I'm 15 right now, by the way. Ever since I was a little kid, my parents have always been strict with me about girls and relationships. Now I've been in a meaningful relationship for the past 2 months and homecoming is coming up in about 3 weeks. I was just wondering if there is anyone that could tell me how to present this to my parents. Anything I should say that'll make them see with me eye-to-eye. They've been really strict about girls ever since I was 7. No girls whatsoever, no talking to them, no playing around with them, I can't even go to birthday parties with girls and I am frustrated out of my mind to how to come out and tell them I have a girlfriend, I want them to be fine with me, and I want to go to homecoming with her. Also I hope I don't get beaten. Please help me out here guys, thanks.
2007-09-16 10:48:28 · 7 answers · asked by Spartan1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Also, my girlfriend's mom also agrees to talk to my parents about it. I'm not sure when would be the best time or how to get my parents and her parents together. I really think she's the love of my life (call me stupid, whatever) and I have no experience in this matter whatsoever. Thanks a lot guys.
2007-09-16 11:30:13 · update #1
Sadly your parents sound like idiots. I doubt you can really reason with them. If they are banning you from interaction with girls and beating you at the age of 15, they clearly lack the intelligence or common sense necessary to see eye to eye with them. So either you don't go, or you lie to them somehow.
2007-09-16 10:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you want an answer as to how to tell your parents, but I can't help you. I didn't want to tell my parents when I went to a dance with a guy - I usually claimed we were going as friends, or that we were going in a group and just kinda paired off. No good reason, I just didn't want to tell them.
Since your parents do try to shelter you, you might want to not tell them. I'd recommend claiming that you're going with a friend, or with friends, or something. Someone else would probably be more helpful, I never told my parents much in high school.
2007-09-16 17:57:24 · answer #2 · answered by Rosie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just get your parents together and say, "Mom, Dad our school is having a homecoming dance and I would like to go. There is a girl I would like to ask if I have your permission to go. The dance is chaperoned and if you let me go, could you take us and pick us up?" All they can say is no. You may also ask them to call the school to see if they can volunteer to chaperon. That way they would be there with you and can watch over you and this girl you like. I know this sounds awful but at least they may let you go to the dance and be with this girl.
2007-09-16 18:02:34 · answer #3 · answered by Connie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! This is really sad! You are scared that your parents will beat you over this? That's horrible and it's not normal either. Maybe you should talk to your school counselor about this, making sure that the counselor agrees that your conversation is confidential, and not be told to your parents.
It seems that your parents aren't ready to allow this, at least until you ask them when it would be o.k. for you to at least start talking to girls, which is clearly way overdue.
2007-09-16 17:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the idea that you go with a group and pair-off after arrival.
You need to find out what age they consider it acceptable to start dating. I think most start around age 16.
If it comes up again... and it will... you need to tell them that you need the social skills involved in going to a dance to eventually land yourself a wife... and they should be glad that you are a red-blooded male that is attracted to girls instead of to other guys. Do they want you to grow up and get out of the house or not?
2007-09-16 18:03:53 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea...this sucks. my mom is the same way. and im about to be 19 damnit! lol. but my parents r separated. my dad knows i have a bf .but my mom doesnt. i just tell her that im going out with a female friend or a group of friends..and i even go as far as to have a friend lie for me...u may have to do that for the next 3 yrs. sorry.
2007-09-16 18:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to tell one of your closet parent to you and than the parent will tell other parent .
2007-09-16 18:11:06 · answer #7 · answered by sim sim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋