A non-religious reason why gay marriage is bad?

Question

Do you have any?

MafiaGirl, "Children will hate you all forever"!? Care to elaborate?

Answer 1

**From David W above**
It's unnatural.
Same sex couples are now able to adopt children. What values with they have when they grow up?
Children need a balanced view of life. The influence and support of a father in respect of paternal things, and of a mother for maternal issues.
I cannot accept that two men 'married' to each other with an adopted daughter would adequately deal with the onset of puberty and menstruation and the like. Which one would have the relevant experience?
We have enough 'mixed up children today from normal families, what kind of society will we breed where heterosexual relationships are not the norm?

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David, your point is invalid.

#1My divorced single father did a fine job dealing with puberty and menstruation. Why would you assume a gay man couldn't do the same? Would you have declared my dad incapable and taken us from him?

#2Maybe we have so many "mixed up children" because they're being raised in unhappy, unstable, dysfunctional "normal families". Maybe if we opened our minds a bit we'd help our kids become a little less mixed up.

#3I was raised without the maternal influence and I am a happy, healthy, well adjusted, feminine, 29 year old wife. I've been this happy, healthy, well adjusted, girly girl all my life. My mom wasn't there to influence it and my dad didn't prevent me from being this way. I've been married for 9 years and we're starting a family. My dad raised us (me, my sister and my brother) with all of his lack of maternal influence to be one of the tightest families I know. My sister and my niece live with me and my husband while she gets back on her feet after a bad divorce. My dad single handedly raised us to be this way. To support each other in our times of triumph as well as our times of defeat. Which leads me to your first comment...

Maybe same sex couples will raise their children with the values that all people should be tolerated, all people deserve love and compassion, and anybody (couple or not) who wants to be a parent in their heart of hearts is capable of being a parent regardless of their sexual orientation.

Just a little bit to think about..

Answer 2

So people are still making the "definition" argument, as if the definition is something given, which means they're not really making a non-religious argument. As late as 1967, Barack Obama's parents would not have been able to legally marry in 16 US states, because of the "definition". The civil union option is no better, since Brown vs. Board of Education (1954) says clearly that separate is inherently unequal. The fact is the *only* argument against same sex marriage is bigotry, and they don't want to accept that they are bigots.

Answer 3

There isn't;t one 2 people who love each other get married have a life together, more love in the world I'm all for that.



And for those who raise the issue of children. WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU??
a child given a loving home is wrong??? who cares if they're same sex or not, your argument insults single parents as well and widowed parents are you going to say they can't give a child a stable home as well how ridiculous.
Its far better that a child is given a loving home instead of being brought up in care where they could end up a hell of a lot more screwed up than in a family environment with a gay couple or a straight single person.
Personally I find that gay people who I know have adopted appreciate a child so much more because they don't assume it is a given. They choose to do this unlike some silly teenagers who don't even know who the father is.

Answer 4

I've heard plenty. And, in my opinion, they're all ridiculous.

Here are a couple:

"Employers would be required to provide health insurance for both partners, which would be too much stress on the institution of family coverage."

"Increased adoption by homosexuals- More children would be deprived of the parenting of one gender; and, as a result, they would have a very strong tendency toward emotional and/or psychological problems. Additionally, children raised by homosexuals are more likely to be homosexuals themselves."


Let me be quite clear in saying that I am in complete disagreement with all of the above. And, rather than getting into why I disagree and so forth, I'll simply say that I think the solution to this issue is to get government out of the institution of marriage altogether.

Answer 5

nope. There is no reason to me that it is bad. You can't help whom you fall in love with. I think that people need to get a life and get over it. It doesn't in no way effect the ones whom are straight. The only thing that people may come up with is if you decide to adopt. It may be harder for the kid but I have a friend that was adopted by gay parents and he is just fine. He is not gay and he is a really cool person. So to me there is no reason!!! He also was the captain of the basketball team for 2 years! Yeah people would give him a hard time every now and then but not as much as you would think! People and young kids are more excepting now then ever but some are still raised by ignorant people and they teach their kid that its wrong. So in turn those people are the ones that make our world so full of hate!

Answer 6

Sorry I cannot come up with any reason why gay marriage is bad, love comes in many guises and who are we to judge those who fall in love, love makes the world go round.

Answer 7

If its a civil marriage who cares. It brings legal benefits and protections. But the word marriage is so religiously contexted you might be better just calling it a contract and having a party

Answer 8

although I am for gay marriage a good argument that is not religious is that if this became popular, and everyone were to be gay, then the human race would become extinct.

impossible though =]

Answer 9

OK, here goes (I'm gonna get thumbed down like crazy now but **** it)

I don't have a problem with gay marriage. What I do have a problem with is a gay couple raising a child. Now I know many of you will say 'oh get over it you homophobic bigot this is the 21st century' but I don't think its right at all.

Firstly its not natural (if a man and a man were supposed to have a child together surely they would be able to naturally), but more importantly I think the childs feelings are often overlooked.

Yes I am aware that two gay people may well be able to provide a loving home for a child - but their childhood will surely be sheer hell. We all know how cruel kids can be, and having two 'parents' of the same sex can only lead to a life of torment, bullying and exclusion.

Kids are very unforgiving towards any form of 'difference' or weakness, and this one tops the list as far as I can see. I think any gay couple who want to have a 'family' are being very selfish in this respect.

You may now bring on the 20 thumbs down.

Answer 10

After being divorced, and losing a sh#t load of money, i say, let th f@ggots get married, so they can clog up the courts and make lawyers richer, if they want.

Marriage is already a mockery today, thanks to the liberated angry women that are running around today, so why not?