I'm 40 ish and have recently accepted that I like being alone some of the time (with my dog mostly) and just walking in the country or chilling out but I don't need other people a lot of the time. Is this OK?
2007-09-16 10:18:09 · 12 answers · asked by helen p 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
maybe its an age thing. I'm in my 40's and I love time on my own. never used to, but I think as I've got older I've really started to look forward to a bit of solitude. Its my little bit of luxury
2007-09-16 13:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by JanJan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I don't see any reason not to enjoy your solitude.
I am not sure that this is an age issue. It may be more an indication of character or changes in your life at this time.
Even when I was young (teenager) I needed to be alone and think about my life.
Now I am in my 50's and I still need solitude. I think in my case, talking and listening to people makes me feel tired sometimes. I feel my energy is draining.
So when I am alone, I can think my own thoughts, read, listen to music, and play with my cat.
Although, now that I look at your question, I wonder if you are asking is it ok not to need other people rather than is it ok to enjoy solitude. The difference is subtle and I wonder if you are concerned that you are not so interested in connecting with people at this time in your life. Are you going through some big life change that makes you feel that you prefer being alone?
I suppose the main thing is to find a balance between needing to be alone and needing to connect (have relationships) with people.
2007-09-17 04:32:33 · answer #2 · answered by happy inside 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 50ish and I think times of solitude are absolutely crucial. I have to get away from the constant NOISE into a quiet place so that I can think and just enjoy the silence. People speak too much about things that are of little importance or interest, and this goes on now 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. One of the best times I had was in a cottage in Wales, remote, at the end of a long footpath, I stocked up, and hardly ventured out for a week. I'm looking at the moment for a retreat to go to over Christmas, where there will be NO TALKING, just time for meditation, thought, peace and quietness. I detest this busy, busy, busy age we live in.
2007-09-16 10:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its your age my love. I noticed as i got older that i had less need to be around others as i was 20 years ago. Its all about partying then and having a good time. The older we get the more pleasure we get from our own company and our own thoughts. Noise grates on our nerves more than it ever did. Other people become more distasteful than they ever were.
We just seem to find more things annoying and have much less patience than we once did. Being on your own at any age is beneficial. It helps to recharge those batteries and gives you the time to 're-claim' yourself.
2007-09-17 08:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
solitude is one of the greatest things i love the time by myself,listen to the music or just being quiet,more people would do better if they had a little solitude the world today is to busy.
2007-09-16 11:28:52 · answer #5 · answered by panthor001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is okay but most people come to that point in their life when they retire and have done a lot of noisy, bothersome, family- life, work- life things and want to get away.
I understand this need to escape totally and why wait to retire if you are comfortable having done enough and enjoy the peace, calm and tranquillity.
I escape too but mostly to places of the mind by watching t.v. shows, movies, reading, and Internet surfing etc.
Enjoy time to yourself life keeps us too busy.
2007-09-17 15:54:44 · answer #6 · answered by Vash 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is! Long periods of solitude will probably do your inner self good. Just don't become a recluse-that would be counterproductive, I think.
2007-09-16 10:23:13 · answer #7 · answered by sugarbabe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with feeling this way. I like to be alone too from time to time, & when my fiance goes out to run errands, I enjoy the "me" time & vice versa for him.
2007-09-16 10:35:44 · answer #8 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes because its your choice at the end of the day and if youre comfortable with it then thats fine
2007-09-17 00:23:04 · answer #9 · answered by magiclady2007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think plenty of many of us could use that kind of time
2007-09-16 10:29:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋