An ex-roommate moved into my apartment complex last month. After rooming together for two years, we decided to go our seperate ways this past June. She was suppose to buy a house but that option fell through and instead she took a 2 month vacation at her parents home who live in another state.
She comes back and asks to stay with me until she gets herself settled. That was about 2 and half weeks under my roof. She decides to rent at my apartment complex and she listed me as a referral. After she was approved, she requested I split the referral fee with her.
It through me for a loop because I have listed friends and aquaintances as a referral and never asked for a portion of that money. In fact, the apartment complex don't even write you a check, they take the fee off of next month's rent. I've talked to other people and they agree that what she asked was inappropiate. Am I being unfair for not wanting to give her half of the referral fee?
2007-09-17 03:08:19 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thanks for the answers. The responses are overwhelming that I'm not in the wrong. I would hate to come off as stingy.
Jenna you said to tell her the apartment complex takes it off the rent.....I told her that and even showed her the notice the complex left at my door that stated my October rent will be reduced by $300. I didn't want her to think I was lying that's why I showed her the note, and she still asked/told me to write her $150 check next month.
2007-09-17 05:20:20 · update #1
hmmmmmmm....
You are not being unfair. The referral fee is for you referring her to the apartment complex. Her "payment" was you giving her a good reference. You get the "money", she gets a place to stay. That's what makes the situation win-win. If she had discussed this with you beforehand, it would be a different story. But asking for the money (when there isn't any real money) after-the-fact is fishy and greedy.
If you had discussed this before and you said no to the scam, would she still have wrote you down as a reference? or would she have looked for another place to stay? You don't have to give her anything. Count your "money". Then count your blessings that she's not living with you anymore.
Hope this helps.
2007-09-17 03:18:11 · answer #1 · answered by Kara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...I hate to ask.. but what is a referral fee? You get paid a fee for giving a referral?... I'm not from the USA and this sounds bizarre to me...
Anyways, absolutely not! Friendship is about giving and taking and this sounds like this friend only knows how to take. I too have had so called friends that are around only when they want something, otherwise, they don't seem to make contact when it's important like when there is a special event or show any interest in my life. So I have learned not to invest my energy on people that are not worthy.
So move on and there are other people out there that know what it is to be a true friend.
Good luck
2007-09-17 10:22:16 · answer #2 · answered by Say 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's a real friend she wouldn't get mad if you didn't give her the money. In fact, you should be able to tell her that it will just take off for the next months rent and it's not like you'll actually see any cash from it.
If you never agreed before hand that you would give her half then don't worry about it.
It's not being unfair at all. If it was intended for you two to split that money... I would think they apartment complex would just give you two your portion themselves.
No worries. I guess you'll see how good of a friend you have if she's gets all upset about nothing.
Best wishes to you!
2007-09-17 10:17:40 · answer #3 · answered by Jenna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She stayed with you after returning and she was able to get apartment in your complex, you were listed as referral , after she was approved she had the nerve to ask you to split the portion of that money. I dont think that you are being unfair she is out of line. dont give her nothing and i would soon part friend ship with this person.
best of luck
2007-09-17 10:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, I think your in ur right mind and she just step out of line here, after you openly help her out after the split and now she moving on but has put you as a referral, but want for you to pay half of the fee, na I think she is trying to take advantage,
2007-09-17 10:19:37 · answer #5 · answered by houston 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO.
first you dont actually get money. 2nd.. you refered her, which means that it is going to make you look bad if she messes up (does not pay rent, causes trouble, or destroys the place)
she shouldnt have asked you.. if you wanted to offer some money to her because you got some off your rent that would have been a personal choice not something that is forced on you.
Tell her you already paid her.. she stayed at your place for over 2 weeks without paying rent.
2007-09-17 10:16:51 · answer #6 · answered by billiecep2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you'll take it out of what she owes you for 2.5 weeks rent and food. You have every right to keep the money.
2007-09-17 10:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! She's got nerve! It would really annoy me too! If you dont want to be confrontational about it just dont bring it up again. If she brings it up again, tell her you haven't gotten a check from them so you have no money to split.
2007-09-17 10:15:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The referral fee should go to you. Not her.
She should be grateful that you let her crash at your place to begin with!
Good luck with that!
2007-09-17 10:11:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u are not being unfair. it was very rude of her to ask you for part of the money she has no right to the money, it was like a gift to you and u for no reason should have to split it with her.
2007-09-17 10:14:04 · answer #10 · answered by daisycm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋