Most of us would say that honesty and trust are the keys to any successful relationship. Keeping secrets from our partners can lead to trouble, but some experts say it can also be the secret to our success.
So when it comes to relationships, it is OK to keep a couple of secrets?
2007-09-16 13:15:26 · 15 answers · asked by silvester 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Depending on the nature of the secret, its not only OK, but it is best to do so. If the ONLY result of telling the secret would be to hurt your partner, you shouldn't share.
For instance, you're at your office holiday party, drink too much, and find yourself in the middle of a passionate kiss with a coworker. You break off the kiss, you feel horrible about it. It's not something that ever happened before, and it's not something you intend to ever happen again. Telling your partner will only cause pain. If you are sincere in your intent to never do that again, keep that a secret.
2007-09-16 13:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Sooner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think honestly, it depends on the secret. If you have a secret fantasy, that's one thing. If you secretly slept with her sister, that's something completely different. Yes, I've heard that a tell-all can be hurtful to a relationship. I mean, you don't need to divulge that you really find her sister hot as hell, because it will only create weirdness and make her slightly jealous probably. But being open and honest about the big things is the right thing to do.
If you're feeling guilty like you have been keeping a big secret and are trying to make yourself feel better by asking yahoo answers is it's okay, I'd say you need to fess up.
2007-09-16 13:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by PetRescuer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its ok. It depends on what the secrets are.
My partner and i know that we keep a couple of secrets from each other but i trust him and he trusts me enough to know not to worry about what those secrets might be.
2007-09-16 13:19:41 · answer #3 · answered by satans_lollies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In deep, long-lasting and loving relationships people don't have secrets... it's just a fact. If you do, then the relationship isn't working because you no longer communicate on an intimate level.
If its a new relationship (a year or less) then its fine.
2007-09-16 13:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by violet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has their secrets. Its totally fine to keep some secrets, she'll have a few she wants kept to herself. As long as your honest and don't lie compusivly (or that secret is your cheating or slept with someone else) then keep as many as you feel the need to so long as they don't hurt you.
2007-09-16 13:21:23 · answer #5 · answered by To-Many-Questions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My idea of honesty is to have peace of mine, and do the best I can for a cause or reason. Then allow people to get to know me better that I am that kind of a person. It is hard, but it works in my advantage. I get help better than others if I am known to be a good person than others who are known to be bad. In my experience I do not want or allow people to hate me for the way I am because people who hate me will not help me if I need help. I tried the best I can to be good, so that when I am in a pitiful situation I can get help because it is difficult to pity someone when they're bad.
2007-09-16 13:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by Sofia Cruise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely as long as they won't effect the other person. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you have to spill your guts and mind out. Another key to a good relationship is personal space.
2007-09-16 13:18:32 · answer #7 · answered by Megegie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No honesty and trueness is the key to sucess and also always making sure you dont hurt your partners feelings
2007-09-16 14:18:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey
this all depends on what type of secret it is..it is also been said that there shouldnt be no secrets beetween you and your loved one...how would you feel if they kept something from you ...not much to say on this topic as i all depends on the secret
2007-09-16 13:19:59 · answer #9 · answered by zakhoonjee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the secrets don't affect the relationship then it doesnt matter e.g. your best frend has a crush on this girl at your school.
2007-09-16 13:18:27 · answer #10 · answered by Mary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋