My life seems to be completely messed up, please help me!?

Question

My life seems to be cursed, i dont know whats going on...

2005: I completed my olevels...I worked n studied really hard but I ended up with 2 As and 7 Bs only, when I recieved my certificate the 7 Bs were b/w 87-89...u see just the border line to get As

2006: I completed my higher secondary schooling, worked hard as usual, n my papers went excellent...but when I recieved my certificate, I got 74, 76, 73 in Biology, Physics and Chemistry respectively

2007: it was March the 7th, the day began nicely, I was in a good mood and so was my boyfriend, we just decided to meet, after 2 or 3 hours of our meeting, he got murdered, someone killed him, n the murderer is still on the loose

2007: Though I was messed up with his sudden death, but I concentrated hard on my studies, and managed to get a distinction and a gud percentage

2007: 9th September, a BIG day for me, while I was giving my Aptitude test for a medical university, the air conditioner was unfortunately on my head

and my whole body went numb, so I messed up my test, and didnt get in

2007: I got into another very good med uni...unfortunately its quite expensive, and I know my parents cannot afford it..

Now i dont know what to do...all day and night im crying, I wanna become a doctor...all my life Ive been workin hard for it...but now..i just cannot think of any solution...please help me

I miss my boyfriend, I messed up my test, my dream of becoming a doctor seems to be broken...help me...im breaking

Answer 1

sarah..welcome to the real world!

you are not alone.. many others have gone through such situations - sometime even worse!

If i talk about me.. i have been through more harsh times. I wont say I understand how you feel cuz no matter how much i've been through this, i still cant tell what you are experiencing!

dont think your medical career is over! there are loads of options available - the only problem is that people dont look at all of them! Even if the university is expensive there HAS TO BE a scholarship policy. Sometimes these scholarships are on merit basis and sometimes on need basis. Contact the university, see what conditions are there for the scholarship and work out a plan to earn one yourself! Talk to your parents and see what they say. You can even opt for other programs like Pharm D or Medical Engineering. Some private universities are still accepting students - look for a good one and apply for admission there!

Deaths are something that one has no control on. You just have to go on with life! No doubt they leave a deep and lasting impact on our lives but we just have to accept them as the decision of God and go on with our lives.

2A's and 7B's is in no way a bad result. Only because O-Level powerhouses like City and Beaconhouse have students getting 7A's doesnt mean that you have to be one too. You got into a good college and got good result in Intermediate is all that matters.

Look at it this way.. you made it through all these tests and obstacles. You were worried about admissions when your O-Levels result came but you managed through and even performed brilliantly. You are worried about admission now but your belief will InshaAllah once again win over you and you will be getting into a nice university - even the one you talked about - and someday you might be writing me a prescription for the common cold that I cant figure out how to get rid off!

Live life!


PS: Ever heard of Murphy's Law? It says when a thing has to go wrong it will go wrong and that too at the worst possible time.

PPS: Oh and yeah I have sat under one of the regent plaza airconditioners myself back at O-Levels - and its horrible!

Answer 2

1st you need to get over your grief - you are showing classic symptoms of Depression and Anxiety, You need to get a referral from your GP and talk about your recent loss. There will come a stage when you will want answers and take action - join volunteer groups that help victims of Murder. Until this is sorted you will not be able to go out and achieve - putting you under more pressure and making you feel worse. You want to be a Doctor of Medicine but know that your parents can not afford this (at this stage) . Keele Uni offer Bursaries (see below); or (and this will be a very difficult choice) become part of the AHP (Allied Health Professionals) as a start and if necessary take the long route to becoming a GP or even a specialist consultant. You obviously want to be a GP to help people - this would be a stepping stone and could help you gain a foothold. The other hard option is for you to take out a student loan - you will be in debt for around 30K BUT you would achieve your dream. I believe that we don't always understand why things happen and at the time it is extremely difficult to manage - 10 years down the line you will look back and see what you have achieved and the number of people that have been helped by you - because you were selfless and wanted to take part in life. Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 3

Instead of focusing on the negatives, you need to focus on the positives. What you think about gets more energy and grows. Make a list of all the good things that have happened in the past few years - even if they seem small to you - and concentrate on those things instead.

Has your health been good?
Can you pay your bills?
Is your family supportive?
Do you have good friends?
Do you have a job?
Do have hobbies, fun, interesting activities?

You have the opportunty to get an education which is more than many, many people have in this world. And I wouldn't cry over A's and B's - some people are hard-pressed to make C's.

When you start to feel grateful for the things that go "right", you will notice that more and more things "go right".

Answer 4

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Answer 5

WOW...... People tell me to chill out !!

HECS is good enough for everyone else. Why not use a system like that? As for your boyfriend, well I am really sorry, maybe you should get some help, to deal with his death.... I really think you may be rushing yourself. Take some time with school, deal with yourself, then consider your circumstances.

School will still be there if you defer. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Try to remeber that everything happens for a reason. You have to draw strength from the situations and build . You still have a life to live. I know you have family & friends that look up to you...Show everyone you can handle the pressures of life..REMEBER" IT DOES NOT RAIN EVERYDAY" You will get through it. The fact that you are able to share this shows strength already.!!!!!

Answer 7

That's life, full of up's and down's. Don't focus to much on things that will make you happy, the more you become upset. Look for the things you have and cherish it. List their values so you can assess that you are rich in valuable things. we are the one responsible for our sadness because God perfectfully created this world for us. Be happy because still you can see the beauty of the world, still you feel sad, still you can able to work, still you can serve God. Serve God, there you will find happiness.

Answer 8

Remember that with your.. so many misfortunes...you are
going into a dark tunnel, just keep on going through until you reach the end of that tunnel where you see a guiding light
that guides you to a better tomorrow.

Answer 9

Damn girl if you did `t have bad luck you wouldn`t have no luck at all. All i can say is maybe it will get better. So good luck to you.

Answer 10

Keep in mind some people have got it much worse..