I've had a turbulent relationship for 1.5 years. Moved in and right back out. He was on bad off on drugs and an alcoholic. His family finally stepped in and sent him to rehab 1.5 mos ago. He has been back for two weeks and already had a drink and missed AA meetings. He has a very terrible and scary temper and I am so scared to break it off again. How can I turn him off? Spend less time with him, stay busy w family and friends until it dies down?
2007-09-17 03:49:31 · 21 answers · asked by MM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just leave.
2007-09-17 03:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by jerryguy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trying to get him to break up with you when you really want to break up with him is time spent playing games that could otherwise be spent more productively. If necessary you should just leave; if you fear he's temper so much, leave when he's not at home and don't leave a forwarding address (or trail). But trying to inspire him to leave you is a big waste of time.
2007-09-17 03:58:31 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to get him to break up with you. Leave him. The drinking and drug use will not stop.
If you are afraid he will become violent make sure you have other people there when you tell him you are leaving.
Check with the House of Ruth (or the equivalent) for other tips and any assistance they may be able to provide.
2007-09-17 03:59:00 · answer #3 · answered by Eric D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to do it is just to be honest and tell him you dont want to be with him anymore, dont give up and go back if he gets clingy and upset, after a while he will get the message and accept it. Dont spend one more minute in a crap relationship life is too short. Be happy.
2007-09-17 03:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start going to church or find another positive support group that focuses on self-improvement. It will do two things, for one it will help you find a new group of people to associate with as well as help you personally. It will also either cause him to join (highly doubtful) or stop wanting to be around you.
Addicts dont like hanging out wiht people who make them feel guilty or responsible for their addicitons and actions.
2007-09-17 03:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by Phil M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave. Do not look back. If you need help, grab family and friends and if he hurts you, call the cops. Simple. Don't wait for the possibility that he might break up with you. It's your life, or funeral.
2007-09-17 03:54:21 · answer #6 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the initiative and get out NOW! Do it while he's gone if you have to and DO NOT go back. Your life shouldn't spend another minute in this condition. Go cautiously, but GO!
2007-09-17 03:57:08 · answer #7 · answered by Dave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him the truth. Honestly, I would sent him a letter if I thought he was going to hurt me. In the letter, I would tell him that the spark is gone. But, thats just my opinion.
2007-09-17 03:55:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to develop a backbone and walk out of this relationship. Don't wait for him to do it or it may never happen!
2007-09-17 03:56:37 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, you should have thought about this before you got in over your head. This is why girls end up in these bad situations... poor foresight.
2007-09-17 03:55:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate with him.... Just flat out and tell him. When he is back to the person you want him to be for him to call you. You deserve more.
2007-09-17 03:54:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋