I got into an argument this morning. I like to listen to the other person, listen to thier point and then comment. If I get too involved emotionally during the argument and start yelling, I might say something I will regret later on, or I might not fully listen to what they have to say etc. But because I sit and think about what the other person is saying, he gets mad at me because I don't yell and scream at him. What the heck? (his mother yelled and screamed for hours on end, and I am opposite of that)
2007-09-17 03:25:35 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Sounds like he needs a good whupping with a hairbrush to feel loved.
If you want to save this relationship and can't bring yourself to scream, try throwing things. Tupperware works fine, since it doesn't break and won't hurt him--kinda like Wiffle Crockery.
Or you can call his mom, tell her you can't do anything with her idiot son, "And could you please talk some sense into him?" I'm sure she misses those days too.
2007-09-17 05:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh girl i feel you. if he grew up getting yelled at, it's almost like it's a sickness, he needs the back and forth of screaming and when you don't do it, it makes him mad cause it looks like you aren't emotionally there with him. it's an insecurity thing. you know? i would wait for a time when things are good with the two of you and just be like, this is what bothers me about when we fight. you've go to know i care just as much as you do, but i am not a screamer. i am listening to you and want to hear what you have to say. something like that to let him know that you are right there with him, just that you don't like to yell cause you can't take back what you might say when you get excited. talk to him. good luck!
2007-09-17 18:19:03 · answer #2 · answered by phlygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, yeah. I am a fighter, kicker, screamer... and when the other person is just sitting there taking it, it ticks me off beyond belief! I guess it makes me feel like they don't care enough to even get heated back. I wish i had that kind of self control, but I am a time bomb waiting to blow most of the time. I have a very short temper, a trait that I inherited from my father, who did scream and yell... so did my mom. Maybe it is genetic...
2007-09-17 10:34:50 · answer #3 · answered by GiGi! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When someone gets angry at you for not arguing back, they aren't really trying to resolve anything. They are only trying to provoke a reaction from you. You did the right thing. Staying calm in the face of rage only upsets that person more. Too bad for them.
If you have a professional or close relationship with this person, I'd suggest mediation.
2007-09-17 10:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by Buttercup 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh! See? Now that's where You and I are different!! When me and my man are fighting, we are both yelling at the same time and never getting our points across!! I do see your point but I don't get how you can sit there and listen when you're just brimming with things to say!! I don't think I would want to argue with you!! You'd probably rip me a new one!!!!!!! LOL
2007-09-17 10:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the other person does not put any input they're taking the risk of having something thrown at them because that will only get me angrier. If the other person does not want to resolve the issue then just walk away like a coward would...
2007-09-17 10:34:46 · answer #6 · answered by Ace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another word for responding in silence in an argument is "passive aggression", and it is very effective. The quieter you are, the louder the other person is. I would suggest some counseling for all involved. Good luck, and please realize that neither extreme is helpful to a relationship.
2007-09-17 10:37:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's not used to this type of response and I'm guessing it un-nerves him, as he doesn't know how to handle it.
He learned about yelling and screaming from his mother and now through you, he'll unlearn all that sh1t however; it's going to take time.
2007-09-17 10:35:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm the same as you, well actually i hate confrontation all together. but you won't get anywhere if you both sit there and yell at each other. it's just a waste of energy.
2007-09-17 10:43:06 · answer #9 · answered by GOLDENFAIRY 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him that your not ghetto and never will be !
Pointless scream fest.....sheesh!....maybe he'll feel like you are verbally abusing him and therefore , justify his side or wrong doing because of your screaming.
he'll learn how to communicate like a real man someday, just keep teaching him how its done !
2007-09-17 10:33:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋