How do i stop feeling so bitter?

Question

ok, I've been with my bf for almost 3 months, and it has been very hard on me, mainly from his ex gf been harrassing me.
It all started that i stayed over this place one night (he owns a house with the ex, i had never met her yet) and the ex came home, i was in the shower and she attacked me in the shower and told me to get outta her house, then she starts screaming at my bf, acting like they are still together and he's cheating on her with me (she's been sleeping with a teen for the past few months), i just leave and i send her a nasty email, she shows this email to all of my bf's family, they are so stupid they attack me too. i also got a death threat from the ex's brother (which i made a police report).
My bf and i have now been living together for 5 weeks but i still feel so resentful and bitter that i was put thru this drama in the first place, as i would never expect anyone to go thru this for me, i also feel used.

also they were together for 8 years, atm they are going thru lawyers for property seperation as she is still living in the house with her new bf and his kids and she has changed the locks, she's trying to steal the house coz she'll never be able to afford it on her own, she doesn't make much money

it's not my bf's brother that made the death threat, it was his ex's twin brother who did it

Answer 1

Are you bitter with your boyfriend. Sounds like he was put in a tough situation. He probably had no idea his ex would react the way she did. He was surprised too. On the other hand it wasn't wise to bring someone to the house which his ex was living and they are fighting for ownership of the home.

I am willing to bet, he figured since she had guys over that it would be ok if he had you over.

He is with you. So you have no reason to be bitter with him.
His family on the other hand should keep their opinions to themselves. what does your boyfriend say about his family and his brother? It sounds like a relationship boomed since the beginning. If you care about this guy, you will find a way to work it out. If not, then cut your losses and get out now.

Good Luck, faith

Answer 2

Going through something like that is certainly rough, and I applaude you for doing it, but here's the thing, although I agree that certain things could have been handled better, it's not really your bf's fault that his ex is a nutjob.
Being bitter is only giving her what she wants, you have to stop letting it bother you and enjoy your happiness, that's the only way you'll ever beat her.