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Women: Do you agree with the statement, ' Do as I say not as I do?"

Is it okay if your significant other had multiple affairs with other woman and was still be able to come home to you without you questioning their behavior or actions? What if you should be the one to have an affair? Should your mate be entitled to getting all worked up and upset over your indiscretion?

And, men:

Why do you think your wives or girlfriends should have to follow your rule of thumb "Do as I say and not as I do?"
What makes you think it''s okay for you to cheat, but when your love ones go out to explore better opportunities; you practically want to rip her and the guy a new butt hole?

Please help me to understand the reasoning behind all this maddness

2007-09-17 02:57:51 · 17 answers · asked by plumprump26 4 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

17 answers

I think ANYONE who cheats is a selfish @sshole, male OR female.
I could care less about your reasons. You cheat, you don't respect your self or the person you're with and you should be castrated. Have the decency to leave them if you're not happy.

2007-09-17 03:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 3 1

Growing up I heard this many time from alot of grownups and I think it sucks and totally expresses to the one you are saying it to that they are free to do as they want and should be ok to do so but you cannot do it. I would often think when I heard this that here the "adult" is suppose to be the mature on and be an example; not a drill sargent or be an example saying I can do it but you can't. Regarding hearing this from a spouse or "signifigant" other; I think the person saying it should really look at what they can do and why the other can'y or "shouldn't" cause just say this "Do as I say and not as I do" really represents what kind of mutual partner they are - not good!

2007-09-17 10:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by James H 2 · 0 2

Everyone should do unto others as they would have done to themselves. Easiest rule in the book. None of this do as I say not as I do. The way I see it is if you don't like the feeling or thought of being cheated on, don't do it to your other half. In my opinion, have the balls to get out and stop sneaking around behind their back. STOP CHEATING and just leave. Or if you can't (or wont) then talk to your spouse, let them know that you want to sleep around and that it means nothing, and they should do the same. lol

2007-09-17 10:09:50 · answer #3 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 1 1

Two wrongs don't make a right? But also, if a man cheats.. leave him. Guys can be idiots.. sure, mistakes happen, But cheating is something I feel should not be forgiven. I would never cheat on a woman, so I'd hope she'd give me that same respect, however if he's cheating on you.. what is wrong with just kicking him out the door? You shouldn't exactly stoop to his level.

2007-09-17 10:05:11 · answer #4 · answered by Lost 3 · 0 2

It doesn't apply to everybody.
My wife and I have the same power in the house we call it partnership. I never impose that statement coz I think it's unfair and I never dominate my wife, though she always heed my advise whenever we decide on a major decision but only after a long deliberation.
You don't have to understand it coz it's madness as you call it.
Avoid it.

2007-09-17 10:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by Blue Angel 3 · 0 1

its common sence dear... if you are in a relationship and your partner is screwing around then its time to pack their bags and toss them out on the curb... change the locks and say sianara baby.... a realtionship is somethng between two LOVING people and there should never be a 3rd wheel or a 4th for that matter..
when i was to be married to my first husband the preacher said to me 'do you love honor and obey, till death do you part"and i said NO WAY.!!! he just looked at me and said WHAT? i told him i will never obey anyone as i am an independent person... and will never be made to do anything i dont want to.. he said ok...
do you love, homor and cherish till death do you part and it was fime that way...
no one should be made to obey any one. its a partner ship between two loving people... and should be as such at all tmes... sharing everything , the good the bad and the ugly...
UNDERSTAND?
heers
jo

2007-09-17 10:09:38 · answer #6 · answered by josie d 3 · 2 1

If such a relationship is not an open one where both can do what they want without recriminations, then it's really not a relationship at all. Cheating is never right. Being controlling is not right. The type of relationship you describe is certainly not one God would want any child of His to be involved with.

2007-09-17 10:06:52 · answer #7 · answered by Lady G 6 · 0 3

men are possessive.
nothing about what you said is right, but in some peoples mind they think they're entitled to do just that.
you deserve better. leave him and go do you, you deserve it and someone with a real head on their shoulders and in their pants.
blessings and luck to you

2007-09-17 10:07:13 · answer #8 · answered by bishop 3 · 1 1

THERE IS NO REASONING, BECAUSE IT IS PURE INSANITY. ANYONE who lacks the self respect to stay in a totally dysfunctional relationship like you listed, DESERVES whatever they get until they WAKE UP, get a clue, and GET OUT.

2007-09-17 10:05:35 · answer #9 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0 2

Oh yes, it's only men who think this way....sure.

Men AND women do this because they like to walk all over everyone without getting walked on themselves. Basically, chalk it up to selfishness and possessiveness over their partner.

2007-09-17 10:05:27 · answer #10 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 0 3

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