how to stop WORRYING?? please help!?

Question

I've always been a worrier. In my last relationship tho, it got out of hand. At first, was fine. But then he began to not treat me well. He was manipulative and neglectful. Talked down to me a lot, and would do things that would upset me-- and then yell at me, say i was "crazy" if i told him how i felt.

It got to the point that I had trouble sleeping, had a horrible self esteem. I would go through my head over and over what was wrong with me for him to treat me the way he did. I was actually on medication for this for a bit.

I'm out of the relationship now and i feel BETTER. i have not felt stressed or anxious since we last spoke 3 months ago.

i'm happy with my progress but i don't want to ever feel that way again. i didnt see it before, but i think the relationship was a trigger to my anxiety. how do i prevent this from happening in future relationships?

Answer 1

That relationship got out of hand because you allowed it to get out of hand, never put yourself in a position where you are mistreated. Never tell any future possible how this jerk treated you or they will never respect you. Also you say you are a worrier, I think that if someone I was dating was constantly worrying over everything or over small things all the time that meant nothing that I would get upset may yell once but then I would move on. Life is to short to worry about everything, everything has an answer and in there own time will be answered. Live your life not your worries, don't think about having fun go and have fun. There are always problems but there is always a solution. Take care of what you can now and the rest when you have the opportunity. Good luck…

Answer 2

Take your relationships slow and let them develop over time. Forgive me, but these days, even in my time, people were quick to go from the first date to talking about living together. Building a relationship means getting to know someone well over time. It does not mean having sex. Having sex adds anxiety to a relationship. You should get to know someone and he should get to know you. There's truth to the saying that if he really loves you or cares about you, he would be willing to wait. Otherwise you are a car he takes out for a test drive. When he doesn't like the care anymore, he gets a new one. That could be the reason you get feelings of anxiety. Even if it is not, be honest with him about your anxious feelings and maybe it can be worked out. I don't think you've had a good enough relationship with someone such that you felt comfortable talking to them about important things like this. All the best and good luck!

Answer 3

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