What can I do with my homosexual son ?

Question

He's 18 and the other day told me he had a boyfriend ! Couldn't believe it. When I was his age they were jailed.
I've told him that he either sorts himself out or packs his bags.
I just hope the neighbours don't find out.
He says he doesn't care because he can get a job as a chat show host on ITV.

Answer 1

hey Micky, when is your birthday? I'm going to buy you a great big wooden spoon LMFAO

Answer 2

A man I used to work with had a Son that was Gay and accepted him for what he was . He had his own thoughts on it and did not like the fact that his Son was Homosexual but that did not stop him from loving his Son, and sticking up for him if ever there was a Problem. He did not Judge him or give him a hard time. Of course we will never know the full Story of what happened when he found out his Son was Gay, it would have been hard for for him to Accept it at first. So it would have been a learning Curve for him. The first I knew of it was the Father Appeared on A Television Programme about this Subject of having a Homosexual Son and his Feelings about it,how he reacted when he was told by his Son that he was Gay. There is nothing you can do about it just accept it and do not abandon your Son, he cannot help it .

Answer 3

I think if he is homosexual you will have to except it.His only 18 so maybe his just exploring his sexuallity. I think you are being a bit harsh by saying sort yourself out or pack your bags. His your son, his not commited a murder,what the neighbours would say if they found out, well there get over it, they don't pay your bills do they.I think you need to sit down and talk, I know we all want the perfect family but life not like that. Thank god we don't lock people up because of there sexuallity,there would be lots of talent behind bars. I wish you well with your son, thats a lot worse things then being gay.

Answer 4

Meerkats'R'Us: ITV is a popular British television station.

I suspect this is a joke, but if you are serious... there's nothing you can do about it. He can't become straight any more than you can become gay. If you doubt me on this try becoming gay by concentrating really hard. It won't work.

If you're a good dad you'll find a way to accept or ignore it. If you're a berk who should never have been a father in the first place, you'll sling him out. Your call.

Answer 5

Lady or sir, in my humble opinion, you're looking at this ALL wrong. You need to love your son, because the bottom line is that he' your son as gay as he is.

I'm sure you don't wish death upon him, and look at it this way, if you shun him, what about the rest of society, the rest of the world? Who can he turn to, if not a parent?

I know it's not the "norm", and its a practice that I'm not in love with myself, but you can't chose for people. Let him know how his sexuality makes you feel, and talk about it openly. If the convo gets to heated, take a break and come back another day. That way, no one says anything they regret.

If both of you can't seem to get past that fact, you just accept the fact that there is nothing either one of you can do to affect the way the other feels. And again, the bottom line is LOVE.

Answer 6

It is quite natural to be gay. Just carry on as you have always done and give what support he needs. Lets hope the neighbours don't find out about your extraordinary attitude.
Actually this is probably a wind up nobody in this day and age can be a stupid as you are pretending to be

Answer 7

LOVE HIM!
UNCONDITIONALLY!

Thats what you do with your littlens...its called being a parent!

Why would you tell him who he should fall in love with? I think you're wrong for throwing him out too. Unfortunately people cannot help how they turn out in regards to this its something to do with 'genes' and theyre from YOU! His parents! So blame yaself for it

He is obviously grossly unhappy at your reaction. You dont say how 'Mum' reacted. I hope she took the news a bit better than you did.

You WILL come round one day, and you WILL find it in your heart to forgive him and move on. I just hope this hasnt ruined any chance you might have had in the future to 'make things up with him'
Whether he stays or goes, please reconcile with him before he does, because if anything happens to him when he leaves, and you have had sore words before he left, you will be unable to forgive yourself. Because as every parent reading this will know, we dont fall out of love with our littlens because they look as though they are moving along a wrong path once in a while. We stick by them. Try to advise them. But when they make thier mistakes, as many times as we tell them we wont be there to pick up the pieces, we invariably always are. Regardless of the circumstances. Because thats what we all do best.
I have no doubt of your feelings just at the moment. But I also have no doubt either that your mind will change with time. You will accept what your child is.

And for gods sake... STUFF THE NEIGHBOURS!
Who the hell are they to judge? You OR your boy.

Answer 8

Very funny! You seem to have seriously offended some people with your Q!
If he becomes a chat show host then the neighbours will definatly find out.

Answer 9

If this is true & what you say is genuine then you cant do anything about it, just let him be, as long people dont do harm to others no matter what gender, race, religion, status they are.

I know its sad & though i am also not a big fan of homosexual people i tend to just let them be, we choose to feel the way we do, we choose to do the things we do so therefore i belive people choose to be homosexual, though some might not agree but this is my stance on this.

As regarding your son like i said let him be, if you really are that bothered then evict him from your house, see if he can stand on his two feet, but remember he is your son, talk to him, make him realise he is choose to be what he is, he doesnt have to be like that, explain to him its all tempations, tell him to be strong minded/hearted but still he feels like this then let him live his life & you live your life, nothing you can do or say so just enjoy your own life Uncle.

Answer 10

Maybe you should throw your wife out, and throw yourself out, too!

Homosexuality is either nature (genes), nurture (environment), or a combination of the two. So, one way or another, you & your wife are 100% responsible for the fact that your nipper is gay.

Here's an idea: why don't you just love him because he's your son?

And where exactly are you living that you could be jailed for being homosexual that recently? Texas?

Answer 11

Actually it was in England where a person could be jailed for homosexual acts. This was back in the 1940s I believe.

As far as you being able to do anything about it? You can't. It's not your issue, it's your son's.

If you have a big enough heart, you will still care for your son and love him as the child you remember him as.