both parties are healthy and capable of doing the deed.
2007-09-16 16:15:47 · 21 answers · asked by saodaji 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What happens is, that sex is put last. It should not be last, never. It should be on your to do list, in fact it should be on your must do, let us figure how we can make it happen..You can't tell me that neither of you can fit in a time for no less than a week. I would say you both need some quiet talk time to figure out why it has been so long..Both of you really listen to what the other has to say. If this is a new behavior there is really something wrong...
2007-09-16 16:31:47 · answer #1 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married to a man for 27 years that did not like sex and I did not know it until after we were married. We went 5,6, even 9 months without sex but no I do not feel it is normal. If there is no physical or emotional impairment then six weeks is a long time to not engage in physical intimacy during marriage, unless both parties have agreed which by your question does not seem the case. You need to have a talk, possibly with a neutral party such as counselor or physician to help with the problem.. Make sure that you are doing your part to enhance the situation by not pressuring for sex but being supportive and caring, romantic without expectation and trying to do things to please her without expecting reciprocation. Let her know how important she is and not just an outlet for your needs. good luck
2007-09-16 16:29:29 · answer #2 · answered by virgokennewick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Define "normal".....what's "normal" for one marriage may not be "normal" for another. If the couple are going through some trying times, if they have been extremely busy, if they've had company staying with them, etc. it may be "normal". If they were newlyweds and couldn't get enough of each other but are now simply adjusting to "life", it could also be "normal". If there is something wrong with the relationship, there will be other indicators, maybe even more revealing than a lack of sex. However, it is definitely possible that lack of sex is one symptom of a marriage going sour.....usually infidelity or wounded spirits.
2007-09-16 16:27:57 · answer #3 · answered by transplanted_fireweed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are busy with work or have some stress factors maybe, but I still think sex is a way of de- stressing and maybe if you try to initiate it she should go with it.
Sex between 2 people is good, healthy.
Or if you both feel alright with going 6 weeks without, then it's good.
2007-09-16 16:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by Suzanne L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long the couple have been married. Sometimes the longer you are married the more you need to do to keep the spark in your sex life. It isn't uncommon for married couples to not have sex as often as when they were dating but six weeks is a long time.
2007-09-16 16:21:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Me and my hubby love sex, but we can go awhile, just because we'll be tired, or just not feel like it, etc. I know a lot of people say that once you get married your sex life goes downhill. But when you know you can do it whenever you want, it's easier to not get as excited about it like you used to. But if one of you has been wanting to for 6 months and the other has been putting it off, then that may cause problems. you may want to talk to your spouse about this and find out if there is a problem, and if there is, what needs to be done.
2007-09-16 16:22:32 · answer #6 · answered by #1 Buckeye Fan!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UM... That would be a NOoooooo!! I ca'nt image why this would be the case; unless there is potential infidelity involved; or, The woman has decided that she is the governor of the bedroom affairs; and that is just plain cold hearted and in considerate of the man. You got married so you can fully ENJOY EACH OTHER. Communication is always the best key. no communication; no whoopee.
2007-09-16 16:24:53 · answer #7 · answered by runner45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stress and long work days do that. It's perfectly normal. Plan a romantic date night. Dont be obvious. Take her on a picnic or a hike. Try doing something physical like a bike ride. Or get him and her messages. Be spontaneous.
2007-09-16 16:23:28 · answer #8 · answered by natasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it depends on the marriage. If the wife is pregnant, even if she's been cleared for sex by her doctor, she may not want to. Pregnancy can really lower someone's sex drive.
However, I think the one who is consisitantly refusing to have sex might want to see the doctor and see if there's a medical reason that their sex drive is so low.
2007-09-16 16:21:27 · answer #9 · answered by leaptad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes things happen and couples don't always make appointments with each other when otherwise, time simply does not permit.
If they are newlyweds, I would say it was a problem, but if not,I wouldn't be obsessing about the amount of time that has passed.
2007-09-16 16:20:46 · answer #10 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋