me and my bf split up last wednesday the day after he told me he loved me and we did stuff together (u can guess) but we didnt have sex, anyway we did this after a week of being 2gether why did he dump me? was i used? he said he didnt want to wreck our friendship but he hasnt spoken to me since! i feel so sad :( please help we are both 15
2007-09-16 07:09:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
First thing, don't feel disgusted with yourself. You might not like the fact that you let this "stuff" happen not knowing how many days later he doesn't call or talk to you. It's a shame this guy did that, but sweetie, going out for 1 week? I am sure that won't happen again, because now that this has happened, you won't be so eager to do "stuff" next time. And remember, there are more guys out there - Nice Guys!
2007-09-19 16:23:47 · answer #1 · answered by eZonis34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess this is just a learning experience for you. If you're 15 and already doing these types of things with a boy(after only a week, no less), then what will it progress to when you're 16? 17? 18? Each time you share an intimate moment with somebody, you give a little piece of yourself away, and I think that's the disgusted feeling that you have. You feel jipped, because your intentions were obviously different than his. The only way to make sure that you and he have the same intentions is to wait until marriage. I know that's a tall order, but if someone loves you enough to marry you, then they definitely won't take off on you after you've shared something so special and personal. It's hard to make good choices when it comes to that, because it's all so exciting and new, and everyone wants to be liked. But, use this experience as a learning tool. Next time hold out a little longer, get to know the guy better before you jump into something so serious. You're still young, too....guys mature slower than girls so maybe he's wiggin out just as much as you are!
2007-09-16 14:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by Teachme123 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some guys will tell you anything to get you to do stuff with them. He may have used you. You should not "do stuff" with a boy after a week together.Not wanting to ruin your friendship is an excuse or he should have told you that before you did stuff with him. Do not feel discusted with yourself. He is the one with the problem. Do not bother with him.
2007-09-16 14:21:20 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he was only with you a week, right? You're still very young and guys can be jerks. You have plenty of time to find a guy who with respect you and not treat you like dirt. Don't stress over it too much. Okay?
2007-09-16 14:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by ren 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, 15 is way too young. You need to talk to him about it, and let him know how you feel.
2007-09-17 02:12:06 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, btu I think he used you. one week of being together? Unless it was love at first sight I don't think he loved you, it takes a few months to know if you love someone, unless it's a special situation..sorry!
2007-09-16 14:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Being sad it's part of life!
2007-09-16 14:40:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its because you wouldn't go "all the way" but yea i think you were used. i had boyfriends like that there guys you wana stay away from
2007-09-16 14:43:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cuz the little creep got what he wanted.
2007-09-16 22:03:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might of used u or maybe he didnt want to do "stuff" anymore but was to embarssed to tell you
2007-09-16 14:23:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋