I have a b/f of 2months (we have a very bumpy/friends with benefits/lots of fights/past...though I've known this guy for over a year/he never wanted a relationship with me before). So almost 2months ago he suddenly asked me to be his g/f and then about a week later told me he loves me. Though he can't really tell me why, he continues to tell me he loves me to my face and in texts. I ask him why he loves me, and he says that because I am responsible and he wants to see what he can become with me. (he says I make him a better person) Anyway, a few days after those 3words, he asked me to move in with him. His brother is getting an apartment and he wants me to share the extra bedroom with him. Ever since he has asked, he has been literally begging me to make the decision and live with him. It doesn't feel right at all. I don't even think this guy cares about me. We don't go on dates and I can't even rely on him giving me a call when he says he will, yet he's begging me to take the plunge
2007-09-16 13:47:31 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
and get all serious with him. I don't really want to shack up in a room with him. We don't even have a solid relationship, with our very rocky past! I do not trust this guy at all! Please help, what do you think his motives are? Is it just to make things cheaper for him? Is it so he can have more control over me? I don't understand why he's suddenly acting like this and pushing/pressuring me to live in a room with him. If he really wants to live with me, I mentioned him moving in with me instead, it would be a little more expensive, but we'd still be living together, he's totally against that. HELP! I'm so confused.
2007-09-16 13:48:11 · update #1
If it doesn't feel right then it probably isn't right. He might be looking to cut expenses, like you suggested, or there might be some other reason that we can't even begin to guess -- maybe he thinks having you living with him will make his brother treat him better. Anything is possible.
Tell him that if you guys are happily together after 6 months then you'd be willing to even give living together some serious thought -- that will buy you another 4 months. Although it's not a bad idea to ask him how he expects you to be able to break your lease -- he might just not be thinking things through very thoroughly.
Good luck!
2007-09-16 14:00:37 · answer #1 · answered by interior designer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it didn't feel right. Trust you feelings don't move in with him. Maybe he wants you to move in because you work steady or make good money or he knows you'll pay the rent if he doesn't. Maybe he wants a maid or a cook ? Sounds like a con job to me. Trust your gut.
2007-09-16 21:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by SandyO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer. Follow your instincts.
2007-09-16 20:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by Gem 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋