Why do people call me shy?

Question

Normally, people say things that are very obvious and basically known to everyone. I refrain from saying those things and only say things that I need, compliment people, and ask people about themselves....that's about it. I don't see any other reason to talk. People still call me shy....

I also prefer remaining mostly silent because when I do speak, people will actually listen and know it is something important, but if I was obnoxiously talkative people wouldn't know what part of what I'm saying they should actually pay attention to.

Also I'm in braces, and it gives me a somewhat slurred speech, so I talk slowly to be more articulate.

...Am I wrong?

Answer 1

they think your retarded.

Answer 2

I have always been called shy. I only speak when it's necessary or when I'm engaged in a conversation. If I have nothing to talk about or I simply don't relate with another person, it doesn't mean I am shy, it just means I have nothing to talk about. Maybe when you get rid of the braces you will feel a little more confident when speaking. People are always gowing and changing, I know I am a lot different than I was just 5 years ago, you may not be exactly the same person a few years from now or maybe not. Just be who you are and just see what happens. Other opinions about you shouldn't matter, your opinion is the only one that really matters. BE YOURSELF AND GOOD LUCK.

Answer 3

I wouldn't say you're SHY, in fact I used to be exactly like you and people called me shy too. But you're not outgoing either. People who are outgoing will say what's on their mind all the time, take for example my best friend. She's the most outgoing person I have ever met. If I point someone out to her and tell her who they are (even if they have no clue who she is) she will just march right up to them and say hi and start a conversation like she's known them all along! People who are shy are for some reason afraid to speak to other people. You aren't AFRAID to speak to other people as you already stated, you just realize that you don't need to say everything that's on your mind all the time, just the important things. I know some kids in my school who are so shy that when someone talks to them they'll respond in as short a response as humanly possible, and sometimes just nod their heads and not respond at all. Now THAT is being shy. In fact, I'm pretty sure they are socially challenged... You are normal. You're not shy, you're not outgoing, you're just YOU. And most smart people are a lot like you, I can tell you're smart just by the way you typed this question, how you didn't misspell anything and your grammar is good and everything. When people get to know the real you deep down inside, they won't think you're shy. You're going to achieve a lot in life, just focus on your work and not whether or not people think you're talkative or not.

Answer 4

Your frustration is understandable. People form their opinions about you without a whole lot of input from you. It can make it easy to jump to a wrong conclusion.

There is nothing wrong with being shy, so don't be offended by this label.

Your question though, is why do people call you shy. You know why they call you shy. You told us. You don't talk that much. (This is neither good nor bad, it just is.) I am guessing you are not that outgoing in other ways. But maybe I am wrong. Do you volunteer for things? Do you organize events? Do you prefer to hang out with friends, or be by yourself? There is more to being shy then being quite.

So people call you shy because you don't talk much. (It may be unfair, but it is the way things are.) They may also think you are shy if you are not particularly outgoing.

The real question, is Why does this bother you? What is it about being shy, or being perceived to be shy that offends you?

Answer 5

I think that if you where shy you would be somewhat afraid to speak up at all and would dislike talking to people afraid you where going to say something wrong.

honestly it's probably just your personality, you just seem to come off shy to some people. People will still listen to you even if you talk more than you do know. speak up more often and people wont make this assumption. Im like this too sometimes but i talk quite alot to my friends and not so much to people i don't know as well. thats natural i would think.
well hope this helped.
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Answer 6

Well... you knid of are shy, do you have lots of friends:

Yes:there isn't a problem, don't feel bad to talk a little more or let loose with your friends

No:umm... girl, you need friends, there someone or something to lean on during hard times like these, someone to ask questions to, talk a little more, don't be so... quiet...
friends are always here to help, but when you have no one to catch you when you fall, you have a problem, find people that are into things your into, people will know when to listen, your aloud to be sarcastic and have fun sometimes, just my opinion

Answer 7

Talking is how you get to know people and build relationships. Don't worry what you sound like and you should n't stop talking just because you think there is a possibility that someone may not listen. But i don't think people should call you shy, there is a difference between being quiet and being shy.

Answer 8

Don't worry about it--I'm the exact same way. People either think I'm stuck up or cold- I'm a really friendly person but I'm just not a big talker and prefer to listen or only talk when it's necessary- I'm not really good at small talk.

Answer 9

People seem shy who are usually non-communicative. They have no conversation starters and are usually followers and good listeners though! I don't think the braces are much of a hindrance to you. You notice them because you wear them. I also wore braces. Good choice!! Also smiles are good and draw people near.

Answer 10

I think that people call you shy because, in the continuum of very quiet to very talkative, you are closer to very quiet. These people who call you shy may not be taking the quality of your comments into consideration.

Answer 11

Wow, another person who is like me. I too don't see a reason to talk that much unless it's important. People call me shy too, it's so annoying!