my ex.so we broke up about 2 months ago after 3 years.so me and my friend were suppose to go out the other night but she did not answer 4ever.she left me hanging so i waited 4ever and then i saw her getting off his truck..so i said wats going on and why she ditched me.. she said that they are just friends and have been talking lately and that they had just gone to the casinos.. they never "hung out" before that i know of..well i was mad..not b/c i want to be with him cuz i dont and he can date whoever he wants..and she can 2 date whoever BUT as a "friend" she should have told me..whether or not they are just friends or dating.. but she does have a boyfriend so i just dont like the fact that she kept that from me.she said that she did not tell me b/c it would have been weird for me..and the thing is that she has done this b4 with sum guy i dated for a little bit.i dont think i will talk to her again.its just sad that she perferred to ruin our long term friendship over sum guy.comments?
2007-09-16 19:53:51 · 15 answers · asked by lore 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
in my opinion, she is no "friend" if she's being shady like that, going behind your back with your ex. it would be better if she were being upfront with you instead of ditching you. so i wouldn't consider her a friend in the first place. obviously your friendship doesn't mean as much to her since she'd rather hook up with guys you used to be with.
2007-09-16 19:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Funny- why do you see this as a betrayal by her? It's messed up that she ditched you but seriously why do you care about the ex thing? Here's an example. You eat a banana and toss the peel into the trash. If your friend digs the peel out and eats it do you say, " You *****! I cant believe you betrayed me like that!" or do you laugh your @ss off? So why are you mad about this? She's in your trash and it should be funny.
So many people get mad about stuff like that- men too and I just don't understand why. If some chump wants to eat my trash let him- hell I'll even take pictures of it so I can laugh at it anytime I want.
2007-09-17 03:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by Mr B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Shes sleeping with your ex, they will say were just friends and blah blah but ive been there and they aint just friends trust me. Even if you two have broken up she is supposed to be a friend and the number one rule for friendship is you dont date you friends ex! If they talk to you about it and ask how you feel about it then yes thats acceptable. Even though you two are broken up you were together for a very long time and i can guarentee you proberly still have feelings for him which makes it harder for you to see him with someone else! I have been with my partner for 3 years and if we ever broke up i dont think i would be able to handle seeing him with anyone else even though we would be separated.
I would ditch the B****. She clearly isnt your friend if she would rather hang out with your ex! She is just going to keep lying to you and to her partner!
2007-09-17 03:08:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know the feeling. i was dating a girl for a few months, we broke up and 2 weeks later this other guy shows and up and starts hanging out with her. i never drew the line on our friendship, but i should have asked him how he felt. we are no longer friends, because he did end up lying to me about his feelings.
so the time to draw the line between you and her is if there is a relationship going on. i wouldn't necessarily get on her case, or stalk her. but if it just so happens they begin dating, get away from her, she broke friend rule #1.
2007-09-17 03:08:25 · answer #4 · answered by Nick V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She aint worth it - if she was a real friend then she would have said something to u and shoudlnt have gone behind ur back even if they are just friends...
Just ignore her and let her go and do what she wants - it will backfire on her ....
U deserve real friends who respect u.. : )
2007-09-17 03:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She ditched you for time with him. I wouldn't consider that a friend anyway!!! What kind of "friend" ditches you for your ex boyfriend, and does it behind your back too? None!!!! You haven't lost a friend, because she was not a true friend to begin with!!
2007-09-17 03:05:05 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are justified in feeling angry at your friend. As your friend, she should have been honest with you. She probably doesn't understand that you are angry that she left you hanging, not because she is seeing your ex. She's going to regret it later on, though.
2007-09-17 03:05:44 · answer #7 · answered by lordmisrule2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever her motivation is at least you know the kind of person she is. if you do decide to never talk to her again or if in a few months you 2 are best friends at least you know. just remeber to forgive but never forget.
2007-09-17 03:01:37 · answer #8 · answered by bob s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this person is deffinately not your friend! forget about her and go with your friends that you know are deffinately loyal to you. they're the people you really want as your friends anywayz. friends should be someone you can share everything with, not rui your relationship!
xxx
2007-09-17 03:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by Lauren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.. what a *****. I would be pissed... sorry for sayin that, she shouldn't betrayed you, so.. she's aint ur friend. dump her n u have another friends to hang out w. Liar will be always a liar. right?
2007-09-17 02:59:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋