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This has been bugging me lately. People normally tell me I have a good life but, obviously they don't seem to know me very well..

I'm 13, grew up with an abusive father. He left me, my mom, and 2 sisters last year on Oct.15. I'm glad he left but I can't help to feel somewhat depressed.

He ended up getting some other woman pregnant. (due in December).

I also got involved with drugs/alcahol last year but now i've decided to stop. I realize how stupid I was. So never again..

Over the summer I was saved by god, while visit My friends and Family in Texas. I really miss them all down there.

There's days where I feel sucidle or days where I hate myself. I wake up just about everyday wondering and asking myself why I'm still on this earth.

My question is, what is the point of life? I really don't want to hear things like "to live and die" or "to be happy" because to me, that won't happen. "at least not anytime soon"

Answer 1

I have been thru that... both of my parents were abusive and so was my step-dad. I thought it would never end... I cut, attempted suicide several times and had to go to the emergency room once...

I know it sounds cliched... but it DOES get better. There were times I would cry myself to sleep, not just because of the present, but because of the past too, and how if affected me. I learned to accept my past as a learning kind of thing, like my own little unwritten life lesson book. If I had not gone thru things, as horrible as they were, I know I wouldn't be the person I am today. I wonder sometimes why I am not out there in the world drugging up, drinking, and whoring around. I know a lot of people who grew up with the same kind of lifestyle as I did who are living like that now. I just thank God I am not. You need to keep on living, keep enduring, and never give up on yourself... you will learn from it and one of these days it will get better.

The point of life? I don't think anyone really knows. I can't answer that for you. Just live, ask God to show you: You will find your meaning and purpose eventually.

If you want to talk to someone send me an email on my profile on here. I would love to talk to you.

My MySpace is http://www.myspace.com/caitiebugsmom

Answer 2

You're obviously a strong girl=)
I am so happy that you have been saved by God.
Maybe go to church with some friends?
It will inspire you=)

On the days you feel suicidal, pray, and ask God to give you strength to make it through the day.
Taking your life will break the hearts of your mother, and sisters. You mean the world to them, and to your friends as well. If you do that to yourself, how will you ever know what wonderful things you could have done, or seen, or experienced?

There really isn't a "point" to life. You make it exactly what you want it to be. Live and enjoy as much as you can... I promise it will get better for you soon.
God has an amazing plan for you, and your life. Everything will fall into place, and you will know exactly why you have experienced the things you have experiennced.
I know it's hard to see now, but believe me, you hold so much potential, and could possibly save someone else's life one day using your past knowledge!
I know you may not know it, but you could be someone else's saving grace.

Hang in there, and stay safe!!
I'll keep you in my prayers

Answer 3

I actually understand what you are saying here. Ive been in the same boat. Back in 2000 my father left my mother after a 25 year marriage for another woman. I got really depressed after that as well. I was 24 at the time. I often thought about the same things that you are. i finally got over it and realized that it wasnt worth it. He did marry the other woman in which I did not even go to the wedding. I couldnt. Now they have been divorced for almost 2 years now. Heres the real kicker. I got married to a woman I thought was the greatest in 2004. Almost a year after my daughter was born. After being married for 3 1/2 years I learned that she was cheating on me with not 1 but 5 other men in the time that we were married. that hurt. i thought about suicide alot after that but the thing that didnt let me do it was my daughter. She is everything to me. In fact I have just won FULL custody of her from my ex-wife. There were times that it seemed that taking my life would be the easiest way out but Im glad I didnt. Now I have an absolutely wonderful girlfriend who means the world to me along with my daughter who is now 4 years old that treasures me more than anything in the world. So I guess the answer to your dilemna is, suicide is definitely not the answer to anything. Things do not get better overnight however they will, that I can promise you. Look at my situation for example. Im 31 now by the way. There is a plan for you out there, you just havent seen it yet. You actually answered a question of mine a while back and gave me hope and it worked out great. I just hope that in this long speech I just gave you that you can actually look forward to the future. If I can be of any further help just let me know.

Answer 4

I think you need to talk to someone outside your family. You're obviously in need of support and help and while you can lean on your religious beliefs, it sounds like you are new to the faith and may need some others to stand with you in support. Talk to a priest, a counselor, call a suicide hotline because it sounds like you're in a place where you need someone else to guide you back to the other side. Find someone you trust and if there is no one to talk about this with, call. I don't know the numbers for your local area, but look up suicide hotline or depending on where you are dial 211 and they will help you.

You are not alone in how you're feeling and I am glad to hear that you are not planning to die anytime soon, but you shouldn't have to feel that way alone either.

I know how you're feeling, I've felt that way before when I was a teen many years ago and you think you're alone in the world in feeling it. I too had a hard life, but know this, you are not alone and you can survive it and make your life better. Please find someone that you can talk to and get some help. Life has many purposes, but the only way you can find them is to go on living it.

Answer 5

Honey, at 13 almost everyone asks this question. It would help you to understand more if you would realize a few things first:
there are less people who come from good families than abused in a disfunctional family. VERY FEW people have had the chance to have a stable childhood. You need to look at your parents for how they were raised and realize the family chains can go back for generations, was your dad abused? Forgive them, they are doing what they can with what they have and love them where they are at, but know that you can be better than that and can rise above the abuse to have a wonderful life. In being abused, we seldom have the chance to find our dreams, but that doesnt mean you cant find them now. What you love to do. Also know this, when you get saved, dont think that the problems magically go away, they dont. You can learn to overcome all obstacles. Jesus said he would save you out of all your problems, but never said there wont be any...and without a dream and without knowledge, my people perish he says. Life is what you make it. You can choose to be where you are now, but you can also choose to change your life and make life a fantastic journey that doesnt end....a great website to teach you this is www.thesecret.tv it teaches you how to attract the things you want in life and get rid of what you dont want. YOU choose to be happy or sad, to accept joy or death. It is in your hands, no one elses. You have gifts to give this world and to recieve from this world that you will never get if you give up and quit. study the laws of attraction, laws of cause and effect, and find out how to make your life one full of romance, joy, happiness and prosperity....it is not only possible, but cannot stay away if you draw them. Dont give up yet..its about to get good....blessings

Answer 6

You know what...you are just like many of my friends. Strangely enough each of us have been through something in our lives. Personally it was abuse, depression, my dad left to the list goes on and on. But you're saved right? and you're asking what is your purpose in life? why are you still alive? well I will tell you you are alive to bring glory and honor to God. You were created in his image and you are to worship him. Yes you will have to go a test but it is only so you have a testimony. Understand me when I say that I have been were you were (well not excately because I don't know your excate situation but work with me) and I can say sometimes just waking up in the morning is a challenge. But I am thankful and greatful for each breath I take because I could be DEAD right now. And truthfully yes I want to die, I don't want to live because I don't want to deal with the pain but I would rather spend my time going through my test praising God and come out on the other side a better person. I can honestly say that it will be hard but if you pray (I know you might not be able to but if you just say HELP to Jesus that's a prayer) and trust in God you will make it through. You can do all things through him and he will never put more on you than you can bear. I suggest reading the 40th Psalms as well as the rest of the book. Be strong and know that he is God. You can email me at [e-mail] if you need to.

Answer 7

Life is a gift that not everyone gets & it is up to each one of us to determine individually the meaning and purpose of our lives & whether not only to contribute to finding our own inner peace & personal happiness, but how we may be able to contribute to another person or persons happiness.* If you want friends, you must first be a friend.* If you want Love, you must first love yourself before others will love you.* It is up to you to choose whatever path or journey you wish to take in life. It is your responsibility to choose wisely so as not to harm others or yourself along the way. Life is just once around the track.* Life is only three(3)* things #1 Learning. #2 Growing. #3 Experiencing.* Everything else that you do in life touches one or more of these three(3)* things.* Enjoy it because you only have one (1)* life to live.*

Answer 8

in my opinion the point of life can be: to love and obey your God, to love friends and family and to treat everyone with care and compassion. To put some good out in the world- even if you don't recieve any back.

and to you, you may have been through some things in your life that people should not have to go through- but at least you corrected yourself-at least your trying.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Your young, many have these feelings. They will go away. your best times are yet to come. Maybe you could get a hobby, or get into sports, or school activities, & make some quality friends, & they will help, & support you. Nothing is going to fall into your lap. You need to make a little effort too. Good luck to you.