How do you overcome being insecure? Insecure about relationships, your looks, and ability to achieve goals?

Answer 1

Gain self confidence.

Do something which you haven't done before which may be a little difficult. Stop and talk to a neighbor who you usually ignore, , change your hair style just a little, make a meal- something different, get out of bed 15 minutes earlier than you usually do.
Now, didn't that feel good??? Did you think it would be hard when you went to do it? But it wasn't so hard, was it?
OK! Now you're started.Get the idea. Concentrate on how good it will feel once you've done it, not how hard it will be to do it. This is self confidence.

Answer 2

How do you know that insecurity is such a bad thing? Is this not better than going off half-****** and arrogant in our thoughts and actions?
I know it isn't pleasant to be in self-doubt all the time (I'm no stranger to it, myself). About all I can further add is that society sort of forces on us the notion that we are so sophisticated as human beings that nothing is beyond us to think, say or do--who and what we are, in other words, is considered to be an open question.

But Society is 100% wrong about this. We are creatures of the earthly environment in which we are born and live. We have very basic motives, instincts and interests, principal of which, I believe, is reproduction (not merely "making babies", but bringing offspring to maturity so as to perpetuate the species). This is evident in all of our actions. When we are Happy (joyful, enthusiastic, bouncing-off-the-walls), we are in Mating mode (i.e., playing hard-to-get). When we are sad, we are interested in Bonding. When we are Indifferent (proud) we are in Nesting mode, and when we are angry, we can legitimately be said to be aimed at satisfying the instinct to "Breed", by which I mean to shape and mold those around us--ideally our own offspring.

My point is that we have all forgotten these basic realities and are encouraged instead to act and think of ourselves as though we have no connection to the ground beneath our feet, and if this emptiness doesn't generate truckloads of uncertainty in and about life, then I don't know what does.

Answer 3

To overcome these thoughts you need to completely change the way you think about yourself. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is supposed to be a great way of achieving this.

Personally though, i try and chat to as many other girls as possible about the things that worry them, body issues, relationships and then it makes me feel like my issues are so silly and that I am not the only person like that.

Answer 4

I think this is something that comes with life experiences. In time, a lot of things you thought were such a big deal are no longer important. You settle down and feel so much less stressed. I think young people generally are going to go through this as they experience life.

Answer 5

1. Life's too short to worry about insignificant cr++p. Just live it!
2. Worry isn't getting it done.
3. Life is to entertain yourself. If other people don't get it, tough.

Answer 6

If you figure it out let me know, PLZ I need the answer to that question to, insecurity is ruining my life!

Answer 7

Love yourself, quit comparing your insides to others outside, i.e., how you feel/look to how you think others feels/look. Insecurity is really, you thinking to much of yourself.

Answer 8

You can not change peoples opinion, you can change your own. Only you have to feel good about you. Others have their own issues you may never see but they have them. Be happy with yourself. It's what really matters.

Answer 9

Having faith in God

Answer 10

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