Hi all. so i found out im about 6 weeks pregnant. I am going to be having an abortion ( i just need to schedual it lol) I am just not sure if i should tell my ex (who would be the father). What do u think should i tell him or no????
Please dont tell me ur opinions on abortion!!! Just answer my question. Ive made up my mind. thankyou!!
2007-09-16 17:27:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Pretty strange you are laughing about it. Does it really matter what we think? You've made up your mind, so kill your baby and tell him, or not, who cares? lol.
2007-09-16 17:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by never_vote_democrat 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I am in the same exact situation. I am 6 weeks pregnant, and seriously considering abortion. I have three beautiful children of my own, and five that I adopted before a nasty divorce, so now I have 8 kids. Two of them are 1. I have been on birth control for a very long time, and after my divorce I saw no need to continue it. My ex came over one day, the divorce was over a year ago, and I did not miss sex, well one thing led to another, I took plan b to be sure that I would not become pregnant, and now I am 6 weeks along. I think that my insurance is going to help pay for the abortion, also I just need to schedule it. I am not telling my ex about the pregnancy at all. We are no longer together and he still does not have contact with the children that we do have. I think it depends on the relationship that you have with your ex. Good luck, and I hope that my situation helps some. Thanks for being bold enough to post on here, I feel better about what is going on in my life.
2007-09-20 17:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by journie_rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said not to say our opinions but for start why add LOL its not a joke getting preg or having abortion, and yes tell him he has a right, just htink to you re self, what if you do have abortion this time around and when you what to have kids one day you find out your unable to have them?! so think hard and dont mess your life up just because your too silly to let him know!
2007-09-17 00:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes.
I think this is an issue of both father and mother. Whether you're going to keep the baby or abort it, he has the right to know - and to negotiate with you if he wants to keep the baby.
I know that'd be hard on you - especially when he wants to have the baby - but you do need to talk to him.
2007-09-17 00:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by meetha 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that when you have sex with someone, you have to always remember that you could get pregnant and it's not only your baby. It's your body but not your baby alone. So yes you should tell him. It will probably break his heart that he has no choice whatsoever in this, but he has a right to know.
You're not asking for an opinion about abortion, but I will say that if he desperately wants this child, you should think about it. You had sex with him and you're not the only one who matters.
2007-09-17 00:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by paperpenandtea 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That is a hard question. I think that if I were in that situation I wouldn't tell him...that sounds really bad, but if he was my ex, and I had my mind made up about the abortion...then why tell him? If he doesn't even know you are pregnant, why burden him with the hard choice that you have already made, unless you want him to maybe talk you out of doing it?
2007-09-17 00:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by Andrea 5 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Morally, you have a right to tell him that your terminating your pregnancy especially if he knows your pregnant. If he does not know your pregnant, I still believe that he has a right to know but that is something you have to decide based on how you think he is going to react. If you feel he may react violently, you might not want to tell him until after the procedure has been completed. Others may disagree but I am sure most men would want to know that that occured.
2007-09-17 00:36:05 · answer #7 · answered by WENDY S 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Abortion is a choice, so I think it should be a choice by everyone involved. To me, that includes the father regardless of how you guys are feeling towards each other.
2007-09-17 00:32:45 · answer #8 · answered by leeannie 2 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I know I'll get thumbs down for this answer, but I say don't bother telling him unless you want him to subsidise any expenses incurred.
2007-09-17 01:49:12 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Sally Anne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do not tell him it is none of his business - it is your body - your decision and you do not need his approval to have an abortion - nor do you need the stress of dealing with him if he is against it.
Good luck - be strong
2007-09-17 00:40:10 · answer #10 · answered by Finchy 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋