What do I do with a friend who makes fun of others?

Question

One of my good guy friends loves to make "fag" jokes. He can call anyone a fag or lez but whenever someone calls him that (fag) he always says "shutup stop calling me that!" (at least he knows how the others feel) but he still does it, especially about our Spanish AP teacher.
I'm more accepting of gay people than he is, since one of my good friends came out to me as a lesbian (see the question in my profile). I don't even know if he means it or not when he calls someone a fag because he can be contradicting at times which pisses me off. It's as if everyone else is a fag but himself.
He bases it mostly on stereotypes and so if someone said he was a "fag" for taking 45+ min showers, he'd go "I don't take 45 min showers dumbass" but he is always saying "girls should do this, guys should do that and so forth." He also said people who take orchestra are fags which pissed me off. He's one of my good buddies but how can I tell him to STFU w/out him being bitchy about it.

About the closet rumor, I am sort of suspicious about him. He says he likes white girls but he doesn't have a girlfriend or went out with anyone. But I think he's a straight guy (he brags about his "muscles" alot) that needs to grow up eh?

Answer 1

Sometimes it takes an extreme to get someone to take a hint. Stop talking to him for a few days until he apologizes. There's no reason to be nasty, just explain to him that you are very offended by his jokes.

Answer 2

Sounds like a closet case. More often than not, people who are homophobic usually have something to hide themselves. I would just pass hints that you don't hold the same sense of humor as him and that you are supportive of homosexuals. Maybe he will get the hint and will feel comfortable enough to come out. By the way what makes you think gay men don't talk about their muscles?

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Tell him to find a therapist to work out his anger/homosexuality issues and find a new "good buddy." This guy is trouble and one of these days he's going to call the wrong person the wrong thing and find himself on the wrong end of a baseball bat. Best that you not be there.

Answer 5

This one really sounds like the "if everyone else is noticing the other fag, then no one will notice that I'm one, too" syndrome.

Deflection is an effective tool to avoid dealing with unpleasant thoughts at the forefront of one's mind.

'nuff sed?

Answer 6

He needs to grow up. You can't make him grow up, so you need to decide whether his bad manners reflect badly on you (and they do). Quit hanging out with him, and when he asks why, tell him the truth - that his constant trash talking is annoying and you don't want people to think you are that way, too (because they will).

Answer 7

just dont laugh when he does that,or change the topic. this way after sometime he'll get the point and stop doing it in front of u, coz when he'll see he doesn't have audiance he'll stop.
the otherway is to confront him and tell him clearly, but its gonna be complicated so i would go with the first option!

Answer 8

Tell him if he keeps it up he'll start having rumors spread about him being a closet case.

Answer 9

maybe you should back up the gay community a bit more. tell him you have a lot of gay friends and that isnt right for him to dis your friends,

Answer 10

That maybe the only way he makes himself feel good.