I just don't get it.I can understand that someone might feel sorry for an orphan and be charitable and give it a home but apart from charity why would someone WANT to adopt a baby? I heard people say they were unable to have a baby so would adopt.Why would adopting solve the problem? You still don't have a baby you are merely looking after someone else's.Why would you want to look after someone else's baby full time? I would like a baby when I'm older but if I found I couldn't I would never adopt.I want MY baby not someone else's! Also why when I didn't want to keep my baby did people tell me to give it up fpr adoption? That never solved the problem.I didn't want a baby and if I gave it up for adoption it would still exist.Stupid people
2007-09-17 01:57:34 · 24 answers · asked by yelena 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
People make babies so they can have a baby with their DNA.
2007-09-17 02:04:54 · update #1
If you adopt a child you will never love it as much as a child that is your own.
2007-09-17 02:07:10 · update #2
I am 18 years old
2007-09-17 02:08:26 · update #3
Get back into that cave of yours TROLL!
2007-09-17 02:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by peroxide.pixie 5 · 21⤊ 0⤋
What are you talking about!?! I sincerely hope you don't have children any time soon. It's a very selfish thing to say that you don't want to raise a child and instill your values so much as have a baby of your OWN!
What does it matter where the baby came from? If your heart is open to loving a child it won't matter if the child is biologically yours or not. The child is yours from the moment you decide to care for it and love it.
Many many people manage to get pregnant and pop out a baby and have no interest in being good parents... they never really decide to care for it or love it. Giving birth to a baby that is biologically "yours" does NOT make you a parent. Loving and doing your best to raise a child to be a responsible member of society is what makes a person a parent. Those of us with the love and skills to do that are capable of doing that whether the child is biologically ours or not!
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Yelena I just read that previous post... I'm not sure if you're lying, I think you probably are. At 36 weeks the baby is viable! You could have gone into labor while writing that and given birth to a perfectly healthy baby...36 weeks is not even a premature labor anymore! I don't believe that a doctor would nor could legally do an abortion on a baby at that gestational age regardless of the country.
2007-09-17 09:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by SAHW 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Not everyone has the same mindset as you. Plenty of people are able to love their adopted child as much as their biological child, and they do.
Some people just want to have a child one way or another, so if they can't make one of their own they prefer adopting rather than not having any child at all.
When you adopt a child you are not just "looking after it for someone else". That child doesn't have anyone else! The child becomes a part of the family and the parents have all the same responsibilities as they would have with their biological child. They are committed to taking care of the child throughout childhood.
I personally wouldn't want to make my own child. I'd much rather adopt. I don't care if the child has my genes or not. I'd rather help a child that really needs help than make a child of my own just to pass down my genes while ignoring the problem orphans around the world are facing.
2007-09-17 09:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by undir 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You must be young as you have a very selfish and immature outlook....What do you suggest happens to orphaned children...they are kept in some sort of institution....you would do well to live in some Eastern European countries of old...Many people adopt to give a disadvantaged child a better life...some adopt as they feel an obligation to the child's parents following a bereavement.
If you cant have children of your own, then there is still a strong maternal instinct in some people and that instinct for nurturing is there regardless. It can be lessened by caring for a child, even it is not your own.
As for giving your own child up for adoption...of course it would still exist...what other solution do you envisage...abortion I presume.
I hope that answers some of your questions...when you grown up and have a family of your own, you may understand...on the other hand you may not....
2007-09-17 09:07:07 · answer #4 · answered by Knownow't 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
When you adopt a baby, the baby becomes yours. You set the rules, you have all the legal and medical power, that child calls you mom. Some people may get pregnant by accident and instead of abortion or caring for a child you cannot care for, they give the child to someone who is in a position to care for them.
Children who are up for adoption are not always "unwanted". I had a friend in high school who got pregnant and knew she could give the baby a better life if she gave it to a couple who could not have children. She is still in contact with the family and sends birthday presents to the child. She is on her way to becoming a doctor and plans on setting aside money to put that kid in college.
2007-09-17 09:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by mable3691214 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Why do you worry? 2 questions ago you couldnt afford to go to college. A child is adopted to be loved and cherished by parents who maybe are at a disadvantage of not being able to produce a baby of their own,. God help any child that you ever produce. You heartless thoughtless teenager!!
2007-09-20 05:46:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are 18 and it shows...you are small minded and shallow and just a kid. people who adopt do so because they wish to give a child a loving home. i want to adopt when im older..even if i can have kids. and i would love it as much as my own because altho you dont give birth to it you bring it up from a baby and thats all the diffrence there is. i feel sorry for your baby when its born. it doesnt stand much chance with a dim witted mother does it?
2007-09-18 04:59:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are millions of orphans in the world. do they not deserve the chance to live in a loving family environment? Why shouldn't infertile people have the chance to have a family? You do not have to give birth to a child to love it. I love my step children dearly. You are obviously very young. I'm sure when you get older you will understand about love a bit more than you do now.
2007-09-17 09:20:23 · answer #8 · answered by JanJan 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
According to another of your many personalities, you had your baby adopted; even a picture (allegedly) of your adopted child on your myspace acct.
As the first answer stated, TROLL, CAVE, GO!
2007-09-17 10:06:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are forgetting that you were never pregnant. You made up the story about wanting an abortion at 36 weeks because your baby had a cleft palate. If you are going to make up stories just to provoke a reaction, you need to keep track of what you have already told people!
2007-09-17 09:19:08 · answer #10 · answered by lilmissdisorganised 6 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Some people don't want to so much "have a baby" as they want to "be parents." The difference is huge--and something you may not be able to fathom until you're a parent yourself.
2007-09-17 09:17:50 · answer #11 · answered by lfh1213 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋