATTER WHAT ANYONE ON HERE SAYS ,,,,YOU ARE GOING TO DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ,RIGHT !! SO WITH THAT SAID JUST GO TO YOUR MOM AND TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL ,TALK IT OUT WITH HER FIRST ,THEN ASK HER TO HELP YOU BREAK THE NEWS TO YOUR DAD, IT WILL GO DOWN A LOT SMOOTHER THAT WAY. I DID THE SAME THING AT YOUR AGE , I ENDED UP DIVORCED 18 YEARS LATER ,BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN YOU WILL . GOOD LUCK DEAR LET ME KNOW HOW IT GOES ...
2007-09-17 11:24:49 · answer #5 · answered by shelly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are old enough to get engaged then you are old enough to tell your folks. Just sit them down and say it, straight out. Do it together, you are a couple now so you should stand next to one another when it is told.
2007-09-17 10:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell them straight yeh there might be yelling and what not but hey they ya parents they will still car for ya when they cool down
2007-09-17 10:56:14 · answer #7 · answered by mustang_rws 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
But you are too young.
2007-09-17 10:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋