Do you ever feel like it's hard to REALLY express yourself & be YOU because of fear of what others think?

Question

I can't do or say what I want without fear of people using things against me in real life or on Y!A.

Answer 1

Just let it out.
like going no# 2

Answer 2

I'm 23, and I'm going through that right now. I want to be more expressive with who I am, but I can't because I know that my family is judgmental and they talk a lot. I have family members that will try converting me into something I'm not, which disgusts me. It's also because of my environment. I live in a place where people will not understand where I'm coming from. Instead they just might choose to hurt me or humiliate me in public, which I'm sure is the fear some people carry around.

Not being who I'd like to be, doesn't make me any less of a human, and it doesn't make me a coward. It just means I have to find an environment where I can be 100% of who I am. The world we live in, is not a place you can be yourself completely. There are many who get physically, emotionally or verbally attacked just for being themselves. People may tell you to just shake it off and move on, but that's not as easy as it's made out to be.

I bet you're a wonderful person, so I'm gonna suggest finding your own comfort zone, where you can be you. Don't live in the world other people want you to live in. Live in the world where you are comfortable, where you can be yourself without anyone trying to hurt you or judge you in any way. It's a cruel world, but eventually people like you and I will succeed and find a real comfort place to call home.

Best of Luck!!! DJB

Answer 3

Personally I have the same problem and I'm a guy. For this question I can only give you my own experience to dwell on. See I have at some point put an emotional block on myself for all the wrong reasons and now I'm in college. I've seen girls that are smart, good looking, and very stable. The type of girl that can really help a guy when he's down but because of that emotional block I have never been able to just go with my feeling and do what I feel. I know for a fact that going with your gut and intuition is what makes life worth while but I would assume you have the same problem as I do due to some traumatic experience. So the best thing I can say is try to train yourself to not think about doing things and how they will affect you and learn to rely only on your feelings. This is in no way easy but constantly working at it just makes life easier. To keep you from deviating from your feelings always go by thisw quoute, "Being honest with oneself is worth the cost of change."

Answer 4

I'm rather uninhibited. I let the real me out. I don't try and hid it. I've already had prople think badly of me, at one time or another. I've like others, and sadly, despised others. If I was a turtle, my shell would be transparent. Except, for my you know what, engorged in two big turtle speedo's. That's a different deal. Life is too short. Unless, you're REALLY a turtle. Then puberty is at about 25. That's really pimples on their legs, that look like some kind of bumps. They smooth out at about 55. The slower they are, the younger they are. Back to the main subject. No fear of what you think about me, I might feel worse about you, or maybe, like you. Heck, just be yourself. Peace.

Answer 5

You look like you are only quite young. I up until this year (and i'm 21) was SO concerned with what people thought of me. I'd try and do things so that they didn't think badly of me.

Until something happened this year and I got thinking that - those people i'm worried about all have their faults.

As long as i'm living MY life the best way I know how to....then no one else can say i'm a bad person or use anything against me.

Seriously, people should have better things to do than worry about what you are doing. I know some people spend their lives talking about others and sticking their nose into other peoples business but you know what....Those people aren't worth you worrying abou them.........

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.”

Answer 6

OMG yes! I totally get you. It's easier to be myself on Y!A though because I don't have to handle face to face rejection. There's always those people that are gonna disagree with you or tell you what to do. I think the key is growing comfortable enough with who you are so that you don't care what they think anymore. I think most people eventually reach a point where they just don't care about the naysayers anymore. I know people use this stuff against you, but the best thing to do is ignore it. They have their opinions, we have ours. Everyone is unique in their own way and nobody should try to make them feel funny just because they are being themselves.

Answer 7

People who dont accept you because of what they know about you will never truly be your friend. To me one great friend compared to several aquintances is soooo much better. I have a friend that I finally broke down and told her everything. I was afraid of what might happen to our friendship after me telling her. But she said your past is what made you into the wonderful person I know today so I am grateful of all your prior choices you made good and bad. It felt grate to get everything off of my chest and I am now able to talk to someone about my issues with. Now I didnt go around telling everyone I know about my past but it really helped me when I did finally tell someone. We are just humans and carrying huge and small mistakes on our backs is a very hard thing for us to do alone. When I told her and saw how she reacted it made it a lot easier to talk about it with a few different people. When I started talking about it more and more it made me feel a lot better about myself that what I had done was not that horrbile that people make mistakes on freewill.

Answer 8

Yes I feel that way ALL the time. LIke I'll want to wear something I think is cute but others might talk about me saying I'm trying to act cool or somthing, and I'm a very emotional person and I cry when ppl talk bad about me.

Answer 9

fear of what others think used to dictate who I was. Not anymore. I had a very very low self-esteem. With time and working on understanding why I did the things I did, this "self-sabotaging" behavior has disappeared.

Answer 10

Yes I understand how you feel but sometimes I suffer the consequences just to keep the peace and sometimes if I feel it is really necessary I say what I have to say if I don't it feels like it's eating me up inside.

Answer 11

nope never, I am who I am and I act they way I feel, I say the what I feel, and if people don't like that then I don't have the time for them. I am a honest person but don't hurt peoples feelings. I have many friends so if someone don't like me I don't care. I refuse to be or act like something I am not just to fit in. I am an individual