( i am straight but i support gay and lesbian marriages . i do think that a lot of relationship dynamics are universal . However are there some that different do to gender roles )
as a straight male will i have insight into how lesbian relationships work ?
as a straight male can i understand the dynamics of a same gender relationship
as a straight male can i understand the challenges that lesbians face in relationships
as a straight male should i give advice on domestic violence to lesbians
as a straight male would i have a perspective to relate to why lesbians would resort to physical violence
as a straight male would i have any insight at all as to who started the conflict
2007-09-16 16:24:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
My questions were to illustrate a point .
I can give advice to anyone that violence is bad .
i can tell a guy not to hit a woman
i can tell a woman to go to the police if a man hit her
Certain things will always be universal .
I can also understand that while some men are @ssholes and deserve to be thrown in jail , there are women who start physical altercations knowing full well that a man being a man will get a bumb rap on defending himself ( a man even in defence should not hit a woman if at all possible .a man needs to be in a situation where he percives serious injury will occur to him such as losing an eye or him being stabbed or his arm being broken before he should hit back. A bloody lip dosent qualify a man to hit a woman .)
i do think straight women and men have some understanding of the dynamics of a relationship that is heterosexual in nature that a lesbian will not .
just as there are somethings i wont know about in a lesbian relationship
2007-09-16 16:53:13 · update #1
If advice is asked for :)
2007-09-16 22:21:20 · answer #1 · answered by Cath 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK So I see that you have many answers here I just thought i would put my 2 cents in here. I am a lesbian and I have many straight male and female friends. If I ask advice its because I want it. Just because i am with a woman does NOT mean I hate men. I have 3 boys. I was in a bad relationship with a man for 8 years. My sexuality doesn't change who I am and what I want out of life it Just means I am in love with a woman. I sleep with a woman but that doesn't change me as a human being. Domestic violence is wrong no matter who does the hitting! Tell them that. It doesn't matter why they resort to physical or emotional violence. What matters is that it needs to stop. You have perspective if you are their friend. You don't have to put your self in their shoes you have to think like a human! How hard is that? I know that for some people its hard to understand same sex relationships but its basically the same as what most people call a "normal relationship" They love each other, they take care of each other. I have only been with one woman and I love her. We have been together almost a year. The only thing different in our relationship from my past relationships is the sex is done differently. But the over all is the same.Love is Love. it doesn't matter with who as long as both partys involved are happy, with who they are and with how the world looks at them. I have lost many friends because I have supposedly changed. I didn't change as a person I changed who I was sleeping with. You just be the friend to her that you want her to be to you. Give her advice be her shoulder when she needs it. Be yourself don't be scared because you think shes different. Shes the same as anyone else in a bad relationship.
2007-09-17 12:07:15 · answer #2 · answered by tammynashton 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't you be able to offer advice to someone else? (this is what were all doing here right?) I don't care what kind of sexual relationship your in, violence is violence!! As people, we all deserve to be treated with kindness and love from our significant other!! (or anyone else for that matter) If you feel like what you have to say will help someone else than say it. They may or may not take your advice, but at least you know that you didn't just stand by and not try to help.
2007-09-16 23:37:34 · answer #3 · answered by Victoria G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if someone asked your advice on something as personal as a relationship, they must trust you and hold your opinion in high regard otherwise they wouldn't have come to you. As in any situation, be honest, be kind, and be sensitive to the other person's feelings and how they might receive your advice. I really don't think it has anything to do with gender or sexual orientation. It's more about people and emotions.
2007-09-16 23:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by angelac4531 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can offer your view. There may be elements of the relationship that you can't relate to, but essentially it is about two people in love.
Every relationship has unique elements that affect their interactions; single parents and step-families, highly religious couples, long-distance relationships. All these factors will affect the advice that would be relevant to them, but if they are open-minded and close friends of yours, then they would be able to discard the irrelevant information and use the important stuff.
2007-09-17 00:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by jess b 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not you have gay lesbian feminists trying to tell how marriage should operate and how men should act.
Take a little give a little.
2007-09-16 23:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah sure you can,if it is wise and thoughtful and sagelike.not the kind of advice perhaps a porn director would extoll.all human relations depend on the dynamics of domination and submission,even lesbians and so at least one partner will have acquired a quasi masculine identity emulating the trad aspects of a typical hetero relation
2007-09-17 17:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yo Louis
Only One word of advice here---- go very slowly in this matter !!
Ever heard the old addage -- Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned (??) ---- Try the fury of TWO women scorned !!
Deep and full of turmoil, bro !! Go slow, here !!
It is the best of chances in this matter that neither of them are going to give a damn about your opinion anyway --- you're "one of THEM" !! And, in that -- certainly --- without a single CLUE !!
2007-09-16 23:41:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
can u understand the challenges??? i don't think so. If men were more like lesbians, maybe more marriages would work. If men thought like women, maybe we women would be able to tolerate the differences in men.
2007-09-17 00:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by Dragonflygirl 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Rather a controversial question Louis.
Think you answered it yourself in your additional comments.
2007-09-17 01:13:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋