why do women make everybody believe that raising kids is so hard?

Question

women complain all the time about how hard it is, i have twins and i think its cake!!!

i think these women just dont put forth the effort!!!

Answer 1

You have twins? Congratulations. Have they already graduated college? Didn't think so!

Just wait! You will see.

Answer 2

Raising children is a lot of fun and is very rewarding.It is also a lot of work,stressful and many many tears will be shed.I have two grown children.A boy and a girl.I would not trade the experience for anything in the world. You stated that women who say how hard it is raising children" just don't put forth the effort",you must not be putting forth the effort if you think raising children is a piece of cake.Your children must be raising themselves. The early years are the easiest.As children become teenagers it get a lot harder.During those teen years I shed enough tears to fill the oceans.There is so much to worry about during that time.The children get minds of their own and there is nothing you can say or do to change it.You worry almost constantly for their safety and well being. The old saying"when they are young they tug on your apron strings, when they are older they tug on your heart strings", is so true.Your twins must be young,just wait a few years and see if you feel the same way.

Answer 3

Why don't you stay home from work and take care of the twins full time. Do all of the housework and laundry and cook and clean. Tell me if it is a piece of cake then. Kids are wonderful - but they are work so don't say that women don't put forth the effort - or better yet - try being a single parent and add all of the above and tell me we don't put in the effort.

Answer 4

Raising kids is hard... work that is. It is stressful, society tells you to not spank, for fear of abuse, then you start to wonder if your kids will grow up to be good people and every move or thought you do and take could alter what they could have become, or how they will see themselves when they become adults. So, yes, in my book, it is hard work and even harder to raise them right. You have twins, congrats, but you need to look at the women that have no help and are still trying to raise the kids they have to the best ability they can. You may think its easy, but I could guess that you have a man helping every step of the way. Try looking at the single mom, or the SAHM that puts 40 hours in at the office every week, try looking at the military spouse that has to go through a new birth alone because their spouse is deployed right now.

You need to look at the majority of the world here, it is hard to raise kids when CPS is a phone call away because you had to discipline your children, or there is no help. That is when it is hard. So while you may think it is easy, your situation alone is whats easy... As for complaining, I am a military wife, who is a SAHM that works in an office, and yes I have my days where it is hard, but I don't complain about it. I try and find a different way for the next day to make it easier on me.

Answer 5

I think there are a lot of variables missing here. Your circumstances are surely different from each individual woman.
Are you a single parent?
Do you have an active partner in child rearing?
How old are they?
Etc....I could go on and on.
I fully enjoy raising my daughter. . I'm basically having a blast being a mommy, something totally unexpected and I waited a long time for, and was told it would never happen. So I cherish every moment I have with her. But I wouldn't call it easy. I'm a single parent, there isn't a daddy to allow me a shower or time to myself. I sneak in those moments while she's napping. I don't have someone to help pay the bills, I work full time. I'm thankful everyday to be given the opportunity to be a mommy and love something more than yourself. But it can take a lot out of you.

Answer 6

The women that complain are probably the women that have to deal with dead beat dads!!!! I have two teenagers and it takes alot of time and effort to make sure they stay on the right track. My hubby and I are always there for them and they know they can come to us no matter what the issue. They are great kids, but its still a difficult but rewarding job that I wouldn't trade for anything!

Congrats on the twins....can't wait to see how you are going to be when they both hit puberty!

Answer 7

HMMM.... sounds to me like one "woman" (sorry you may be trolling I dont know and wont assume) is taking her fortune and is using it against others. You're generalizing, for some it does come easier, but you must also factor in other obstacles in life... You can be a truly devoted mom, yet have a boss who has no kids and doesnt care and works you knowing you have a kid, with no remorse or understanding. It could also be that some women have husbands who are like kids themselves, or a sick family member, or they're stressed with both work and school.


The point is, it could well be ANYTHING that makes it more difficult for some than others... shame on you for judging these women who DONT have it as easy as you do. Perhaps you made better choices, maybe right now is just your season for well being and fortune, but my how quickly that can change... watch your lips honey... karma is a mutha.

Answer 8

First of all every child is different so you cant say that because you have twins and it is a piece of cake,
you think that woman just dont put forth the effort, i am a parent of three and i can tell you this frrom my own experience each child is different with different needs.
best of luck

Answer 9

lmao...wow you must be some freak superwoman mom. maybe it hasn't hit yet, but raising kids isn't cake.
what else do you do?
do you cook for your family? clean home and laundry while watching your twins?
or do you have some maids and nannies available to you?
that's the only way i could say raising kids is cake, if i had sh@t loads of help...which most women don't. so you should take this comment elsewhere
as far as effort goes...i go beyond effort in my day in day out activities with my two kids...take that bi@tch

Answer 10

I can't speak for everyone, but i didn't think it was hard. I have a 17 and a 21 yr old. It does change alot when they get older (in the teens) Due to peer pressure etc.. But i wouldn't take any of it back, i feel i was and still am a good parent. My children are my life. They will make mistakes and that is how they grow to be mature adults. Lifes lessons will teach them alot, i don't like parents who think their kids are angels and don't or will not make mistakes. They i feel need to take those rose colored glasses off.

Answer 11

I have a 16 month old and I think that it's great. But I think that it does get hard for many women. Jobs, other family members. My husband and I both work. We live with ten miles of all of our family. And somedays you just feel like there is too much to do. In some houses, men dont do alot to help out with chores, or there is farm work. It really depends on every woman and their situtation.