I AM NOT SAYING THERE IS ANYTHING WRONG WITH LESBIANS, ok?.There's this girl at my school who always hugged me even though I didn't know her.So one day I was wondering whether or not she was just going to come and hug me without my consent at any time, so when she came near me I pushed her away and she just laughed!
I thought it was kind of weird at first, but then I just tried to be friendly and hug her back.
Well, one day after school, (there were no teachers in the halls, remember that), I went back to upstairs to talk to her, and then she kissed another girl right in front of me!
And she was hugging me before and all these things and I,m afraid she might do that sort of lesbian thing to me!I have this feeling that even if I go to the counselor and tell her that I want her away from me, she'd still come after me and be weird because she's very persistant and won't go away! I don't want her start acting that way toward me because I don't believe in being lesbian! I like GUYS!SORRY
2007-09-16 15:39:24 · 14 answers · asked by Chronos 2 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Lesbian stalkers....those are the WORST! Just kidding. Tell her you don't appreciate her hugging you and that you would like her to stop. By pushing her away, she may think you're just playing with her. So, make it clear that you don't like it.
2007-09-16 15:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by WildOne 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'll take your question and flip it around:
If you did not know that this girl is gay, would her hugs make you question her motives?
And so what if she's into you? Be flattered, really. I know that every girl that has wanted me has made me feel extremely proud. I mean, hey, to be wanted by someone that can never have you... how is that NOT flattering?
Getting your feathers in a ruffle does not show respect for yourself or anyone else. Be firm - you're straight; you've no need to worry.
Look at it this way - what if a guy was doing the same thing and you had the same worries about him becoming a stalker? Handle this situation the same way that you'd handle it if it were a straight guy. That's the only way you can maintain YOUR self-respect.
2007-09-20 11:55:40 · answer #2 · answered by arows1faith 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She may have tapped into her gaydar as they call it and sensed that you could be a lesbian and you probably don't know it yourself. Telling a counselor on her is just plain mean. If you don't like that she hugs you without your consent, at least just tell her politely and just say that you'd rather be friends. Gay people are really nice and friendly.
2007-09-16 16:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not an issue of 'unwanted lesbian advances' but an issue of 'unwated sexual advances' in general.
You need to make it known to her that you don't want to be touched in that way. If she will not listen you you, explain to a teacher or counselor that you have a problem with these sexual advances, and have the teacher/counselor handle it.
There is nothing wrong with saying NO. There is no reason why you should believe that a girl's behavior, when uncomfortable, is more acceptable than a guy's behavior in the same situation.
2007-09-16 15:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by knightofsappho 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
So it sounds like this girl flirts with guys for fun and does it at your expense. Now back to your question if you should stay away from her, because she might mess with you again. If you think she might make you embarrassed again I wouldn't recommend talking to her all that much unless you feel like you can trust her.
2016-05-21 06:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may totally ignore her or choose to be her friend and thats it. Lesbians or gays need friends too and not necessarily want to have an intimate relationship with you. This is your choice to make. At the same time always remember to be open about your choice of gender for a-more-than-friends situation. If you choose to ignore her, stay away from her sight for good.. Most of all be on good terms with those around you.
2007-09-16 15:57:45 · answer #6 · answered by 102845 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever though she is just playing with you becuase you don't belive in being a lesbian. Maybe she knows that it gets on your nerves that is why does it. Think you just need to she your friend as she is, just a friend. I am an out lesbian and I have straight friends at first they thought the same thing until I said don't flatter yourself I am not attracted to you.
2007-09-16 16:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh to be young and stupid again. Listen, if there was this ugly boy who you hugged but didn't like would you think he was going to stalk you? Would you go to the councilor? No. You would just say " hey we are friends but I don't like you like that OK." Not much of a drama, huh? See the girl she kissed probably wanted it. Its not like she forced her into kissing her. Be tolerant of the person. Just be firm about how you feel about it. Really, no one knows what you think or feel until you tell them. And you will have to use that your whole life or you will have a very uncomfortable life. Create boundaries now.
2007-09-16 15:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by tonydacarny 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Just honestly tell her that your straight, and have no interest in her at all.... just friends. Tell her to stop what shes doin to you.... Make it clear.... nicely. You dont have to push her away anyway lol
2007-09-16 16:59:35 · answer #9 · answered by OneWingedAngel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honestly it sounds like you arent very secure with your own sexuality or you wouldnt have made it a point to emphasize the fact that you like guys maybe you do like this girl and you are worried to admit to yourself or others you may have bi tendencies
2007-09-16 16:46:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋