I have a b/f of 2months (we have a very bumpy/friends with benefits/lots of fights/past...though I've known this guy for over a year/he never wanted a relationship with me before). So almost 2months ago he suddenly asked me to be his g/f and then about a week later told me he loves me. Though he can't really tell me why, he continues to tell me he loves me to my face and in texts. I ask him why he loves me, and he says that because I am responsible and he wants to see what he can become with me. (he says I make him a better person) Anyway, a few days after those 3words, he asked me to move in with him. His brother is getting an apartment and he wants me to share the extra bedroom with him. Ever since he has asked, he has been literally begging me to make the decision and live with him. It doesn't feel right at all. I don't even think this guy cares about me. We don't go on dates and I can't even rely on him giving me a call when he says he will, yet he's begging me to take the plunge
2007-09-16 13:33:10 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and get all serious with him. I don't really want to shack up in a room with him. We don't even have a solid relationship, with our very rocky past! I do not trust this guy at all! Please help, what do you think his motives are? Is it just to make things cheaper for him? Is it so he can have more control over me? I don't understand why he's suddenly acting like this and pushing/pressuring me to live in a room with him. If he really wants to live with me, I mentioned him moving in with me instead, it would be a little more expensive, but we'd still be living together, he's totally against that. HELP! I'm so confused.
2007-09-16 13:35:50 · update #1
You already know his motives... He's telling you you're responsible because, oh yeah, you are.... he needs a responsible person to help with the new place financially and thats about it. theres no other reason plain and simple. This guy is a creep and you should really ask yourself why you have him as a friend when he obviously is'nt yours. He's desperate to find someone to seal the apartment deal and if there is a lease to sign, you'd be pretty, uh, silly to do it cuz when he cant put up his part guess who will be stuck out......
2007-09-16 13:48:31 · answer #1 · answered by Hannibooboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't ready or comfortable with this guy, do NOT move in with him. If you can't trust him, why are you even with him? This is not a good relationship for you to be in. Trust is the very base of a relationship and you don't have that, you don't have anything. It doesn't like he's the right person for you at all. Maybe you should end it altogether.
2007-09-16 20:48:01 · answer #2 · answered by IndiHippi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't have a relationship of any sort without trust, so it really doesn't matter what his motives are, you obviously don't trust the guy and obviously don't love him, so there's really no decision to be made here.
2007-09-17 03:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by JoesyGirl22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋